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TEDxLeamingtonSpa et provient de [vid_author_name]. La description qui suit mérite également votre attention :« La dépendance sexuelle affecte les jeunes et les vieilles, riches et pauvres, les hommes et les femmes. Paula Hall partage ce que nous pouvons faire à ce sujet, même si nous n’en souffrons pas nous-mêmes. Paula Hall (UKCP REG, BACP ACC, COSRT ACC, ATSAC) travaille dans le domaine de la dépendance sexuelle depuis plus de 10 ans et est auteur de la compréhension et du traitement de la dépendance sexuelle (Routledge 2013). Addiction sexuelle – La perspective des partenaires (Routledge 2015). Elle a également été publiée dans un certain nombre de revues universitaires et dans la presse professionnelle. Paula a été membre fondateur d’ATSAC et a été présidente pendant trois ans et est actuellement au conseil d’administration de Sash. En plus de travailler avec des individus et des couples, elle a développé le cours de récupération Hall qui est disponible au Royaume-Uni et également sous licence au Danemark et en Hollande et fournit des programmes résidentiels pour les personnes atteintes de dépendance et de partenaires. Elle a parlé lors de conférences au Royaume-Uni, en Europe et aux États-Unis au nom de l’ESSM, UKCP, BACP, ATSAC, UKESAD et de la Conférence internationale de la toxicomanie sexuelle. Cette conférence a été donnée lors d’un événement TEDX en utilisant le format TED Conference mais organisée indépendamment par une communauté locale. En savoir plus sur http://ted.com/tedx (TagStotranslate) TEDX ».
Grâce à sa vaste audience, YouTube permet aux utilisateurs d’explorer une multitude de thématiques tout en garantissant un espace où le respect des autres et l’anonymat sont préservés. C’est une plateforme qui facilite la découverte et le partage de vidéos qui engagent des discussions ouvertes et constructives autour des idées personnelles.
Définir une stratégie adaptée afin d’entamer un sevrage durable
Mettre en place un espace qui favorise la régénération
Bloquer l’accès aux sites pornographiques grâce à des extensions de navigateur ou des applications de contrôle parental peut être un moyen de se protéger. D’autre part, privilégier des activités créatives et enrichissantes peut réduire les envies compulsives.
Prendre des résolutions spécifiques et atteignables
Le succès du sevrage passe par des objectifs clairs, par exemple réduire le temps passé devant des contenus pornographiques. Cette démarche doit également comprendre une réflexion sur les origines de la dépendance et les avantages durables de l’arrêt.
Mettre en place des solutions pour contrôler les tentations
L’apprentissage de la gestion des déclencheurs est primordial. Des approches comme la TCC, l’intégration d’habitudes positives et le recours à un soutien extérieur peuvent être très bénéfiques.
Renouveler son identité en se détachant de la pornographie
Cultiver des pratiques bénéfiques et respectueuses de soi
L’intégration de pratiques comme le yoga ou la méditation, qui favorisent la connexion corps-esprit, est bénéfique pour gérer les pulsions
Renforcer ses connexions humaines permet d’épanouir sa personnalité
Développer une connexion authentique avec un partenaire enrichit la vie sexuelle et remplace les fantasmes numériques
Adopter une approche éthique de la sexualité
Faire le choix d’une sexualité consciente et responsable favorise des relations saines et équilibrées Cesser la pornographie demande de la prise de conscience, des ressources appropriées et un soutien continu. Grâce à la compréhension des mécanismes de dépendance et à un plan méthodique, il est possible de se libérer et de profiter d’une sexualité plus équilibrée et respectueuse. Des approches comme la thérapie ou des groupes de soutien peuvent être très utiles (voir le lien sur le site très connu chasteté.fr).
Décoder les mécanismes de l’addiction au contenu pornographique
Identifier les schémas mentaux associés
Les stimuli sexuels liés à la pornographie activent les circuits de plaisir du cerveau, favorisant une dépendance alimentée par la dopamine et des pensées négatives récurrentes.
Observer les indices de dépendance
L’utilisation compulsive de pornographie, au cœur de l’addiction, affecte souvent la santé mentale et les relations interpersonnelles.
Comprendre comment la consommation de porno modifie le quotidien
L’addiction affecte les relations personnelles, réduit l’estime de soi et freine les interactions émotionnelles authentiques. Une consommation abusive de porno peut renforcer une dépendance émotionnelle axée sur ces supports
Consulter les ressources d’accompagnement disponibles
Se servir des applications et outils en ligne pour le suivi de son progrès
Des applications et des outils numériques permettent non seulement de suivre les progrès, mais aussi d’envoyer des rappels positifs et de renforcer les habitudes saines pour limiter l’exposition à la pornographie.
Se tourner vers des experts en santé mentale
Faire appel à un psychologue expert en dépendances comportementales, notamment dans la TCC, permet d’analyser les origines du problème et de recevoir un suivi spécialisé.
Participer à des rencontres de soutien collectif
Les groupes de soutien sont des espaces où chacun peut partager son expérience, recevoir des conseils pratiques et bénéficier du soutien des autres sur la voie du rétablissement.
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Retranscription des paroles de la vidéo: [Applause] thanks addiction is a growing problem in our society today a problem that affects Ordinary People and the biggest barrier to getting help is the secrecy and the shame that surrounds it my hope during this talk is to give you a bit more of an insight into the problem of sex addiction and also to encourage you to start talking about it so we can begin to break through that secrecy and shame I’d like to start by telling you a little bit about Mark Mark is 28 years old he’s a good-look guy he’s intelligent good sense of humor and a great group of friends but Mark is lonely desperately lonely Mark is a sex addict it started with porn in his teens as it does for so many but since then it’s escalated to visiting sex work workers and no one knows absolutely no one he dreams of having a normal life you know getting married kids the usual stuff but he doesn’t believe that anybody could love him indeed he doesn’t believe anybody would like him let alone love him if they knew about his secret life even if he beats his addiction and stops you can’t change the past so he’d always have to lie about himself he doesn’t believe that anyone could ever really understand and that’s why he feels so desperately alone and isolated sex addiction is controversial many people think it’s a myth others think that it’s just a joke some think it’s an excuse for low sexual moral behaviors perhaps used by people who don’t want to take responsibility for the people that they hurt some might think it’s a term that could describe anyone with a high sex drive or maybe someone with unusual sexual tastes what do you think about sex addiction perhaps you’ve never really thought about it before we often don’t consider our views on things until it actually affects us but maybe it does actually affect you a lot lot more than you know conservative estimates say that one in 20 people struggles with sex addiction so actually in this audience here today that means there’s about six or seven sex addict sex addiction is a real problem but professionals can’t agree if addiction is the right name for it or if it should be called an impulse control disorder or hypersexuality or sexual compulsivity and a whole host of other names and until we do get an accurate clinical diagnosis chances are that doubts and misunderstandings will continue but professionals do agree that more and more people are struggling with sexual behavor behaviors that feel out of their control for most that includes internet pornography but for some it’s also cyber sex visiting sex workers cruising multiple Affairs dating sites the type of behavior is not what defines it as an addiction but the dependency on it when we talk about alcohol addiction we don’t differentiate between those who drink whiskey or beer or te alcohol addiction is defined as a dependency on alcohol to make life feel more manageable and of course there are lots of people who can drink alcohol recreationally maybe even a little too much at times but they don’t become dependent on it you know you’re addicted to alcohol if it’s causing significant problems in your life but in spite of those problems you still can’t control your drinking or stop and the same is true for those who become dependent on internet pornography or any other kind of sexual behavior the reason that many people prefer the name addiction including myself is because that’s actually how people who struggle with this say that it feels it feels like an addiction there’s also a growing body of research that is showing that compulsive pornography use impacts the brain in a very similar way to chemical dependencies and like people dependent on alcohol and drugs many people with sex teach come from difficult backgrounds and they unconsciously use their behaviors to forget the pain of the past as well as numbing out difficult emotions in the present but that’s not true for all since the Advent of the internet and smartphones anyone can get hooked easy access and no education of risk means that more and more people are getting addicted without even knowing that it’s happening you you can’t drink alcohol for eight hours a night every night and not notice the physical consequences but you can view porn and you couldn’t you couldn’t go out and get high on drugs five times a week without those closest to you suspecting that something’s going on but you could probably go and visit a massage paror unlike any other addiction sex addiction often has no visible consequences until it’s too late pornography is of course a very real part of our world now search engines deal with about 68 million requests for porn every single day that’s about 25% of all Search terms and the porn industry is estimated to be worth a staggering 97 billion dollar there is certainly no shortage in demand and I’m not suggesting that we have to ban internet pool nor am I saying that we need to censor what consenting adults choose to do with their private lives but when you combine that easy access with no education of risk then you’re Paving the way for an epidemic did you know there 260,000 members of online support groups trying to give up porn because of the impact it’s having on their life all that 27,000 people Google sex addiction and porn addiction every day to be honest I don’t care what you call it whether it’s addiction compulsion or or whatever what I care about is Mark and people like him sex addiction is a real problem and it affects Ordinary People Mark is not a fictional character he’s not a madeup case study to try and illustrate a point he’s an ordinary guy who came to me for help obviously I’ve changed his name to protect his identity so if anyone out there has got a Frank called Mark who’s 28 years old I promise you I’m not talking about him but Mark’s story is real very real and unfortunately so is the story of Jim and Lucy Jim and Lucy have been happily married for 18 years they’ve got three children Jim is an accountant Luc is a teaching assistant an ordinary couple the kind of couple you’d be having for dinner tonight if you were stuck here at a TED talk but eight months ago Lucy found a video on Jim’s phone of him having sex with another woman in their living room her world fell apart when she confronted Jim he confessed that he’s recently joined an adult hookup site he said that he had no intention of meeting anybody it was just something he did out of curiosity and initially he said he’d only ever met that one person but over time the truth came out 20 years hooked on porn and H hundreds of casual sexual encounters their world is in shance Lucy feels as though her whole marriage has been a lie she just can’t believe that Jim would do this to her He’s Just Not That Type she said to me something that partners of sex addict often say and like most of the partners I meet she’s in shock how how could I not have known she said how can I live with somebody for 20 years and not know him remember this addiction often has no visible side effects Jim’s struggling to explain why he did it he’s he’s a sex adex but he swears he loves Lucy and he’s never stopped loving her and in spite of the anger and the rage that Lucy feels at Jim’s betrayal she still loves him but like Mark that I was telling you about earlier Lucy feels desperately alone and isolated she doesn’t want to tell any of their friends about this what are they going to think of Jim but also what are they going to think of her what assumptions are they going to make about her and their life together one final story Mary rang me the other day about her son he’s just dropped out of University he’s back home suffering from depression and saying that life isn’t worth living Mary was tearful on the phone as she was describing what a lovely young man he is and he’s how he’d always dreamed of having a medical career but apparently he’s messed up his gcss and didn’t get the a level grades he needed to get on the degree course that he really wanted to do Mar’s desperate to get help for him up until now they just haven’t understood what was wrong but it turns out he’s had a chronic problem with porn since he was 14 when they thought he was revising in in his room clearly he was using the computer for something else but her son says he’s too embarrassed to talk to anybody apparently he’s saying he knows that most Lads his age look at porn but not to the extent that he does and certainly not to the extent of turning down real life partners and finding himself still a virgin at 20 an age which apparently he thinks is embarrassingly old and yeah like most moms marri’s blaming herself why didn’t I see what was going on why couldn’t I have helped him why didn’t I know and you’ll notice the theme here she feels desperately alone and isolated in spite of the good group of friends she’s got she’s just too scared of what they’ll think of her son she just she wants to protect him from their judgment if you’re not someone who’s struggling with sex addiction then you you probably know someone who is a partner a parent a sibling a child a friend a work colleague someone you TR trust someone you work with someone that you respect and care about or if not you’ll certainly know a partner or a friend of somebody with sex connection but the question is would they confide in you would they trust you not to judge might you say to yourself I didn’t think they were that type if you’re completely honest what words do come to mind when you think of a sex addict I suspect like most people the words that come to mind are someone who’s a bit of a creep or a freak or maybe someone who’s a bit sleazy or you might you might think of somebody below moral standards you might think of someone who’s selfish and greedy or worse you you might think that a sex adic was a risk to society a potential rapist or child molester a sexual pervert or you might just think they’re a bit pathetic sad and desperate or of course if you don’t believe in sex addiction you might just think they’re making a fuss about nothing and just being a bit crazy but none of those words would describe Jim or Mark or Mary’s son what except perhaps sad and desperate but not in the derogatory sense nor would they describe any of the hundreds of people that I’ve worked with over the years men and women ladies if you thought you were off the hook with this condition I’m afraid not it’s estimated that about 30% of people with sex addiction are women but the stigma for women is is even worse a man might be a player or bit of a lad but a woman that has many sexual partners is still called a [ __ ] or a hall sex addiction is an equal opportunity condition it affects men and women young and old straight and gay Christian Muslim sik married single the wealthy the poor Ordinary People sex addiction thrives in secrecy and shame and until we as a society can start talking about it openly and non-judgmentally the problem is going to continue to grow we need to stop making moral judgments about what people with sex addiction do and start listening to why they do it and trying to understand why they become so dependent on it I believe as a society we have got a responsibility to educate people about sex addiction especially our young people and we desperately need more services for those who do get hooked we need to stop quibbling over what it should be called and start seeing the devastation that it is causing in people’s lives ordinary people like Mark Jim Lucy Mary and her son until we do Ordinary People like you and me and the people that we love and care about won’t dare to reach out for help they will suffer and struggle alone we need to start talking about sex addiction and break through the secrecy and shame that continues it sex addiction is not a myth or a joke and it is certainly not fun it is a devastating condition that is seeping through our society and you can help that to change I think the most important thing that I’ve leared in my 20 years as a therapist is the phenomenal power of compassion when we can embrace the fact that we are all fallible vulnerable human beings we all make mistakes we all have regrets we all struggle with difficult emotions and sometimes we don’t always handle them well then we can start talking about issues like sex addiction with compassion rather than judgment I’m delighted to say that Mark did eventually reach out to a friend and confide in a friend [Music] and the compassion and the care that that friend showed him gave Mark the Courage the strength The Hope and the motivation to find finally overcome his problem and leave his past behind him and maybe there’s someone in your life that you could do that for today there are three things I’d like you to take away from this talk firstly sex addiction is a real problem secondly it affects Ordinary People and thirdly by talking about it with compassion we can begin to to break through the secrecy and shame that fuels it the topic for this conference is courageous creations and I’m here today talking on behalf of my clients those with addiction and those who love them because they don’t have the courage to speak for themselves because of the shame they Fe feel and the fear that even those closest to them W understand I’d like to ask you to have the courage to start talking about sex addiction and create compassionate spaces in your relationships where the people that you love and care about can reach out for help thank you .
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0.12 since he was
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0.12 embarrassed to talk to anybody
0.12 apparently he&;s saying he knows that
0.12 most Lads his age look at porn but not
0.12 to the extent that he does and certainly
0.12 not to the extent of turning down real
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0.12 in spite of the good group of friends
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0.12 they&;ll think of her son she just she
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0.12 somebody below moral standards you might
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0.12 a sex adic was a risk to
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0.12 believe in sex addiction you might just
0.12 think they&;re making a fuss about
0.12 nothing and just being a bit
0.12 crazy but none of those words would
0.12 describe Jim or Mark or Mary&;s son what
0.12 except perhaps sad and desperate but not
0.12 in the derogatory sense nor would they
0.12 describe any of the hundreds of people
0.12 that I&;ve worked with over the
0.12 years men and women ladies if you
0.12 thought you were off the hook with this
0.12 condition I&;m afraid
0.12 not it&;s estimated that about 30% of
0.12 people with sex addiction are women but
0.12 the stigma for women is is even
0.12 worse a man might be a player or bit of
0.12 a lad but a woman that has many sexual
0.12 partners is still called a [ __ ] or a
0.12 hall sex addiction is an equal
0.12 opportunity
0.12 condition it affects men and women young
0.12 and old straight and gay Christian
0.12 Muslim sik married single the wealthy
0.12 the poor
0.12 Ordinary
0.12 People sex addiction thrives in secrecy
0.12 and shame and until we as a society can
0.12 start talking about it openly and
0.12 non-judgmentally the problem is going to
0.12 continue to
0.12 grow we need to stop making moral
0.12 judgments about what people with sex
0.12 addiction do and start listening to why
0.12 they do it and trying to understand why
0.12 they become so dependent on it
0.12 I believe as a society we have got a
0.12 responsibility to educate people about
0.12 sex addiction especially our young
0.12 people and we desperately need more
0.12 services for those who do get
0.12 hooked we need to stop quibbling over
0.12 what it should be called and start
0.12 seeing the devastation that it is
0.12 causing in people&;s lives ordinary
0.12 people like Mark Jim Lucy Mary and her
0.12 son until we do Ordinary People
0.12 like you and me and the people that we
0.12 love and care about won&;t dare to reach
0.12 out for help they will suffer and
0.12 struggle
0.12 alone we need to start talking about sex
0.12 addiction and break through the secrecy
0.12 and shame that continues it sex
0.12 addiction is not a myth or a joke and it
0.12 is certainly not fun it is a devastating
0.12 condition that is seeping through our
0.12 society and you can help that to change
0.12 I think the most important thing that
0.12 I&;ve leared in my 20 years as a
0.12 therapist is the phenomenal power of
0.12 compassion when we can embrace the fact
0.12 that we are all fallible vulnerable
0.12 human beings we all make mistakes we all
0.12 have regrets we all struggle with
0.12 difficult emotions and sometimes we
0.12 don&;t always handle them well then we
0.12 can start talking about issues like sex
0.12 addiction with compassion rather than
0.12 judgment I&;m delighted to say that Mark
0.12 did
0.12 eventually reach out to a friend and
0.12 confide in a
0.12 friend
0.12 [Music]
0.12 and the compassion and the care that
0.12 that friend showed
0.12 him gave Mark the Courage the strength
0.12 The Hope and the motivation to find
0.12 finally overcome his problem and leave
0.12 his past behind
0.12 him and maybe there&;s someone in your
0.12 life that you could do that for
0.12 today there are three things I&;d like
0.12 you to take away from this
0.12 talk firstly sex addiction is a real
0.12 problem secondly it affects Ordinary
0.12 People and thirdly by talking about it
0.12 with compassion we can begin to to break
0.12 through the secrecy and shame that fuels
0.12 it the topic for this conference is
0.12 courageous creations and I&;m here today
0.12 talking on behalf of my clients those
0.12 with addiction and those who love them
0.12 because they don&;t have the courage to
0.12 speak for themselves because of the
0.12 shame they Fe feel and the fear that
0.12 even those closest to them W
0.12 understand I&;d like to ask you to have
0.12 the courage to start talking about sex
0.12 addiction and create compassionate
0.12 spaces in your relationships where the
0.12 people that you love and care about can
0.12 reach out for help thank you
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