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La durée (00:56:41s), le titre (Terry Crews Talks Acting, Suicidal Thoughts, Porn Addiction and Mental Health – The Mental Game) et les informations de l’auteur sont des détails importants à considérer, tout comme la description :« L’acteur Terry Crews rejoint le jeu mental pour parler de la santé mentale avec Brandon Saho. Terry s’ouvre sur sa carrière d’actrice, grandissant avec un père violent, sa dépendance porno, luttant contre les pensées suicidaires, en thérapie et comment il s’occupe de sa santé mentale maintenant. Abonnez-vous au jeu mental sur YouTube: youtube.com/@mentalgamepods?sub_confirmation=1 Écoutez le jeu mental sur les podcasts d’Apple: https://podcast.apple.com/us/podcast/the-mental-game-by-brandon-saho/id1651420750 suivez @brandonsaho et @mentalgamars on instagram et instagram et @mentalgamars on instagram et @mentalgads on instagram et instagram et @mentalgars on instagram et interner Tiktok: https://www.instagram.com/brandonsaho https://www.tiktok.com/@brandonsaho https://www.instagram.com/mentalgamepods https://www.tiktok.com/@mentalgamepods 00:00 – Terre En contact avec vous-même 04:23 – L’importance d’exprimer des émotions 08:29 – L’impact du traumatisme infantile 12:44 – L’expossion du porno luttes 17:18 – Vérification toxique 21:41 Terry s’exprimant après les allégations 43:23 – Prendre soin de la santé mentale maintenant 45:49 – Terry admet sa dépendance au porno 48:07 – surmonter les luttes de santé mentale 50:04 – Les moments préférés de Terry de sa carrière 52:19 – devenant vraie pour vous-même 54:12 – Terry’s Mental Health Advice dans cet épiso Bravely s’ouvre sur ses batailles personnelles avec des pensées suicidaires, une dépendance porno, une dépression et une santé mentale. Grâce à sa conversation franche et honnête, Terry met en lumière l’importance de traiter et de chercher de l’aide pour ces sujets souvent stigmatisés. Rejoignez-nous alors que nous nous penchons dans le voyage de Terry vers la guérison et comment il a appris à mieux prendre soin de sa santé mentale. N’oubliez pas d’aimer cette vidéo et de la partager avec d’autres personnes qui peuvent bénéficier de cette discussion puissante. Tags: Terry Crews, interview de Terry Crews, Podcast Terry Crews, Terry Crews White Chicks, Terry Crews Mille de milles, Terry Crews parle de son père, Terry Crews Santé mentale, Terry Crews Dépression, Terry Crews Suicide Père de l’équipage, papa Terry Crews, Terry Crews Brandon Saho, Brandon Saho, Brandon Saho Podcast, The Mental Game, The Mental Game Podcast #terryCrews #mentalhealth #agt #brooklynninenine #TheRapy #podcast #MensmentalHealth #terrycrews #terrycrewsathem #terrycrewsoldpice #terryCrewStalksAbouthisfather #terrycrewsgoldenbuzzer #terrycrewsboondocks #terrycrewswhitechicksdance #terrycrewSrainday #terrycrewsdancing #terrycrewsworkout #terrycrewsmiketyson #terrycrenancing #terryCrewsflute #terryCrewsand #terrycrewSandineedyou #terrycrewsandmiketyson #terrycrewsandghosmeme #terrycrewsandmiketysonargument #terrycrewsandsteveharvey #terrycrewsand50cent #terrycrewsandpenny #terrycrewsandctfletcher #terrycrewsandscientist #terrycrewsandhisdad #terrycrewsandmarvin (tagstotranslate) Terry Crews ».

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Explorer les causes de la dépendance au porno

Décrypter les effets du porno sur le fonctionnement quotidien

L’addiction influence négativement la sexualité, l’estime personnelle et les relations affectives. Le visionnage excessif de contenus pornographiques peut ancrer une dépendance émotionnelle exclusive à ces matériaux

Mettre en lumière les fonctionnements mentaux liés

La pornographie active des réactions dopaminergiques dans le cerveau, créant une association renforcée entre les stimuli sexuels et des habitudes compulsives difficiles à briser.

Cerner les signes révélateurs d’addiction

La dépendance à la pornographie, marquée par une consommation répétitive, engendre fréquemment des conflits personnels et des difficultés au quotidien.

Bâtir une identité nouvelle, exempte de la pornographie

Adopter une approche éthique de la sexualité

Opter pour une sexualité éthique améliore la qualité des relations et assure un épanouissement mutuel Se détacher de la pornographie exige une prise de conscience profonde, des moyens adaptés et du soutien. En comprenant les mécanismes de cette dépendance et en agissant de manière structurée, il est possible de retrouver un équilibre de vie et de cultiver une sexualité épanouie. Rechercher des solutions adaptées est essentiel pour sortir du cycle de dépendance (à ce sujet voir le lien sur le site très connu chasteté.fr).

Établir des habitudes constructives et respectueuses de ses limites

Explorer des pratiques enrichissantes, comme la méditation ou le yoga, crée une connexion corps-esprit forte qui aide à limiter les envies excessives

Des liens sincères favorisent l’épanouissement personnel

Une relation sincère permet de se reconnecter à une sexualité épanouie et de se détacher des illusions numériques

Examiner les diverses sources d’aide à disposition

Participer à des rencontres de soutien collectif

Participer à un groupe de soutien permet aux personnes de partager leurs défis, d’apprendre des méthodes efficaces et de bénéficier de la solidarité d’autres individus en rétablissement.

Se faire accompagner par un spécialiste en santé mentale

Faire appel à un psychologue expert en dépendances comportementales, notamment dans la TCC, permet d’analyser les origines du problème et de recevoir un suivi spécialisé.

Utiliser des ressources numériques et applications pour assurer un suivi

Les outils numériques et applications dédiés offrent la possibilité de suivre les progrès, d’envoyer des rappels motivants et d’établir des routines positives pour éviter les contenus pornographiques.

Établir une méthodologie progressive pour réduire les comportements addictifs

Élaborer un environnement qui facilite le repos

Utiliser des extensions de navigateur et des applications de contrôle parental pour bloquer l’accès aux contenus pornographiques peut être une stratégie bénéfique. Créer un environnement propice aux activités constructives permet également de réduire les impulsions.

Mettre en place des mécanismes pour réguler les pulsions

Reconnaître les éléments déclencheurs et les éviter est essentiel. La TCC, les activités physiques ou sociales, et le soutien d’un réseau de proches sont des solutions efficaces.

Créer des objectifs concrets et à la portée de main

Pour réussir à se libérer de cette dépendance, il est nécessaire de fixer des objectifs clairs, tels que réduire le temps passé à consommer du porno. Une réflexion sur les raisons profondes et les bénéfices à long terme est essentielle pour maintenir l’engagement.

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Retranscription des paroles de la vidéo: welcome back into the mental game where this week’s guest is actor Terry Cruz I I would say suicide entered right when right when everything fell apart that was the first time I actually seriously thought I would be better off dead and in this episode Terry opens up about his amazing career in Hollywood where you’ve seen him in TV and movies like Brooklyn 99 America’s Got Talent white chicks and much much more but Terry tells his powerful emotional mental health story in an hour interview that I know you’re going to love this conversation got deep and emotional Terry opens up about his childhood his abusive father finding pornography as a kid and that turning into an addiction which led to him cheating on his wife and having suicidal thoughts having to check into rehab we go over a lot in Terry’s mental health story and it is a really powerful and emotional conversation that I can’t wait to share with all of you but if anyone out there is struggling with their mental health or you see somebody you love a family member or friend going through a tough moment just asking them how they are feeling can make a big big difference or even save their life for tools on how to help somebody going through crisis please visit the Ohio Suicide Prevention Foundation website at ohio.org and we can help everyone possible with their mental health but now it is time for the latest episode here on the mental game with Terry Cruz [Music] n [Music] welcome back into the mental game as you can see I have a very special guest standing next to me or sitting next to me I should say big smile you know him Terry Cruz from from White Chicks America’s Got Talent and just being probably one of the most infectious Personalities in Hollywood Terry thank you so much for coming on the mental game thank you Brandon good to be here man yeah this is something that I know you care a lot about mental health we’re going to get into into your background your career your early life everything that you’ve done in movies TV and and your personal battle um with depression anxiety and mental health but the first thing I ask everyone on the mental game is what does mental health mean to them and everyone has a different answer because it’s very unique to that person whether it’s something that they’ve always taken care of or maybe there was a traumatic event that made them uh you know take better care of their own mental health I’ll ask you the same thing though what does it mean to you wow I think for me mental health means uh actually being in touch with yourself um you know as men we have the ability almost it’s an advantage sometimes but we have the ability to compartmentalized which is something where it keeps you going it keeps you moving doing what you’re doing you can fight a war you can do a job you can do all these things and things will get done but you actually are a mess later like you there’s all of a sudden you have to it’s coming back yeah in a big way and when I say being in touch with yourself it’s kind of like it’s a lot of to me unhealthy mental health is when you never get in touch like and then you never know what what’s wrong you don’t know what makes you tick you don’t know why you don’t know where you don’t know how and this thing is coming like the the confusion the it’s almost like you got to settle out you know what I mean it’s almost like all the chips have been played and everything but when it’s time to settle it’s like oh no you know what I mean people are finding out they’re either in the hole or they’re bankrupt y or you know they they thought they had it together and they don’t and that was me I feel like men specifically bury things like you said compartmentalize and you’re taught at a young age and starting to change now with the younger Generations but you’re Tau to rub dir on it just keep going um don’t be weak showing emotion is weak as a man um when when were you comfortable speaking up about how you were feeling and being more comfortable being emotional oh man this wasn’t it had to be I I I wasn’t I didn’t even enter the game of sh sharing my emotions until 2010 wow you know what I mean now again I think I’ve always been artistic yeah which is which is another thing which is left-handed right brain so I always saw the world a little bit differently you know what I mean and I was able to express myself artistically with painting and drawing um even music you know I practiced flute and different things so I was able to to to even take a different route which I always had people looking at me funny but I but I really wasn’t a lot of people have have mistak artistic ability with emotional ability you know what I mean it’s kind of like yeah there’s a lot of guys that can sing a song and make everybody cry and then their life is still a shambles yeah you know what I mean it’s kind of like we we know how to tap into these things right but again it’s back to the fact that do you know why you’re doing this so do you know do you understand what’s happening 2010 was the first time I actually entered therapy for the first time and I had to like cuz I that’s when I was realizing like oh my God like my life has fallen falling apart everything that I knew everything I thought is now in a heap on the ground I don’t I everything I thought I knew was wrong right you know what I mean it was it was a matter of you know you think there’s one day you think that you know the the sun revolves around the earth and you you and it’s the way it’s been everything proves it everything you could see it it it goes around us and then someone gives you the the the new Flash no man we go around the Sun yep and you’re like what that I’m trying to tell you that was what happened to me I was like you’re kidding no yep no because you understand that changes everything yep that changes everything like every iota of everything when you find out wow wait a minute we go around and all of a sudden you had to you realize real all your math has been wrong y all your all the presumptions all the things you thought all the formulas the stories that you tell yourself oh everything was wrong but now once you get it right and if you keep it right you can go out of space right because you know but you could never it’s like planning to go out out of space thinking that we go you know that uh the Sun goes around us and you’re never going to make it you know what I mean like you’re GNA die in fact you’re gonna die trying and that’s what most men end up doing because they deal with the knowledge that they had and it’s wrong and they die I give you all the credit in the world to to It’s A Hard point to get to Rock Bottom I’ve been there myself but when you look at yourself in the mirror and you can have all the help in the world and finally reach out to therapy have great family and great friends but it takes the person that you’re looking at in the mirror to make that change and your honesty about that Journey since 2010 to now and before I’d like to unpack that if you’re willing to because your story has a lot of chapters and they’re very powerful and they built you into the man that you are today and I think your story as a child growing up in Flint and watching the relationship between your parents and the anger um you had towards your father is something that that people deal with you know all the time across the country um what was your childhood like and you spoke about being a joyful kid and having the art element you weren’t allowed to go to the movies and you had to imagine like all the fun things that people were talking about at school but what was your childhood like oh my god um first of all I had a a father who was an alcoholic um and a mother who was not but she was addicted to religion MH so it was two addicts in the house yeah you know what I mean one addicted to alcohol the other one was religion and I was in the middle and uh you know you got to understand me growing up when I was young you know early 70s I mean there really was no thing such a you know it wasn’t called alcoholism like right you either unless you were on the street and homeless that’s where you oh that’s a wno yeah but if you had a job and you were doing your thing you weren’t an alcoholic it was it was so early in those days part of society like just it was just yeah he’s C and everybody you know you coped with what you did they everybody had a drink it was no big deal that was kind of the thing every sitcom everybody had a drink right after they got home work you know uh and then my mother was super religious meaning we went to uh a church called The Church of God in Christ and you could not do anything I mean I could not go to the movies couldn’t listen to secular music no dancing no Sports no any I mean everything I ended up doing with my life right I could not do as a kid so um I kind of went into myself you know it was one of those things I had a lot of questions which was got me in a lot of trouble but uh I started this art ability simply because I had a huge imagination and was wondering what the world was like I mean people would tell me you know they went to the movies and they would describe the films and I would try to draw them out wow because I couldn’t see them you know uh and all these things man I’d go but this is another thing is the world was always creeping in yeah you know I’d go over people’s homes and they’re listening to the latest music and they’re listen they’re doing and I’m like oh my God I’m seeing Freedom I’m watching like whoa these guys are dancing these people are going to movies these people are not alcohol like yeah I was like you know I’ll never forget seeing my friend’s dad come home and I rant like I was like oh hey man your father’s coming home they were like yeah no no problem I was like he’s coming in like I was I literally was telling my buddy he’s coming in the house and he was like yeah it’s my father it’s my dad I was going and I was scared cuz I knew when your daddy came home get out go run just be anywhere he isn’t um these are it was shocked me that this man that these kids other other kids were like oh man they actually want their father to come home and then it created this huge like Gap in my life like I was like something’s wrong what am I missing okay and then I just and then I threw it all into being a good kid mhm because my thing is especially when you become a pleaser because my my father’s alcoholic it was like I just would do anything to make him happy to make him calm to so he wouldn’t blow up so it was like you need another drink what do you want me to do I’ll fix things I’ll do stuff I you know I’ll be a good kid I’ll sit down I’ll shut up yeah and when the and when my mother was on the religious side it was the same thing MH where it was like how I I’ll lead the the the the solo and the choir I’ll jump around I I’ll go to church with you I’ll pray with you I’ll do all this stuff and so but I didn’t know what I wanted yeah it was always about what the parents were about so so I kind of lost myself in them and uh it was it was horrible and the thing for me and I’m not not being too long is that I jumped into pornography as a kid because I had an uncle again it was one of those experiences when you leave the house and I was a young kid and I probably was eight or nine years old and he had a trunk of pornography in his basement yeah and I was like I was hooked immediately like cuz that was something where I was it was totally it was like a it was like a drink yeah it was like a drug or anything else I immediately forgot about any problems and I could Escape there mhm um and I didn’t even know what sex was that’s was so crazy no one ever talked about it I didn’t even know what it was but I knew this is powerful this is this is incredible man like what this is what I always wondered this is this the secret this is what’s going on and and I got hooked man and I and that was my secret for years and years because I knew I couldn’t talk to my father to this day I’ve never had a talk about sex with my father to this day um and my mother was always like you know don’t mention sex are are you doing it are you doing it’s like no no no so everything was condemnation um so I just decided I’ll keep this to me to myself yeah and it created a horrible horrible cycle of guilt of Shame and then a cycle of having to do more to get back to get rid of the shame I had to be a better kid mhm which was a cycle you know what I mean and it starts over and over and over again and you get a lot of [ __ ] done I’m trying to tell you you become like a major achiever you know what I mean I was always the one like Terry does this and Terry does that and look how talented and look at and I didn’t mind that because it covered up what I felt inside I felt like a dirty dog like yeah I felt like nothing I felt horrible um I knew what was going on in my house I knew was going on in myself I do and but I knew also I felt like everyone else was like that cuz in the church yeah in the church that was that restrictive man my pastor was selling drugs out of the pull pit wow this is what’s so crazy because these kind of things when you’re that maniacal about rules and it’s like you can’t follow yeah you know what I mean it’s like uh and so you learn to hide M you learn and so even in the church this is where a lot of problems you know become where people go to church and they feel like we’re covering up what’s really the issue yep and dude it was I mean our we had so many people in that church with double lives you know some people were gay so and wouldn’t say some people were selling drugs some people were having Affairs some people doing and no one was open about anything like no one would yep it was just hey man how are you doing God’s good you know yeah you know and and you covered it up with some sort of saying and you were a mess a mess inside well you having that experience at home with your parents and your dad being alcoholic your mom being very very religious and you having this Creative Juice in you that you just want to get out and experience life and you start to you know dabble in certain things friends houses seeing how their parents treat them you mentioned discovering pornography and that became an addiction for you I want to dive into that but first the the watching your father and your mother’s relationship how did that scar you and hurt your mental health at a young age when you’re learning and picking things up oh easy um well my early earliest memory is my father knocking my mother out uh he was physically abusive just straight up he would it’s wild because he didn’t hit us because my my mother would kill him right but my mother let him hit her not let I wouldn’t even say let but she would just say she kind of took her abuse as part for the course yeah you know what I mean um and you got to understand too when you have people at the church who were like you should you can never divorce you know and so it became her issue yeah you know what I mean it was like you um you you know there’s something you’re doing wrong if he’s hitting you and dude that changed my I mean my whole framework was like okay it’s a man’s world and I was so scared of him man it was like you know it’s your rules dude and I learned that women were second class citizens MH straight up and it was and it taught me everything I needed to know I mean it was just like women were not they were just not as valuable as men were yeah straight up and everything in my life told me that um and it was uh even from in the way people acted on the street and I remember you know having friends that were like dude you supposed to have five girlfriends I was like what right huh how how do you do that they were like hey you’re a player that you got to be a player and I was like so so that means like five of them is worth one of us you know what I mean and that’s how I equated it my head right you know it’s just and it’s all these wrong lessons right and dude I was confused but I knew I said I got to win this game called life so I had to fake it like I had to literally be this picture of manhood this super manhood is what it is it’s like um it’s a it’s a form of narcissism that yeah you it there’s you there’s Being Human and then there’s being superum and and what you try to get to you got to be superum all the time but you can’t keep that right so what happens is you fall below human because when you fail now you’re less than human yeah and these and the problem is the thing is in reality is that you’re always human all the time but if you but the if the only way you exist is either above it or beneath it you’re you’re you’re always on the wrong track yeah it’s a roller coaster you know what I mean you’re seeing it when you’re below it you’re worse than everybody else yeah so now I I can actually put suicide in my head because now I’m less than human MH and I deserve to die I I don’t deserve to be here I don’t deserve the good things I have or if you’re superhuman now you’re above everybody else I get to determine who what where and I am the boss I’m the one that tells you know what’s happening in your life and his life and their life and and it’s kind of like the 80s were all about that where if you had money you were the king of every you could get people to do anything yeah and you know it’s it’s kind of like the rules were if you had to it’s like a rules of a business is uh became if you had the biggest bench breast even though it had nothing to do with the business right you know what a big badass man hey man oh he benches mess okay he’s the boss tell us where these you know where the uh how should we should sell these things or what you know let’s look at the receipts in the business he’s like he don’t know but I I got the biggest bench and those guys ran everything by the way yeah and they would run you into the ground and I realized that’s the way I needed to be and football was the way I jumped in that world because I was an artist but I felt like no one was going to pay me to to do art but everybody’s going to give give me a job or I was kind of going to get money to go scholarship or whatever to play football yeah because as an athlete it looked at you were M you were superhuman Macho Man you were immediately superhuman so you got everything you wanted if you were the the biggest athlete you got what you wanted yep and that’s where I live I mean that was my goal even as a young kid kid I remember working out first because I thought I would have to kill my father and then as I started to get muscle and get stronger and I the the term I like to use when I got a little neck you know the gang stopped messing with me you know I used to get beat up yeah um gang stopped messing with me the drug dealers decided Well maybe he CU they would never mess with a guy they thought could go pro or do something athletically you know it was kind of like all right we’ll leave him alone uh and I found protection in that and just having that uh but it but I got all the other junk that came with it yeah you know what I mean MH you mentioned suicide um you’ve battled a lot throughout your own mental health journey and when you go back no one talked about you’re supposed to be this Macho Man and not bring up your problems you’re going through you know the abuse that your father was doing your mother the abuse that you were receiving yourself from your from your father um trying to figure out what this addiction that you didn’t know was an addiction at first um with pornography you have so much to balce but you feel like you can’t speak up to anyone I’m sure and the stigma with mental health you didn’t say a word um did suicide ever come into your mind and when did that happen the hard I I would say suicide entered right when right when everything fell part that was the first time I actually seriously thought I would be better off dead and I remember when my wife decided to leave and there I was and this was the thing man Brandon I was very successful yeah at the time um had done a some bunch of movies and was doing TV and had money and was living the picture um but then my my personal life did it it was of shambles man um there were things I never told my wife never told anybody um and I was I was just afraid that this thing was going to fall apart like it’s like having something up on on stilts and it and you keep building it really really big but you’re looking at these stilts and they’re just bending you know where I was I was like oh man I I knew my marriage was going to fall at some time and I knew knew this precarious little picture was going to fall over but Hollywood didn’t care about that right like if it did I it happens many many times so they were like you know hey man you they don’t care that if you lose your wife and kids they don’t they don’t have there not a problem in fact we’ll give you more movies if you right um and I hated the way I was thinking like that like I was thinking well that’s not dangerous in Hollywood I mean people you know but then I was thinking about what about me as a person like this goes against everything I said I was I’ve told people I am I I I I have this story but it’s a whole another story it’s two lives yeah and I was like I don’t want to do this anymore and I literally was just I was I was in the throws and and it and when that moment happened I actually reached out because it was a good friend of mine and I said hey man I just lost my wife and kids um and I said dude I’m a fake I’m I’ll never forget I was like d I’m fake uh everything everyone sees is just not real and he said Terry he said I can’t promise you that you’re going to get your wife and family back he said in fact they might be gone he said but I can tell you that you need to get better for you mhm now you have to understand that was a foreign concept the fact that you had to get I had to improve for improvement’s sake yeah you for for my whole life remember I was I was a pleaser yep so it was you do good things so that so and so wouldn’t get mad or this and this and then I learned how to do good things so I could get what I would call Scooby Snacks so it’s like there’s a reward here this is the reward here this is where you get money you do good you do good but you don’t you don’t mean it yeah yeah it’s it’s a little like okay you know paint the picture so that you can get what you want so it’s very manipulative yeah you know I mean I learned how to manipulate people right but I didn’t learn how to do good for goodness sake like there was no internal Locust of control there it was always about manipulating people so you could get what you wanted and um I was like just for me like I I don’t I’ve never done that I don’t understand what that means and then I when when I knew I said I don’t know where to go but I’ve never been to therapy and I decided to check myself in to this place it was called psychological Counseling Services in Phoenix um and I never I’d heard about it it was dealing with sex addiction uh but also was my first experience was just talking my story out like i’ never been to therapy and this place has dealt with big major people that have gotten made major scandals you know what I mean um from pastors to athletes to all these people who were like had double lives um and I remember going in there and I was like oh man first day I was like this ain’t me man this is crazy this is not me yep I said I gooped up man I said this is all me and they just kept reading my mail and it was like so was your father alcoholic I was like well yeah yeah and was your mom very religious I was like yeah how how how you know how’ you know that I and they were like okay but and they just kept giving me these signs and I was like yes I said oh this is me this is me and dude talk about and what happened I like to call it the cracking of an egg because you’re trying to piece it back together but there’s no way you can do that it’s like the egg is all over it’s like it’s gone now you’re frying it by now you know what I mean um the hardest hardest thing man I just remember like I going back to my room cuz it was an intensive where you stay all day it was like 12 hours and you go back home you go back to your hotel room and I was like how did I get this so wrong and this is the thing too because you looked at yourself like a superhuman yeah then you’re dealing with the embarrassment of having it that wrong and you’re dealing with that because now you know it’s it’s very narcissistic because you think you’re perfect right that you can do anything and get through anything I get I had this all right and you realize and no you had it all wrong dude yeah and then I started and it was like what else did I have wrong what else did I have wrong and it man it’s like the best way I can really describe it is let’s say you have a really filthy house I mean filthy like you’re a hoarder yeah and you got a you got a guest bathroom that gets clean just a guest bathroom and it’s spotless all of a sudden you’re like this house holy CRA yeah you know you you you were fine living in your mess yep it was like oh yeah you get used to your junk you could step over it you knew where the junk was you know what I mean I knew where the pile’s dirt was and I was like that’s my pile right here you know but once that one spot is cleaned up you real like the whole house needs to be done in fact for me I realized the house needed to fall yeah like it was beyond repair it was mold in in the walls it was I said I got to tear this whole house down yeah and that was the beginning of my new life like it was totally a new a new start for me for you if I can dig into that phone call when you call your wife um and let her know what you had not told her yeah um that is a moment that I think probably was the lowest point for you absolutely and it also is the most life-changing and start to taking care of your mental health um what led to that phone call and what do you remember about the emotions that the suicidal thought that came up and what you felt in that in that call oh yeah well first of all I I it was wild as you know as an actor you know I I was in Vancouver like 10 years earlier than that phone call so I just started in 2000 and you know I was nervous and scared and and the way I always dealt with that was porn um and what was crazy is that you know I spent my time in Vancouver and in porn wasn’t enough you know that because that’s the thing you get that you know you put that in your life all of a sudden you know you begin to act things out right and I told myself I was getting a massage and the whole thing and I ended up with a massage with a massuse and cheated on my wife for the first time and I said okay I’m going to go to my grade with this like I don’t believe I cross this line but I will never tell like again a lot of the things that I’d already done I said you know I’m G to be private but this one was like holy cow I cross this line and what was wild is that my wife was always suspicious yeah you know and I’d start arguments to basically get out of it like what what do you mean you know there’s ways I knew to be very manipulative yeah in order to not be questioned anymore start arguments and she’s like fine whatever I’m all right what you know and so I held it it was my secret and I kept it secret and then I’ll never forget because what but what happens though every time something like that happens and every time you use pornography I got one step away from my marriage more and more it was like putting a brick yeah it’s like again I would I would really compare it to any other drug um you know if you’re if you you’re using every time you do you’re one step away from the people who love you yeah um every drink puts you one step away from those who love you mhm uh and for me it was the same thing with porn and I said and we were just getting farther and farther apart like I I didn’t I couldn’t see us being married at to this spot like yeah it was just when is it going to happen not if it’s just when yeah and dude um we were arguing on the phone and I’ll never forget there was a moment when I was just tired I was just like I knew who I was because I knew you you know you’re lying you live with it see the question is is the question I used to always ask which was crazy is that I would go why doesn’t she believe me you know and I always put it on her like why don’t you believe me but everything changed when the question became why am I lying that’s a whole different perspective now it’s me you know yeah and I was looking at her like H it was you you know you should be it was all it was great because you could always blame and push and yeah and there was that moment on the call when I I was like am I thinking of another lie I said I can’t I’m done thinking up lies like there was there was another lie to think up she kept questioning me MH and she was like something she said and I’ll never forget she said what is it I don’t know about you Terry Cruz like she went right there it was the perfect question cuz it was either I’m going to lie about this or I’m going to tell the truth and I told her about what happened in Vancouver this is what you don’t know about me and I thought and it was so weird as I thought see we cool now you got to understand like that’s how deluded you could be because I’m like that was a long time ago she was like but for her it happened 30 seconds ago mhm and she was like I’m out I’m done I was like what are you talking about cuz I feel like but another thing I could manipulate you by the money yeah the life but my wife didn’t care about that you know she’s like she never cared about any of that stuff yeah that was all me that was all my little man world you know what I mean she was like I’m I’ve never been with you I married you when you were broke you had nothing loved you and if we continue to have nothing I still would have loved you right like somewhere you thought that was a game changer it’s not but this is yeah this you’re not being honest you not being loyal you you really you’re lying to me all these years and um and I knew I lost her I knew it was over it was crushing dude when I say crushing I’ll never it it was a darkness that I can’t describe you know what I mean it was like the World closed in and it um and I fell in a hole and only way I could have got out was if somebody reached down and that was my call for help yeah and I I it’s an emotional Journey when you get to the Rock Bottom moment um and you can either Crash and Burn and for you know for me we were talking before we started rolling I was suicidal for months and it got to a point where and I’ve used alcohol for a long long time to cope um I I I still I don’t know if I was an alcoholic but now I look back and I was addicted to that buzz uh today when we’re recording this actually marks eight months sober which is like all right congrats brother thanks brother um it’s just crazy to me that you that you you talk about your porn addiction that you just go to this and it’s your coping mechanism and then you have that crash and burn moment and it’s either you can do two things you can crash and burn or you can take a step no matter how uncomfortable it is you checked in I’ve done the same thing those first two days I had no want to be there I didn’t open up I didn’t say anything and I’ll never forget when one of the therapists in these classrooms I don’t know how yours was but we talked to therapist psychiatrist then you had these group classes where you yep same thing we had them yeah and you have people of every age every background every color like it is but we all have one thing in common we have an addiction or we don’t want to be here we’re we’re depressed and suicidal and someone asked me why aren’t you opening up Brandon and I said you know I’ve always been emotional I’ve just you know I just don’t want to be a [ __ ] and excuse my language but I I said that and the therapist stopped me she said that’s the problem right there that’s the stigma with with mental health especially men’s mental health I had no idea I thought that’s just who I am and once I realized that and that I could open up more and I’ve had the same conversation with uh Ricky Williams he had the same he had the same re revelation of you know he was you know kind of a [ __ ] and was overly emotional guess what there’s nothing wrong with that and as soon as you look at yourself in the mirror and start making that change and you did it when you checked in and you had to work on yourself your marriage your career but when you take control of it It’s a Grind and it’s a struggle but you have to do that if you want to be truly happy with yourself you know you know what’s funny is that uh once you overcome that you know it’s it’s funny because you know people still call me a [ __ ] to the stay you know when I came know it’s funny when I came forward I’m not going to say that cuz I don’t want you I don’t want you to hit me no but but it’s funny you say that because you know when I came forward um about you know me my sexual assault MH you know it’s a lot of people are like Terry Cruz is a big look at his big old muscular how could he get assaulted he’s he’s a [ __ ] and he’s this and and they still say that like to this day but dude I I feel so reliev like like that was one of the best things I ever did but it was because of the 10 years of counseling yeah and and therapy that allowed me to open up to to realize that wait a minute man I’m just human mhm and there were and this is another thing that blew me away when I said it and I came forward there were so many men I mean you’re talking wrestlers at Ohio State you’re talking football players from the pros to college they all came for there people were I had to say hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of men came forward to say hey man I got molested when I was eight I got molested last year this guy you know I get this I was on my job and this guy grabbed me and I was like what and and and this is what so crazy is because you put it out of your head like it didn’t happen yeah no I’m too manly for that to happen but I had to acknowledge no no that happened to you that was you mhm and the thing is is that people were like well Terry let this thing happen I like no just like my mother never didn’t let herself get abused it’s just these things are like straight bullets yeah you know what I mean like did you if someone’s firing just shooting an AK-47 and you get hit in the shoulder did you let yourself get hit no no no dude this hit me I did the talk with Dak Shepard he was like look it’s not your fault it’s not your fault but it is your responsibility that bit hit me so hard you it’s not it’s not your fault but it is your responsibility to do something about your situation about what happened to you because that’s all we can do yep dude is oh my god dude it’s it’s but so so when I hear people go ah yeah you know a lot of times it’s online cuz they don’t say this stuff to my parents I’m not saying it to your face next to you I know but but again I don’t mind it I don’t mind it yeah um it’s just part of part for the course cuz that is the thing that keeps people in a hole yep imagine if we fell in a hole and you have no way out and if you yell for help someone’s going to call you a [ __ ] it’s crazy so what happens is people die in the hole MH and they never come out I mean you get skeletons you fall you’re down there with skeletons who never said a word because they didn’t want to be called a [ __ ] yep or be called less than manly and dude I’m like help if you go to war people say help M and they get out of the pit and there’s not one thing this is the only way you’re going to survive but remember it’s about being superhuman as a man you have to be more than human yep so I’m not I realize my Humanity involves me yelling for help have you noticed somebody in your life recently just not being themselves maybe you noticed that they’re sad or angry or not hanging out with your family or friends as much as they usually do they might be struggling with their mental health and going through crisis right now and you can help them if you want to learn more about how to be a suicide prevention Advocate you can find resources and tools at the Ohio Suicide Prevention Foundation website ohio.org again ohio.org you’ve heard Terry and I talk about this with both of our mental health stories in this episode you can’t do it alone and talking about our mental health can help you or somebody that needs to hear it I mean that’s how we help each other in these tough moments when we’re feeling anxious when we’re going through those tough moments struggling with depression or even suicidal thoughts I promise the more that we talk the more we can help each other you’ve heard Terry and I talk about it throughout this entire episode and that’s exactly what we want to help with at the Ohio Suicide Prevention Foundation because together we can help each other with our mental health I tell people two things with mental health and I’m not a therapist not a psychologist I’ve lived I’ve lived through depression anxiety addiction had a check in because I was suicidal number one do something I I I don’t care if it’s call your mom call your best friend call your therapist please just do something and number two is feelings are temporary yes and I never would have believed that when I sat there on the edge of a bridge drunk thinking about jumping off or or those nights you know thinking about laying down in traffic I I wrote a goodbye letter sober one day and took a bunch of pills and prayed not to wake up I I had this for months and months I never would have believed that but look at where you can go look at where you’re at 10 plus years later from your Rock Bottom I’m about a year and a half from where I was in that moment and those feelings are temporary it will pass but you have to put in the work like you’ve said this entire time if I can I I want to flip the script a little bit with our final 10 minutes here with just how you are taking care of your mental health now where therapy has been a constant thing for you you’re I know your wife’s working on the other side of this wall right now on her business here that you guys got in La together um how do you take care of your mental health now oh my god um constantly yeah uh I am all first of all uh there’s never underestimate the power of reading um you know there have been so many books so many like gems that I’ve gotten over the years I mean through audio books and listening podcasts yeah like this uh but also you know I continue my wife and I continue to go to counseling we continue to see people we continue to talk to people um and then there’s another thing where you become you know you don’t really know something until you’re good enough to tell it or talk about it MH I I began to talk a lot yeah um and I what’s weird is even today even doing this today is part of my therapy it’s like by looking back and unpacking different moments different things I learn a little bit more about myself every time I talk yep um because you have to be able to explain it you know what I mean um and then also it to watch other people get help it’s like you know to hear those people come forward and go dude I my father was alcoholic I was in this super religious stuff I was addicted to porn I want to stop I I remember um one of my big things this was early this was probably around 2012 maybe 2013 I did a thing called Dirty Little Secret where I had Facebook live this was back in the day and I put a post out that basically told about my pornography addiction and this is early like yeah about 2011 like a year into therapy and stuff and people flipped you got to understand yeah flipped different no one was they were like what uh Good Morning America today show uh CBS This Morning they all wanted me on the next day people flipped out all the people I worked with um Old Spice was literally they were like I think we got to let him go oh my God he’s admitting to something that’s heinous this this crazy and I just the reason is I said hey man if anyone else is going through something like this I just had to let you know you’re not alone and let’s talk about this stuff dude what was so crazy is that I remember the guys and this is to their to their benefit to their I have to give them props for this because Proctor and Gamble was like wait a minute he didn’t do anything wrong he’s just saying what he’s been through I said no no we’re not firing him in fact he’s he’s good with us and they let me know you got to understand it was so powerful cuz it was a moment where they were like we can’t have him as a spokesperson because uh but it’s like no no he’s admitting to something he’s being human yep then all the people started and then I remember telling all the morning shows I was like it’s on Facebook live just play that yeah I was like I don’t have to go back and now go on these shows and do all this stuff yeah but um those moments let me know wasn’t alone and that’s that’s the trick the trick to a lot of these I think suicidal thoughts and thoughts of self harm is is a thought that you’re all by yourself MH that no one’s there with you and it’s a lie and it’s a trick but when you really reach out and realize wait a minute yeah there’s a whole bunch of people this is why I I always say social media is so it’s it’s wonderful and dangerous at the same time because with kids and teenagers they’re trying to discover their way and all a sudden you get a lot of negativity MH but you got to find the positive right and that’s the problem is it’s overwhelming and you you gotta it can mess with your head you know but for me I found the positive and I found the people who helped me get out of this hole yep well and you saying you’re not alone in real realizing that that is the most powerful thing with mental health it’s exactly why I started this show to help people that feel the same as you and I did and you mentioned social media that’s the whole reason why I we’re sitting here you commented on I had I had Nate Burleson on and you commented on that episode and I’m like all right let’s figure out how to get Terry on here and talk about mental health and I knew I had to do it I I first of all I I was so cool just it was so cool to to see you and Nate talking about this stuff and I just had to I couldn’t hold back it was like go guys go like yes well thank you you know what I mean and um and and it’s so powerful because I had I had to encourage you because it was like no man every time someone is willing to talk about this stuff it breaks down another brick remember every time you use you’re you’re putting a brick up yep but every time we talk pulling a brick down yep you know and I just decided pull These Bricks down man pull these walls down and you’re going to get teased people some people are going to not understand yeah but dude you know how many people do yep people who do are way more than the people who don’t right and you’re able to help so many people just by telling your story because relatability is one of the biggest things with mental health so one thank you for coming on I have a couple more questions for I want to get into some fun some fun stuff here to mental health fun but I want to get into some of your career um I saw you at the Rams game two weeks ago of course they got you on the big screen singing the famous song from White Chicks um do you have a favorite moment from from your career favorite um part that you’ve played I mean I think I I love The Longest Yard like that just such a fun character but but between that white chicks America’s Got tal I mean you’ve got to do a lot of cool things plus your NFL career I mean is there something you can point to that’s like this is my moment actually it’s like trying to pick out a favorite child can’t do it some parents do it and I I would never do that I have I love all my kids there’s the answer and but this is the deal like some my son got famous like he had a TV show yeah and I have another daughter who’s quietly doing her dream is one better than the other no no not at all you know what I mean it’s like as long as they’re living their best life that’s I look at that for every project M like I got little projects that didn’t do anything but I love to death yeah that I’m like man I’m so glad I did that and then I have big giant things and I’m like that was that went pretty good yeah and I love them the same and I have to tell you it’s it’s funny because because people do know you more from certain things but I am the accumulation of everything I’ve been through right from every part everything I love The Longest Yard The Longest Yard got me Everybody Hates Chris because I work Chris rot and then it got me all those movies with Sandler and then all those movies with the wayin and then all the and it got me Brooklyn 99 and with from idiocracy and president kamacho and jumping I mean everything I first of all every iota of my career and this is I made this a rule is I don’t do anything for money I only do it for the satisfaction of doing it and the money I let the money take care of itself yep that’s the thing so I love what I’m if I’m doing it I promise you I love it because there’s no way AGT is one of the most satisfying jobs I’ve ever had because you’re giving Dreams Away dude I would put that on I can’t pick which one is my favorite right because it’s all wonderful it’s part of this wonderful so fun to watch becoming you see what I mean cuz that’s what I’m doing Terry Cruz is never there it’s the journey you’re becoming I’m becoming something I don’t know what my next iteration is going to be but I’m loving every bit of what I’m doing I’m loving it you can tell that too the big smile HS but you are genuinely happy with everything that you do and and I’m sure the mental health side of things being true to yourself going to therapy working on yourself makes it even more enjoyable these last 10 to 15 years um last thing I want to ask you unless there’s something you want to add uh I always ask people to give advice for someone that wants to follow in their footsteps so if there is a young actor actress somebody that wants to get here in Hollywood or maybe is in school in New York and has those big dreams of of doing movies and TV what would you tell someone that that has those dreams one thing I I would really love to I would love to say is um figure out what you want and this is B it sounds simple but it’s it’s wild because what you want changes yeah you know what I mean you’re you’re you five years in and some people have become lawyers and be like I don’t want this you know what I mean it’s like you realize you’ve been doing stuff for your parents the whole time yeah you realize you’ve been doing something for somebody else you trying to do this to get girls you’ve been trying to do this for but you didn’t never want you never wanted that right dude you gotta understand I spent years just writing down what it is I wanted what do I want what do I want and that determines who you become when you want good things when you want see because you there are things I realized that I wanted because I was selfish because I was narcissistic yeah and I realized I didn’t want that anymore and then I when I wanted the right things it made me a better person yeah I want to be the best husband that has ever walk to Earth you know what I mean I want my wife to look at me let me tell you the the number one thing I want period is my wife to look at me and be like I’m so proud of who he is that’s my man M and he is he is the best husband I could have ever possibly had see that changes all the goals yep you know what I mean and when I tell young actors or anyone’s trying to get in this Biz whatever what do you want like figure it out because if you figure that out everything comes with it everything yeah um and I think that it’s wild because if people have the wrong goals and they haven’t figured out what they want you can someone else is going to put that in you mhm they’ll they’ll make one for you right if you don’t do it yourself all sudden Hollywood tells you what you want well and that’s crazy it is crazy it’s a crazy business you’ve had a crazy successful career Terry thank you so much brother for coming on the mental game so much means a lot to me I know this is going to help a lot of people and we’ll see everybody right back here next week on the mental game thank you and I can’t thank Terry enough for really opening up here on the mental game with me about his own mental health those suicidal thoughts and tough moments in his life and for everyone at home watching and listening Terry Cruz is exactly that same charismatic funloving great person you see in your TV and movies it is such a cool experience for me to get a sit down with him for an hour and talk mental health I can’t thank Terry enough for coming on the mental game that was no doubt my biggest and favorite interview so far next week on the mental game it is another surprise guest and it’s another big one I’m bringing one of the biggest rappers in hipop to the mental game you will see that right back here next week on the mental [Music] game .

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0.48 welcome back into the mental game where this week’s guest is actor Terry Cruz I
5.72 I would say suicide entered right when right when everything
11.08 fell apart that was the first time I actually seriously thought I would be
16.56 better off dead and in this episode Terry opens up about his amazing career in Hollywood where you’ve seen him in TV
23.88 and movies like Brooklyn 99 America’s Got Talent white chicks and much much more but Terry tells his powerful
31.359 emotional mental health story in an hour interview that I know you’re going to love this conversation got deep and
38.239 emotional Terry opens up about his childhood his abusive father finding pornography as a kid and that turning
44.64 into an addiction which led to him cheating on his wife and having suicidal thoughts having to check into rehab we
51.28 go over a lot in Terry’s mental health story and it is a really powerful and emotional conversation that I can’t wait
57.52 to share with all of you but if anyone out there is struggling with their mental health or you see somebody you
62.559 love a family member or friend going through a tough moment just asking them how they are feeling can make a big big
69.36 difference or even save their life for tools on how to help somebody going through crisis please visit the Ohio
75.52 Suicide Prevention Foundation website at ohio.org and we can help everyone
81.24 possible with their mental health but now it is time for the latest episode here on the mental game with Terry
88.84 Cruz [Music]
118.84 n [Music] welcome back into the mental game as you
125.2 can see I have a very special guest standing next to me or sitting next to me I should say big smile you know him
130.56 Terry Cruz from from White Chicks America’s Got Talent and just being probably one of the most infectious
136.04 Personalities in Hollywood Terry thank you so much for coming on the mental game thank you Brandon good to be here man yeah this is something that I know
142.239 you care a lot about mental health we’re going to get into into your background your career your early life everything
147.879 that you’ve done in movies TV and and your personal battle um with depression anxiety and mental health but the first
154.2 thing I ask everyone on the mental game is what does mental health mean to them and everyone has a different answer
159.599 because it’s very unique to that person whether it’s something that they’ve always taken care of or maybe there was a traumatic event that made them uh you
166.8 know take better care of their own mental health I’ll ask you the same thing though what does it mean to you wow I think for me mental health
174.599 means uh actually being in touch with yourself um you know as men we have the
183.0 ability almost it’s an advantage sometimes but we have the ability to
188.84 compartmentalized which is something where it keeps you going it keeps you moving doing what you’re doing you can
195.519 fight a war you can do a job you can do all these things and things will get done but you actually are a mess later
204.56 like you there’s all of a sudden you have to it’s coming back yeah in a big
210.239 way and when I say being in touch with yourself it’s kind of like it’s a lot of
215.36 to me unhealthy mental health is when you never get in touch like and then you
222.12 never know what what’s wrong you don’t know what makes you tick you don’t know
227.68 why you don’t know where you don’t know how and this thing is coming like the
234.159 the confusion the it’s almost like you got to settle out you know what I mean
239.2 it’s almost like all the chips have been played and everything but when it’s time to settle it’s like oh no you know what
245.76 I mean people are finding out they’re either in the hole or they’re bankrupt y or you know they they thought they had
253.12 it together and they don’t and that was me I feel like men specifically bury
259.68 things like you said compartmentalize and you’re taught at a young age and starting to change now with the younger
264.72 Generations but you’re Tau to rub dir on it just keep going um don’t be weak showing emotion is weak as a man um when
272.8 when were you comfortable speaking up about how you were feeling and being more comfortable
278.56 being emotional oh man this wasn’t it had to
283.919 be I I I wasn’t I didn’t even enter the game of sh sharing my emotions until
292.08 2010 wow you know what I mean now again I think I’ve always been artistic yeah
297.72 which is which is another thing which is left-handed right brain so I always saw the world a little bit differently you
304.199 know what I mean and I was able to express myself artistically with painting and drawing um even music you
311.52 know I practiced flute and different things so I was able to to to even take a different route which I always had
318.68 people looking at me funny but I but I really wasn’t a lot of people have have
324.639 mistak artistic ability with emotional ability you know what I mean it’s kind
330.16 of like yeah there’s a lot of guys that can sing a song and make everybody cry
335.56 and then their life is still a shambles yeah you know what I mean it’s kind of like we we know how to tap into these
340.8 things right but again it’s back to the fact that do you know why you’re doing this so do you know do you understand
347.24 what’s happening 2010 was the first time I actually entered therapy for the first
353.16 time and I had to like cuz I that’s when I was realizing like oh my God like my
358.36 life has fallen falling apart everything that I knew everything I thought is now
364.16 in a heap on the ground I don’t I everything I thought I knew was wrong right you know what I
371.72 mean it was it was a matter of you know you think there’s one day you think that
378.52 you know the the sun revolves around the earth and you you and it’s the way it’s
385.84 been everything proves it everything you could see it it it goes around us and then someone gives you the the the new
394.16 Flash no man we go around the Sun yep and you’re like what that I’m trying to
401.039 tell you that was what happened to me I was like you’re kidding no yep no because you understand that changes
407.24 everything yep that changes everything like every iota of everything when you
413.0 find out wow wait a minute we go around and all of a sudden you had to
418.96 you realize real all your math has been wrong y all your all the presumptions
424.52 all the things you thought all the formulas the stories that you tell yourself oh everything was wrong but now
430.919 once you get it right and if you keep it right you can go out of space right because you know but you could never
438.28 it’s like planning to go out out of space thinking that we go you know that uh the Sun goes around us and you’re
444.44 never going to make it you know what I mean like you’re GNA die in fact you’re gonna die trying and that’s what most
451.0 men end up doing because they deal with the knowledge that they had and it’s wrong and they die I give you all the
458.72 credit in the world to to It’s A Hard point to get to Rock Bottom I’ve been there myself but when you look at
464.36 yourself in the mirror and you can have all the help in the world and finally reach out to therapy have great family and great friends but it takes the
470.84 person that you’re looking at in the mirror to make that change and your honesty about that Journey since 2010 to
477.599 now and before I’d like to unpack that if you’re willing to because your story has a lot of chapters and they’re very
484.68 powerful and they built you into the man that you are today and I think your story as a child growing up in Flint and
490.8 watching the relationship between your parents and the anger um you had towards your father is something that that
496.8 people deal with you know all the time across the country um what was your childhood like and you spoke about being
503.68 a joyful kid and having the art element you weren’t allowed to go to the movies and you had to imagine like all the fun
509.72 things that people were talking about at school but what was your childhood like oh my god um first of all I had a a
515.24 father who was an alcoholic um and a mother who was not
521.479 but she was addicted to religion MH so it was two addicts in the house yeah you know what I mean one addicted to alcohol
528.04 the other one was religion and I was in the middle and uh you know you got to
533.92 understand me growing up when I was young you know early 70s I mean there
539.72 really was no thing such a you know it wasn’t called alcoholism like right you either unless you were on the street and
547.839 homeless that’s where you oh that’s a wno yeah but if you had a job and you
553.2 were doing your thing you weren’t an alcoholic it was it was so early in those days part of society like just it
560.36 was just yeah he’s C and everybody you know you coped with what you did they everybody had a drink it was no big deal
565.64 that was kind of the thing every sitcom everybody had a drink right after they got home work you know uh and then my
572.2 mother was super religious meaning we went to uh a church called The Church of
578.8 God in Christ and you could not do anything I mean I could not go to the movies couldn’t listen to secular music
585.2 no dancing no Sports no any I mean everything I ended up doing with my life
590.72 right I could not do as a kid so um I kind of went into myself you know it was
597.36 one of those things I had a lot of questions which was got me in a lot of trouble but uh I started this art
604.399 ability simply because I had a huge imagination and was wondering what the world was like I mean people would tell
611.12 me you know they went to the movies and they would describe the films and I would try to draw them out wow because I
617.56 couldn’t see them you know uh and all these things man I’d go but this is another thing is the world was always
623.76 creeping in yeah you know I’d go over people’s homes and they’re listening to the latest music and they’re listen
629.16 they’re doing and I’m like oh my God I’m seeing Freedom I’m watching like whoa these guys are dancing these people are
634.839 going to movies these people are not alcohol like yeah I was like you know I’ll never forget seeing my friend’s dad
642.0 come home and I rant like I was like oh hey man your father’s coming home they
647.04 were like yeah no no problem I was like he’s coming in like I was I literally
652.399 was telling my buddy he’s coming in the house and he was like yeah it’s my father it’s my dad I was going
659.639 and I was scared cuz I knew when your daddy came home get out go run just be
667.68 anywhere he isn’t um these are it was shocked me that this man that these kids
673.959 other other kids were like oh man they actually want their father to come home and then it created this huge like Gap
681.72 in my life like I was like something’s wrong what am I missing okay and then I
686.8 just and then I threw it all into being a good kid mhm because my thing is especially when you
694.8 become a pleaser because my my father’s alcoholic it was like I just would do
699.92 anything to make him happy to make him calm to so he wouldn’t blow up so it was
705.16 like you need another drink what do you want me to do I’ll fix things I’ll do stuff I you know I’ll be a good kid I’ll
711.0 sit down I’ll shut up yeah and when the and when my mother was on the religious
716.399 side it was the same thing MH where it was like how I I’ll lead the the the the solo and the choir I’ll jump around I
723.519 I’ll go to church with you I’ll pray with you I’ll do all this stuff and so but I didn’t know what I wanted yeah it
730.44 was always about what the parents were about so so I kind of lost myself in
737.0 them and uh it was it was horrible and
742.279 the thing for me and I’m not not being too long is that I jumped into
747.399 pornography as a kid because I had an uncle again it was one of those experiences when you leave the house and
755.68 I was a young kid and I probably was eight or nine years old and he had a trunk of pornography in his basement
762.279 yeah and I was like I was hooked immediately like cuz that was something where I was it was totally it was like a
769.44 it was like a drink yeah it was like a drug or anything else I immediately forgot about any problems and I could
777.72 Escape there mhm um and I didn’t even know what sex was that’s was so crazy no
782.76 one ever talked about it I didn’t even know what it was but I knew this is powerful this is this is incredible man
789.519 like what this is what I always wondered this is this the secret this is what’s going on and and I got hooked man and I
797.0 and that was my secret for years and years because I knew I couldn’t talk to my father to this day I’ve never had a
803.8 talk about sex with my father to this day um and my mother was always like you
810.199 know don’t mention sex are are you doing it are you doing it’s like no no no so everything was condemnation um so I just
817.639 decided I’ll keep this to me to myself yeah and it created a horrible horrible
824.76 cycle of guilt of Shame and then a cycle
830.48 of having to do more to get back to get rid of the shame I had to be a better
836.199 kid mhm which was a cycle you know what I mean and it starts over
841.839 and over and over again and you get a lot of [ __ ] done I’m trying to tell you
847.68 you become like a major achiever you know what I mean I was always the one
853.0 like Terry does this and Terry does that and look how talented and look at and I didn’t mind that because it covered up
859.32 what I felt inside I felt like a dirty dog like yeah I felt like nothing I felt
865.44 horrible um I knew what was going on in my house I knew was going on in myself I
871.04 do and but I knew also I felt like everyone else was like that cuz in the church yeah in the church that was that
878.6 restrictive man my pastor was selling drugs out of the pull pit wow this is what’s so crazy because these kind of
886.279 things when you’re that maniacal about rules and it’s like you can’t follow
893.36 yeah you know what I mean it’s like uh and so you learn to hide M you learn and so even in the church this is where a
901.079 lot of problems you know become where people go to church and they feel like
906.68 we’re covering up what’s really the issue yep and dude it was I mean our we
913.12 had so many people in that church with double lives you know some people were gay so and wouldn’t say some people were
920.56 selling drugs some people were having Affairs some people doing and no one was
925.639 open about anything like no one would yep it was just hey man how are you
932.279 doing God’s good you know yeah you know and and you covered it up with some sort of saying and you were a mess a mess
940.079 inside well you having that experience at home with your parents and your dad
946.639 being alcoholic your mom being very very religious and you having this Creative Juice in you that you just want to get
952.199 out and experience life and you start to you know dabble in certain things friends houses seeing how their parents
958.12 treat them you mentioned discovering pornography and that became an addiction for you I want to dive into that but
964.759 first the the watching your father and your mother’s relationship how did that
970.519 scar you and hurt your mental health at a young age when you’re learning and picking things up oh easy um well my
977.48 early earliest memory is my father knocking my mother out uh he was
982.56 physically abusive just straight up he would it’s wild because he didn’t hit us
988.12 because my my mother would kill him right but my mother let him hit her not let I wouldn’t even say let but
995.319 she would just say she kind of took her abuse as part for the course yeah you
1002.199 know what I mean um and you got to understand too when you have people at the church who were like you should you
1008.12 can never divorce you know and so it became her issue yeah you know what I
1015.68 mean it was like you um you you know there’s something you’re doing wrong if he’s hitting you
1022.839 and dude that changed my I mean my whole framework was like okay it’s a man’s
1027.959 world and I was so scared of him man it was like you know it’s your rules dude
1034.36 and I learned that women were second class citizens MH straight up and it was
1041.16 and it taught me everything I needed to know I mean it was just like women were not they were just not as valuable as
1048.96 men were yeah straight up and everything in my life told me that um and it was uh
1056.039 even from in the way people acted on the street and I remember you know having
1061.08 friends that were like dude you supposed to have five girlfriends I was like what right huh how how do you do that they
1067.679 were like hey you’re a player that you got to be a player and I was like so so
1073.4 that means like five of them is worth one of us you know what I mean and that’s how I equated it my head right
1079.76 you know it’s just and it’s all these wrong lessons right and dude I was
1086.08 confused but I knew I said I got to win this game called life
1091.12 so I had to fake it like I had to literally be this picture of manhood
1099.48 this super manhood is what it is it’s like um it’s a it’s a form of narcissism that
1107.039 yeah you it there’s you there’s Being Human and then there’s being
1113.919 superum and and what you try to get to you got to be superum all the time but
1119.159 you can’t keep that right so what happens is you fall below human because when you fail now you’re less than human
1125.799 yeah and these and the problem is the thing is in reality is that you’re
1131.28 always human all the time but if you but the if the only way you exist is either
1137.08 above it or beneath it you’re you’re you’re always on the wrong track yeah it’s a roller coaster
1143.4 you know what I mean you’re seeing it when you’re below it you’re worse than everybody else yeah so now I I can
1150.0 actually put suicide in my head because now I’m less than human MH and I deserve
1157.24 to die I I don’t deserve to be here I don’t deserve the good things I have or if you’re superhuman now you’re above
1164.6 everybody else I get to determine who what where and I am the boss I’m the one
1170.52 that tells you know what’s happening in your life and his life and their life
1175.72 and and it’s kind of like the 80s were all about that where if you had money
1181.039 you were the king of every you could get people to do anything yeah and you know it’s it’s kind of like the rules
1187.88 were if you had to it’s like a rules of a business is uh became if you had the
1193.24 biggest bench breast even though it had nothing to do with the business right you know what a big badass man hey man
1200.4 oh he benches mess okay he’s the boss tell us where these you know where the uh how should we should sell these
1207.12 things or what you know let’s look at the receipts in the business he’s like he don’t know but I I got the biggest
1213.2 bench and those guys ran everything by the way yeah and they would run you into the ground and I realized that’s the way
1219.96 I needed to be and football was the way I jumped in that world because I was an
1226.799 artist but I felt like no one was going to pay me to to do art but everybody’s
1232.4 going to give give me a job or I was kind of going to get money to go scholarship or whatever to play football
1239.76 yeah because as an athlete it looked at you were M you were superhuman Macho Man
1244.96 you were immediately superhuman so you got everything you wanted if you were the the biggest athlete you got what you
1251.76 wanted yep and that’s where I live I mean that was my goal even as a young
1257.919 kid kid I remember working out first because I thought I would have to kill my father and then as I started to get
1266.12 muscle and get stronger and I the the term I like to use when I got a little
1271.44 neck you know the gang stopped messing with me you know I used to get beat up
1277.799 yeah um gang stopped messing with me the drug dealers decided Well maybe he CU
1283.4 they would never mess with a guy they thought could go pro or do something
1288.48 athletically you know it was kind of like all right we’ll leave him alone uh and I found protection in that
1295.559 and just having that uh but it but I got all the other junk that came with it
1301.88 yeah you know what I mean MH you mentioned suicide um you’ve battled a
1307.84 lot throughout your own mental health journey and when you go back no one talked about you’re supposed to be this
1312.96 Macho Man and not bring up your problems you’re going through you know the abuse that your father was doing your mother
1318.44 the abuse that you were receiving yourself from your from your father um trying to figure out what this addiction
1324.919 that you didn’t know was an addiction at first um with pornography you have so much to balce but you feel like you
1330.24 can’t speak up to anyone I’m sure and the stigma with mental health you didn’t say a word um did suicide ever come into
1339.32 your mind and when did that happen the hard I I would say suicide
1344.679 entered right when right when everything fell part that was the first time I
1349.96 actually seriously thought I would be better off dead and I remember when my wife decided
1358.279 to leave and there I was and this was the thing man Brandon I was very
1363.559 successful yeah at the time um had done a some bunch of movies and was doing TV
1371.039 and had money and was living the picture um but then my my personal life
1379.679 did it it was of shambles man um there were things I never told my wife never told
1385.799 anybody um and I was I was just afraid that this thing was going to fall apart
1392.2 like it’s like having something up on on stilts and it and you keep building it really really big but you’re looking at
1398.24 these stilts and they’re just bending you know where I was I was like oh man I
1403.76 I knew my marriage was going to fall at some time and I knew knew this precarious little picture was going to
1411.039 fall over but Hollywood didn’t care about that right like if it did I it
1418.84 happens many many times so they were like you know hey man you they don’t care that if you lose your wife and kids
1425.039 they don’t they don’t have there not a problem in fact we’ll give you more movies if you right um and I hated the
1431.36 way I was thinking like that like I was thinking well that’s not dangerous in Hollywood I mean people you know but
1437.0 then I was thinking about what about me as a person like this goes against everything I said I was I’ve
1443.159 told people I am I I I I have this story but it’s a whole another story it’s two
1449.44 lives yeah and I was like I don’t want to do this anymore and I literally was just I was I
1457.76 was in the throws and and it and when that moment happened I actually reached out because it was a good friend of mine
1465.559 and I said hey man I just lost my wife and kids um and I said dude I’m a fake I’m
1473.96 I’ll never forget I was like d I’m fake uh everything everyone sees is just
1480.12 not real and he said Terry he said I can’t promise you that you’re going to get
1486.2 your wife and family back he said in fact they might be gone he said but I
1491.559 can tell you that you need to get better for you mhm now you have to understand
1497.32 that was a foreign concept the fact that you had to get I had to
1503.039 improve for improvement’s sake yeah you for for my whole life remember I was I
1510.64 was a pleaser yep so it was you do good things so that so and so wouldn’t get mad or this and this and then I learned
1516.88 how to do good things so I could get what I would call Scooby Snacks so it’s like there’s a reward here this is the
1522.08 reward here this is where you get money you do good you do good but you don’t you don’t mean it yeah yeah it’s it’s a
1527.2 little like okay you know paint the picture so that you can get what you want so it’s very manipulative yeah you
1534.24 know I mean I learned how to manipulate people right but I didn’t learn how to do good for goodness sake like there was
1541.08 no internal Locust of control there it was always about manipulating people so you could get what you wanted and um I
1549.279 was like just for me like I I don’t I’ve never done that I don’t understand what
1555.52 that means and then I when when I knew I said I don’t know where to go but I’ve
1561.559 never been to therapy and I decided to check myself in
1567.0 to this place it was called psychological Counseling Services in Phoenix um and I never I’d heard about
1573.88 it it was dealing with sex addiction uh but also was my first
1579.039 experience was just talking my story out like i’ never been to therapy and this place has dealt with big major people
1586.799 that have gotten made major scandals you know what I mean um from pastors to
1592.679 athletes to all these people who were like had double lives um and I remember
1598.84 going in there and I was like oh man first day I was like this ain’t me man this is crazy this is not me yep I said
1605.12 I gooped up man I said this is all me and they just kept reading my mail and
1610.2 it was like so was your father alcoholic I was like well yeah yeah and was your mom very religious I was like yeah how
1618.24 how how you know how’ you know that I and they were like okay but and they just kept giving me these
1624.36 signs and I was like yes I said oh this is me this is me and dude talk about and
1634.08 what happened I like to call it the cracking of an egg because you’re trying to piece it back together but there’s no
1640.76 way you can do that it’s like the egg is all over it’s like it’s gone now you’re frying it by now you know what I mean
1648.52 um the hardest hardest thing man I just remember like I going back to my room
1655.44 cuz it was an intensive where you stay all day it was like 12 hours and you go back home you go back to your hotel room
1662.64 and I was like how did I get this so wrong and this is the thing too because
1668.0 you looked at yourself like a superhuman yeah then you’re dealing with the
1673.36 embarrassment of having it that wrong and you’re dealing with that
1678.76 because now you know it’s it’s very narcissistic because you think you’re perfect right that you can do anything
1684.799 and get through anything I get I had this all right and you realize and no
1690.039 you had it all wrong dude yeah and then I started and it was like what else did
1695.519 I have wrong what else did I have wrong and it man it’s like the best way I can
1701.279 really describe it is let’s say you have a really filthy house I mean filthy like
1708.44 you’re a hoarder yeah and you got a you got a guest bathroom that gets clean
1714.399 just a guest bathroom and it’s spotless all of a sudden you’re like
1719.799 this house holy CRA yeah you know you you you were fine living in your mess
1725.919 yep it was like oh yeah you get used to your junk you could step over it you knew where the junk was you know what I
1731.799 mean I knew where the pile’s dirt was and I was like that’s my pile right here you know but once that one spot is
1738.0 cleaned up you real like the whole house needs to be done in fact for me I
1745.679 realized the house needed to fall yeah like it was beyond repair it was mold in
1753.0 in the walls it was I said I got to tear this whole house down yeah and that was
1759.919 the beginning of my new life like it was totally a new a new start for me for you
1766.64 if I can dig into that phone call when you call your wife um and let her know
1773.96 what you had not told her yeah um that is a moment that I think probably was
1779.799 the lowest point for you absolutely and it also is the most life-changing and
1785.32 start to taking care of your mental health um what led to that phone call
1790.96 and what do you remember about the emotions that the suicidal thought that came up and what you felt in that in
1796.039 that call oh yeah well first of all I I it was wild as you know as an actor you
1803.279 know I I was in Vancouver like 10 years earlier than that phone call so I just
1809.679 started in 2000 and you know I was nervous and scared and and the way I always dealt
1817.2 with that was porn um and what was crazy is that you know I spent my time in
1824.279 Vancouver and in porn wasn’t enough you know that because that’s the thing you get that you know you put that in your
1830.919 life all of a sudden you know you begin to act things out right and I told
1836.72 myself I was getting a massage and the whole thing and I ended up with a massage with a massuse and cheated on my
1845.0 wife for the first time and I said okay I’m going to go to
1850.72 my grade with this like I don’t believe I cross this line but I will never tell
1857.559 like again a lot of the things that I’d already done I said you know I’m G to be private but this one was like holy cow I
1865.639 cross this line and what was wild is that my wife was always suspicious yeah
1872.12 you know and I’d start arguments to basically get out of it like what what do you mean you know there’s ways I knew
1878.559 to be very manipulative yeah in order to not be questioned anymore start
1883.72 arguments and she’s like fine whatever I’m all right what you know and so I
1889.559 held it it was my secret and I kept it secret and then I’ll never forget
1896.0 because what but what happens though every time something like that happens and every time you use pornography I got
1901.96 one step away from my marriage more and more it was like putting a brick yeah
1907.2 it’s like again I would I would really compare it to any other drug um you know if you’re if you you’re
1915.639 using every time you do you’re one step away from the people who love you yeah
1923.08 um every drink puts you one step away from those who love you mhm uh and for
1929.639 me it was the same thing with porn and I said and we were just getting farther and farther apart like I I didn’t I
1936.6 couldn’t see us being married at to this spot like yeah it was just when is it
1943.559 going to happen not if it’s just when yeah and dude um we were arguing on the
1951.2 phone and I’ll never forget there was a moment when I was just tired I was just
1957.44 like I knew who I was because I knew you you know you’re lying you live with it
1962.799 see the question is is the question I used to always ask which was crazy is that I would go why doesn’t she believe
1970.76 me you know and I always put it on her like why don’t you believe me but
1976.519 everything changed when the question became why am I
1982.0 lying that’s a whole different perspective now it’s me you know yeah
1987.2 and I was looking at her like H it was you you know you should be it was all it was great because you could always blame
1993.039 and push and yeah and there was that moment on the call when I I was like am
1999.12 I thinking of another lie I said I can’t I’m done thinking up
2005.24 lies like there was there was another lie to think up she kept questioning me MH and she was like something she said
2011.6 and I’ll never forget she said what is it I don’t know about you Terry
2017.88 Cruz like she went right there it was the perfect question cuz it was either
2025.799 I’m going to lie about this or I’m going to tell the truth and I told her about what happened
2032.48 in Vancouver this is what you don’t know about me and I thought and it was so weird as
2039.44 I thought see we cool now you got to understand like that’s how deluded you
2045.36 could be because I’m like that was a long time ago she was like but for her
2050.639 it happened 30 seconds ago mhm and she was like I’m out I’m done I was like
2058.8 what are you talking about cuz I feel like but another thing I could manipulate you by the money yeah the
2066.0 life but my wife didn’t care about that you know she’s like she never cared
2071.159 about any of that stuff yeah that was all me that was all my little man world you know what I mean she was like I’m
2076.72 I’ve never been with you I married you when you were broke you had nothing loved you and if we continue to have
2082.599 nothing I still would have loved you right like somewhere you thought that was a game changer it’s not but this is
2091.44 yeah this you’re not being honest you not being loyal you you really you’re
2098.359 lying to me all these years and um and I knew I lost her I knew it was
2104.96 over it was crushing dude when I say crushing I’ll never it it was a
2111.88 darkness that I can’t describe you know what I mean it was like the World closed
2117.16 in and it um and I fell in a hole and only way I could have got out
2124.4 was if somebody reached down and that was my call for help yeah and I I it’s
2130.839 an emotional Journey when you get to the Rock Bottom moment um and you can either
2135.92 Crash and Burn and for you know for me we were talking before we started rolling I was suicidal for months and it
2143.56 got to a point where and I’ve used alcohol for a long long time to cope um I I I still I don’t know if I was an
2150.04 alcoholic but now I look back and I was addicted to that buzz uh today when we’re recording this actually marks
2155.2 eight months sober which is like all right congrats brother thanks brother um it’s just crazy to me that you that you
2161.4 you talk about your porn addiction that you just go to this and it’s your coping mechanism and then you have that crash
2166.52 and burn moment and it’s either you can do two things you can crash and burn or
2171.64 you can take a step no matter how uncomfortable it is you checked in I’ve done the same thing those first two days
2177.52 I had no want to be there I didn’t open up I didn’t say anything and I’ll never forget when one of the therapists in
2184.48 these classrooms I don’t know how yours was but we talked to therapist psychiatrist then you had these group classes where you yep same thing we had
2190.72 them yeah and you have people of every age every background every color like it is but we all have one thing in common
2197.48 we have an addiction or we don’t want to be here we’re we’re depressed and suicidal and someone asked me why aren’t
2204.319 you opening up Brandon and I said you know I’ve always been emotional I’ve just you know I just don’t want to be a
2209.599 [ __ ] and excuse my language but I I said that and the therapist stopped me she said that’s the problem right there
2215.88 that’s the stigma with with mental health especially men’s mental health I had no idea I thought that’s just who I
2222.88 am and once I realized that and that I could open up more and I’ve had the same conversation with uh Ricky Williams he
2228.8 had the same he had the same re revelation of you know he was you know kind of a [ __ ] and was overly emotional
2235.599 guess what there’s nothing wrong with that and as soon as you look at yourself in the mirror and start making that change and you did it when you checked
2241.72 in and you had to work on yourself your marriage your career but when you take control of it It’s a Grind and it’s a
2248.28 struggle but you have to do that if you want to be truly happy with yourself you know you know what’s funny is that
2255.88 uh once you overcome that you know it’s
2260.92 it’s funny because you know people still call me a [ __ ] to the stay you know when I came know it’s funny when I came
2267.04 forward I’m not going to say that cuz I don’t want you I don’t want you to hit me no but but it’s funny you say that because you know when I came forward um
2274.48 about you know me my sexual assault MH you know it’s a lot of people are like
2279.839 Terry Cruz is a big look at his big old muscular how could he get assaulted he’s
2284.96 he’s a [ __ ] and he’s this and and they still say that like to this day but
2290.0 dude I I feel so reliev like like that was one of the best
2297.359 things I ever did but it was because of the 10 years of counseling
2305.04 yeah and and therapy that allowed me to open up to to realize that wait a minute
2312.88 man I’m just human mhm and there were and this is another thing that blew me away when I said it and I came forward
2320.92 there were so many men I mean you’re talking wrestlers at Ohio State you’re
2327.76 talking football players from the pros to college they all came for there
2333.72 people were I had to say hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of men came forward to say hey man I got molested
2341.72 when I was eight I got molested last year this guy you know I get this I was
2348.64 on my job and this guy grabbed me and I was like what and and and this is what
2353.96 so crazy is because you put it out of your head like it didn’t happen yeah no I’m too manly for that to happen but I
2361.4 had to acknowledge no no that happened to you that was you mhm
2367.72 and the thing is is that people were like well Terry let this thing happen I
2372.96 like no just like my mother never didn’t let herself get abused it’s just these things are like
2379.56 straight bullets yeah you know what I mean like did you if someone’s firing just shooting an
2386.68 AK-47 and you get hit in the shoulder did you let yourself get hit no no
2393.52 no dude this hit me I did the talk with Dak Shepard he was like look it’s not
2399.52 your fault it’s not your fault but it is your
2404.68 responsibility that bit hit me so hard you it’s not it’s not your fault
2413.0 but it is your responsibility to do something about your situation about
2419.56 what happened to you because that’s all we can do yep dude is oh my god dude
2425.48 it’s it’s but so so when I hear people go ah yeah you know a lot of times it’s online cuz they don’t say this stuff to
2431.599 my parents I’m not saying it to your face next to you I know but but again I don’t mind it I don’t mind it yeah um
2438.079 it’s just part of part for the course cuz that is the thing that keeps people in a hole yep imagine if we fell in a
2445.72 hole and you have no way out and if you yell for help someone’s going to call
2452.119 you a [ __ ] it’s crazy so what happens is people die in the hole MH and they never
2460.28 come out I mean you get skeletons you fall you’re down there with skeletons who never said a word because they
2465.56 didn’t want to be called a [ __ ] yep or be called less than manly and dude I’m like help if you go
2474.2 to war people say help M and they get out of the pit and there’s not one thing
2481.28 this is the only way you’re going to survive but remember it’s about being superhuman as a man you have to be more
2486.88 than human yep so I’m not I realize my Humanity involves me yelling for help
2495.0 have you noticed somebody in your life recently just not being themselves maybe you noticed that they’re sad or angry or
2501.52 not hanging out with your family or friends as much as they usually do they might be struggling with their mental
2507.2 health and going through crisis right now and you can help them if you want to learn more about how to be a suicide
2513.04 prevention Advocate you can find resources and tools at the Ohio Suicide Prevention Foundation website
2520.16 ohio.org again ohio.org you’ve heard Terry and I talk
2525.92 about this with both of our mental health stories in this episode you can’t do it alone and talking about our mental
2532.2 health can help you or somebody that needs to hear it I mean that’s how we
2537.52 help each other in these tough moments when we’re feeling anxious when we’re going through those tough moments
2542.72 struggling with depression or even suicidal thoughts I promise the more that we talk the more we can help each
2548.599 other you’ve heard Terry and I talk about it throughout this entire episode and that’s exactly what we want to help
2553.76 with at the Ohio Suicide Prevention Foundation because together we can help each other with our mental health I tell
2561.04 people two things with mental health and I’m not a therapist not a psychologist I’ve lived I’ve lived through depression
2567.559 anxiety addiction had a check in because I was suicidal number one do something I
2572.92 I I don’t care if it’s call your mom call your best friend call your therapist please just do something and number two is feelings are temporary yes
2580.839 and I never would have believed that when I sat there on the edge of a bridge drunk thinking about jumping off or or
2587.28 those nights you know thinking about laying down in traffic I I wrote a goodbye letter sober one day and took a
2592.72 bunch of pills and prayed not to wake up I I had this for months and months I never would have believed that but look at where you can go look at where you’re
2599.0 at 10 plus years later from your Rock Bottom I’m about a year and a half from where I was in that moment and those
2606.16 feelings are temporary it will pass but you have to put in the work like you’ve said this entire time if I can I I want
2612.28 to flip the script a little bit with our final 10 minutes here with just how you are taking care of your mental health
2618.76 now where therapy has been a constant thing for you you’re I know your wife’s working on the other side of this wall
2625.0 right now on her business here that you guys got in La together um how do you take care of your mental health now oh
2630.28 my god um constantly yeah uh I am all first of all uh there’s never
2637.64 underestimate the power of reading um you know there have been so
2645.079 many books so many like gems that I’ve gotten over the years I mean through
2651.319 audio books and listening podcasts yeah like this uh but also you know I
2658.839 continue my wife and I continue to go to counseling we continue to see people we
2664.16 continue to talk to people um and then there’s another thing where
2669.92 you become you know you don’t really know something until you’re good enough to
2674.96 tell it or talk about it MH I I began to talk a lot yeah
2682.0 um and I what’s weird is even today even
2687.119 doing this today is part of my therapy it’s like by looking back and unpacking
2695.2 different moments different things I learn a little bit more about myself every time I talk yep um because you
2702.599 have to be able to explain it you know what I mean um and then also it to watch
2710.359 other people get help it’s like you know to hear those people come forward and go
2717.079 dude I my father was alcoholic I was in this super religious stuff I was
2723.359 addicted to porn I want to stop I I remember um one of my big things this
2730.52 was early this was probably around 2012 maybe 2013 I did a thing called Dirty
2736.52 Little Secret where I had Facebook live this was back in the day and I put a
2741.64 post out that basically told about my pornography addiction and this is early
2746.96 like yeah about 2011 like a year into therapy and stuff and people flipped you
2752.96 got to understand yeah flipped different no one was they were like what uh Good
2759.04 Morning America today show uh CBS This Morning they all wanted me on the next day people flipped out all the people I
2766.8 worked with um Old Spice was literally they were like I think we got to let him go oh my God he’s admitting to something
2773.88 that’s heinous this this crazy and I just the reason is I said hey man if
2778.96 anyone else is going through something like this I just had to let you know you’re not
2784.04 alone and let’s talk about this stuff dude what was so crazy is that I
2790.76 remember the guys and this is to their to their benefit to their I have to give them props for this
2797.24 because Proctor and Gamble was like wait a minute he didn’t do anything wrong
2802.28 he’s just saying what he’s been through I said no no we’re not firing him in
2809.079 fact he’s he’s good with us and they let me know you got to understand it was so
2814.359 powerful cuz it was a moment where they were like we can’t have him as a spokesperson because uh but it’s like no
2821.839 no he’s admitting to something he’s being human yep then all the people
2828.4 started and then I remember telling all the morning shows I was like it’s on
2833.839 Facebook live just play that yeah I was like I don’t have to go back and now go on these shows and do all this stuff
2839.8 yeah but um those moments let me know wasn’t alone and
2847.8 that’s that’s the trick the trick to a lot of these I think suicidal thoughts
2854.4 and thoughts of self harm is is a thought that you’re all by yourself MH
2860.88 that no one’s there with you and it’s a lie and it’s a trick but when you really
2867.68 reach out and realize wait a minute yeah there’s a whole bunch of people this is why I I always say social media is so
2875.559 it’s it’s wonderful and dangerous at the same time because with kids and teenagers they’re trying to discover
2881.88 their way and all a sudden you get a lot of negativity MH but you got to find the
2887.72 positive right and that’s the problem is it’s overwhelming and you you gotta it
2892.92 can mess with your head you know but for me I found the positive and I found the
2899.119 people who helped me get out of this hole yep well and you saying you’re not
2905.0 alone in real realizing that that is the most powerful thing with mental health it’s exactly why I started this show to
2911.079 help people that feel the same as you and I did and you mentioned social media that’s the whole reason why I we’re sitting here you commented on I had I
2918.04 had Nate Burleson on and you commented on that episode and I’m like all right let’s figure out how to get Terry on here and talk about mental health and I
2924.2 knew I had to do it I I first of all I I was so cool just it was so cool to to
2930.76 see you and Nate talking about this stuff and I just had to I couldn’t hold back it was like go guys go like yes
2938.64 well thank you you know what I mean and um and and it’s so powerful because I had I had to encourage you because it
2944.72 was like no man every time someone is willing to talk about this stuff it
2949.799 breaks down another brick remember every time you use you’re you’re putting a
2954.839 brick up yep but every time we talk pulling a brick down yep you know and I
2961.119 just decided pull These Bricks down man pull these walls down
2966.4 and you’re going to get teased people some people are going to not understand yeah but dude you know how many people
2972.4 do yep people who do are way more than the people who don’t right and you’re
2978.52 able to help so many people just by telling your story because relatability is one of the biggest things with mental
2984.64 health so one thank you for coming on I have a couple more questions for I want to get into some fun some fun stuff here
2989.96 to mental health fun but I want to get into some of your career um I saw you at the Rams game two weeks ago of course
2996.24 they got you on the big screen singing the famous song from White Chicks um do you have a favorite moment from from
3001.72 your career favorite um part that you’ve played I mean I think I I love The Longest Yard like that just such a fun
3009.04 character but but between that white chicks America’s Got tal I mean you’ve got to do a lot of cool things plus your
3014.48 NFL career I mean is there something you can point to that’s like this is my moment actually it’s like trying to pick
3021.079 out a favorite child can’t do it some parents do it and I I would never do that I have I love all my kids there’s
3029.92 the answer and but this is the deal like some my son got famous like he had a TV
3035.24 show yeah and I have another daughter who’s quietly doing her dream is one better than the other no no
3043.599 not at all you know what I mean it’s like as long as they’re living their best life that’s I look at that for
3051.28 every project M like I got little projects that didn’t do anything but I
3056.559 love to death yeah that I’m like man I’m so glad I did that and then I have big
3063.04 giant things and I’m like that was that went pretty good yeah and I love them the same and I have to tell you it’s
3068.839 it’s funny because because people do know you more from certain things but I
3074.52 am the accumulation of everything I’ve been through right from every part
3079.68 everything I love The Longest Yard The Longest Yard got me Everybody Hates Chris because I work Chris rot and then
3087.839 it got me all those movies with Sandler and then all those movies with the wayin
3092.92 and then all the and it got me Brooklyn 99 and with from idiocracy and president
3098.0 kamacho and jumping I mean everything I first of all every iota of my career and
3104.92 this is I made this a rule is I don’t do anything for money I only do it for the
3112.48 satisfaction of doing it and the money I let the money take care of itself yep
3118.119 that’s the thing so I love what I’m if I’m doing it I promise you I love it
3123.599 because there’s no way AGT is one of the most satisfying jobs I’ve ever had because
3131.359 you’re giving Dreams Away dude I would put that on I can’t pick which one is my
3137.0 favorite right because it’s all wonderful it’s part of this wonderful so
3142.359 fun to watch becoming you see what I mean cuz that’s what I’m doing Terry Cruz is never there it’s the journey
3148.52 you’re becoming I’m becoming something I don’t know what my next iteration is going to be but I’m loving every bit of
3157.119 what I’m doing I’m loving it you can tell that too the big smile HS but you are genuinely happy with everything that
3163.2 you do and and I’m sure the mental health side of things being true to yourself going to therapy working on yourself makes it even more enjoyable
3169.28 these last 10 to 15 years um last thing I want to ask you unless there’s something you want to add uh I always
3174.76 ask people to give advice for someone that wants to follow in their footsteps so if there is
3181.119 a young actor actress somebody that wants to get here in Hollywood or maybe
3186.44 is in school in New York and has those big dreams of of doing movies and TV what would you tell someone that that
3192.28 has those dreams one thing I I would really love to I would love to say
3199.119 is um figure out what you want and this is B it
3207.28 sounds simple but it’s it’s wild because what you want changes yeah you know what I
3214.2 mean you’re you’re you five years in and some people have become lawyers and be like I don’t want this you know what I
3219.72 mean it’s like you realize you’ve been doing stuff for your parents the whole time yeah you realize you’ve been doing something for somebody else you trying
3225.92 to do this to get girls you’ve been trying to do this for but you didn’t never want you never wanted that right dude you gotta understand I spent years
3232.88 just writing down what it is I wanted what do I want what do I want and that
3239.64 determines who you become when you want good things when
3245.0 you want see because you there are things I realized that I wanted because I was selfish because I was narcissistic
3252.599 yeah and I realized I didn’t want that anymore and then I when I wanted the right things it made me a better person
3260.28 yeah I want to be the best husband that has ever walk to Earth you know what I
3266.96 mean I want my wife to look at me let me tell you the the number one thing I want
3273.799 period is my wife to look at me and be like I’m so proud of who he is that’s my
3281.359 man M and he is he is the best husband I could have ever possibly had see that
3289.72 changes all the goals yep you know what I mean and when I tell young actors or
3295.119 anyone’s trying to get in this Biz whatever what do you want like figure it out
3302.079 because if you figure that out everything comes with it everything yeah
3308.2 um and I think that it’s wild because if people have the wrong
3314.319 goals and they haven’t figured out what they want you can someone else is going to put that in you mhm they’ll they’ll
3321.4 make one for you right if you don’t do it yourself all sudden Hollywood tells
3326.559 you what you want well and that’s crazy it is crazy it’s a crazy business you’ve had a crazy successful career Terry
3333.16 thank you so much brother for coming on the mental game so much means a lot to me I know this is going to help a lot of people and we’ll see everybody right
3338.64 back here next week on the mental game thank you and I can’t thank Terry enough for really opening up here on the mental
3344.76 game with me about his own mental health those suicidal thoughts and tough moments in his life and for everyone at
3350.48 home watching and listening Terry Cruz is exactly that same charismatic
3356.4 funloving great person you see in your TV and movies it is such a cool
3362.24 experience for me to get a sit down with him for an hour and talk mental health I can’t thank Terry enough for coming on
3367.599 the mental game that was no doubt my biggest and favorite interview so far
3373.52 next week on the mental game it is another surprise guest and it’s another big one I’m bringing one of the biggest
3379.72 rappers in hipop to the mental game you will see that right back here next week on the mental
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