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La plateforme YouTube permet une grande variété de contenus vidéo qui touchent des sujets allant de l’humour à des intérêts personnels divers. Elle met un point d’honneur à fournir un espace sûr et respectueux où chacun peut découvrir de nouveaux points de vue tout en suivant les directives communautaires.
Évaluer les résultats d’un arrêt réussi
Souligner les progrès dans la qualité des interactions sociales
Les liens avec un partenaire se renforcent, créant une meilleure connexion émotionnelle et physique.
Démontrer les étapes nécessaires pour un bonheur durable
En diminuant la dépendance, on peut expérimenter des bénéfices durables dans tous les aspects de la vie.
Décrire les progrès réalisés en matière de santé mentale
Cesser cette pratique a pour effet une augmentation de l’énergie, une humeur plus stable et une meilleure capacité de concentration.
Réfléchir aux facteurs sous-jacents à la croissance de cette pratique
Réfléchir au rôle de l’isolement et du désir
La solitude et le désir non satisfait, dans un couple ou dans la vie personnelle, sont des facteurs qui renforcent cette pratique.
Explorer l’impact comportemental de la consommation de pornographie
La pornographie est un facteur influent. Elle renforce fréquemment l’envie de se masturber et peut fausser la perception de la sexualité.
Mettre en lumière les éléments psychologiques et émotionnels
Le stress, l’anxiété ou un sentiment d’insatisfaction dans d’autres domaines de la vie peuvent mener à cette pratique fréquente.
Analyser les racines et les manifestations de la dépendance à la masturbation
Examiner les différents aspects de la masturbation et ses manifestations
Bien que souvent bénéfique pour diminuer le stress et mieux comprendre son propre corps, la masturbation, lorsqu’elle devient habituelle, peut causer des problèmes importants.
Observer les signes d’un comportement addictif
Une dépendance à la masturbation se traduit souvent par une intensification de la fréquence, ainsi qu’une difficulté à gérer l’activité, ce qui peut nuire aux relations interpersonnelles, notamment avec un partenaire.
Étudier les répercussions sur l’état mental et physique
L’addiction à la masturbation, liée à une surconsommation de pornographie, génère une sollicitation compulsive du système dopaminergique, ce qui peut entraîner des symptômes comme une éjaculation précoce, un épuisement énergétique ou une insatisfaction dans la vie sexuelle.
Formuler une stratégie pour arrêter
Proposer des démarches efficaces pour réduire cette habitude
- Repérer les éléments déclencheurs : Notez ce qui vous incite à avoir envie.
- Remplacer par d’autres engagements : Pratiquez une activité physique ou découvrez de nouveaux centres d’intérêt.
- Se fixer des objectifs clairs : Optez pour une approche progressive ou participez au mouvement « nofap » pour un sevrage total.
Mettre en évidence l’impact du soutien social sur le bien-être
- Discuter avec un sexologue : Un professionnel peut guider vers des solutions efficaces. (par exemplece service)
- Rejoindre des groupes de soutien : L’échange avec d’autres participants stimule la motivation.
Proposer un guide pour éviter de rechuter
- Restreindre l’accès à la pornographie : Activez des logiciels ou extensions pour bloquer les sites explicites.
- Protéger vos accès à la pornographie : Utilisez des outils de blocage pour empêcher l’accès aux sites explicites.
Sexualité épanouie : surmonter le défi de la masturbation
Mettre un terme à la masturbation représente un véritable défi pour de nombreuses personnes, indépendamment de leur genre. Bien qu’elle soit souvent perçue comme un acte normal et sain pour comprendre sa sexualité, elle peut devenir un problème sérieux lorsqu’elle impacte négativement le travail, les relations ou la santé psychologique.
En dernière analyse
Renoncer à la masturbation habituelle est un processus qui nécessite du temps et de la persévérance. Grâce à un plan structuré et au soutien adéquat, il est possible de franchir ce défi et de profiter d’une existence plus équilibrée, axée sur des objectifs plus enrichissants.
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Retranscription des paroles de la vidéo: Hey guys, welcome back to the Pausing Porn podcast. I’m Mark and today we’re going to tackle one of the biggest questions in porn recovery. To masturbate or not? You guys have likely already seen the contradicting opinions amongst people in online porn addiction recovery communities. Some people say masturbation is just as bad as porn and should be considered as a relapse, while others say it’s harmless or even healthy. There’s no clear answer out there that you can take home with you, and it leaves a lot of us wondering if it’s okay to masturbate. By the end of this episode, my goal is not to give you a yes or no answer. Instead, I want to give you the tools, knowledge, and perspective so you can make an informed decision that actually serves your unique recovery and your life. Let’s start with the argument against masturbation. There’s a view that some people take where masturbation is relapse. I remember reading a popular but yet a controversial post on the nofap Reddit community which ends off with hand on the [ __ ] reset the clock. It actually cracks me up. The reason for that message is that masturbation can come with its consequences. For some guys, it looks like compulsive use. Just as their relationship with porn became compulsive, so did the relationship with masturbation where they don’t even feel in control anymore. For others, it’s a form of escape. They use it as a way to avoid stress, boredom, or loneliness. Then there’s also potential physical and emotional costs, right? There’s energy depletion, potential mood swings, or even some people have unhealthy masturbation habits that can lead to physical harm over time. And then there’s subtler consequences. Reinforcing old porn pathways through fantasy or losing hours you can’t get back or maybe even wrestling with guilt if it clashes with your religious or moral values. These are some of the reasons why people argue you should abstain completely not only from porn but from masturbation as well. The belief is that abstinence builds discipline. It rewires the brain faster and even unlocks so-called superpowers of what people call them. Things like increased energy, confidence, and attraction. There are pros to this stance, like having that strict line in the dirt gives you structure and a clear line you can measure yourself against. You always know exactly where the boundary is and whether or not you’ve crossed it. Now, on the other hand, there’s many potential benefits to masturbation when it’s done in a healthy and mindful way. And I also want to remind you right away, masturbation in itself is a normal human behavior. People have been doing it for thousands of years. And sure, it wasn’t always accepted. Looking back to the 19th century, people would spread wild myths about it, saying that it caused insanity. And these beliefs, they created a lot of shame with it. which still lingers around today. But the truth is the act of masturbation on its own is not harmful. These were just cultural fears that were spread that weren’t even based on science. Science today points to benefits like reducing stress, improving sleep, improving your mood, and some research even suggests that it lowers the risk of prostate cancer. Now, for guys healing from porn induced erectile dysfunction or PIED, it can be a great way to reconnect with your body and retrain arousal pathways. But here’s the important part. Just like the wrist, the benefits depend on context. The key isn’t whether masturbation happens or not. It’s how it’s happening and why you’re doing it. Now that we’ve looked at both sides, the risks on one hand and the potential benefits on the other, as you can see, it’s not as simple as saying masturbation is bad or masturbation is good. The real difference lies in the way it’s practiced. Is it compulsive, fantasydriven, and used to escape? Or is it intentional, mindful, and connected? What really matters is if masturbation is serving your recovery or if it’s holding you back. Let’s talk about what healthy masturbation might actually look like in the context of your recovery. So, first, it’s intentional, not compulsive. What I mean by this is that you should feel like you’re the one choosing to do it, not like it’s choosing you. If you’re restless, stressed, and feel like you have to do it, then that’s a red flag. Healthy masturbation is when you decide when you want to do it and you feel in control of that choice. Second, it’s present and not fantasydriven. A lot of guys will cut out porn, but then they’ll replay old porn scenes or porn induced fantasies in their head while they’re masturbating. That’s not really breaking free, though. That’s porn with your eyes closed. Healthy masturbation is about connecting with yourself in the moment, focusing on your body, your breath, sensations, and not escaping through a mental movie. Third, it’s emotionally aware and not used to escape. So, this is a big one, guys. If you’re using masturbation to avoid loneliness, sadness, stress, you’re not solving these emotions. You’re just covering them for a few minutes. Healthy masturbation looks like checking in with yourself before and after to understand your real intentions. Fourth, it’s balanced and not excessive. So, there’s no magic number to the frequency of how often you should or shouldn’t be doing it. But the question is simple. Does it support your recovery and the life you’re looking to build? Or does it go against it? Are you masturbating five times a day and spending hours of your time doing it? Is masturbation leaving you drained, ashamed, or taking away from the goals that you have? If so, then it’s probably not balanced. But if it fits into your recovery and into your life without pulling you off track, then that’s a different story. Fifth, it’s body respecting and not harmful. There are a few ways guys masturbate that can really cause physical harm. One is called the death grip syndrome where they masturbate with intensely tight grip and it trains their body to only respond to one kind of intense pressure and also can lead to long-term injury. And there’s another way called prone masturbation. This is also responsible for desensitization over long periods of time. Healthy masturbation means slowing down and respecting your body. It doesn’t mean hurting yourself to get the fastest release and it also doesn’t mean edging and prolonging it for hours on end. And finally, you’ll want to make sure that it’s aligned with your values. So, for some of you guys listening, masturbation might not line up with your religious beliefs or your personal vision for sexuality. And if that’s the case, then abstinence might be a healthier choice for you. Healthy masturbation is about making a choice that feels aligned with who you are and who you’re becoming. If you guys are like me and grew up with porn from a young age, then you were probably introduced to masturbation through porn before you even understood what sexuality was. That was my story. The very first time I masturbated, it was with porn. And from that point forward, I never separated the two. Because of that, I always saw masturbation as something that’s harmful. In my mind, masturbation and porn were one in the same thing. So for years, I believe masturbation had no place in recovery. But something shifted when I asked my former seesat if masturbation could ever fit into my recovery. And his answer changed things. He told me to think of it like a science experiment. That reframe was very powerful. So instead of stressing on whether it was good or bad, I could treat it like a science experiment. If I tried it and found that it helped me connect with myself and added intention, then it could serve me. But if it pulled me back towards porn or became compulsive or fueled porn fantasies, then maybe I wasn’t ready for it. And that’s the amazing thing in treating things like science experiments. I never experienced masturbation without pornography. So how would I know or how would my seesat know if it could play a role in my recovery? We both don’t know. So the point is moving forward with curiosity, being aware and you can introduce it and then evaluate from there. And that is what I did. I experimented and honestly the first time I masturbated without pornography was awkward, but I stuck with it and I realized I could actually do it in a healthy way, in a way that I enjoyed, in a way where I wasn’t just chasing release, but I was paying attention. I slowed down and I reconnected with myself and my body. I’m not going to pretend that it was smooth sailing. There were definitely times when porn fantasies snuck back in or when I started feeling compulsive again with the use of masturbation and I started feeling it was something I needed to do rather than something I chose to do. I will never lie to you guys saying that I had the perfect journey or the perfect recovery cuz I haven’t. But when that happened and I identified the red flags that were coming up, I took a step back and a break from it. addressed the underlying reasons for why these red flags were coming up and later reintroduced it when I felt more grounded. That’s why I don’t see masturbation as black and white anymore. Yes, it has its risks 100%. But it can also be a tool for healing. For me, mindful masturbation became a way to slowly rewrite unhealthy patterns porn carved into my sexuality. It helped me practice being present and reconnect with myself in a way that porn never allowed me to. So for my recovery, the benefits outweighed the risks. Before we wrap up, I want to leave you with a tool that you can actually use in your recovery. I’m actually very proud of this tool and excited for it. It’s called the sexual hunger scale. This is based off a hunger chart used for eating disorders for people to identify when to eat and when to stop. You can think of it like a check-in system. It’s a way to tell a difference between real sexual desire and just using masturbation as an escape. Here’s how it works. I want you to draw out a scale from 1 to 10. At the bottom of the scale, from 1 to 3, this is the emotional escape zone. is when you’re not actually horny. You’re just restless, lonely, anxious, maybe feeling ashamed. Your chest feels tight. Your mind is racing, but your brain is telling you that you want to masturbate. And guys, I’ve been in that zone countless times. It is very difficult at times to be able to tell what is real desire and what is your brain looking to escape. But the truth is in this zone here, this is not real desire. This is escape. In this zone, the best move isn’t to push forward. It’s to pause and ask yourself, « What am I really trying to get away from right now? » And once you name it, maybe it’s stress, boredom, or loneliness, you can do something that addresses that firsthand. Because in this zone, you’re not feeding your sexuality. You’re just trying to run from these emotions. And learning to sit with those emotions instead of escaping from them is a huge part of real recovery. Now we have the middle of the scale. This is number four to six. This is the mixed or unclear zone. You may feel some stirrings of arousal, maybe a bit of warmth in your body, but it’s inconsistent. And at the same time there could be background stress or boredom or discomfort going on. See this is the the gray area. The best response here is to pause as well. Check your intention. So you can take a few deep breaths and maybe do a quick journal checkin. If you can center yourself and shift into connection then maybe it’s okay to proceed. But if not, and you start identifying that it’s starting to feel like it’s part of the emotional escape zone, then it’s time to take a step back, learn what it is that you’re looking to escape from, and deal with that firsthand. And finally, number 7 to 10, this is the genuine desire zone. Here, your body feels steady, warm, maybe you feel a full body arousal. You can check in with your breath. Your breath will be deeper and balanced and emotionally you could be feeling calm or curious and you feel like that you would enjoy it but it’s rooted from a deeper grounded place and not compulsion then that’s real sexual hunger. I want to remind you guys cuz this is something I really struggled with is having arousal and the want to orgasm and masturbate. There’s nothing wrong with that or having the want to have sex or right like you’re trying to learn to trust your body. I want to remind you that you’re a sexual being. It is completely normal and a good thing to feel genuine desire and that is this point here in the zone 7 to 10. If you identify that you’re in this zone and you choose to masturbate, then just approach it mindfully. Obviously, not watching porn and without any mental fantasies of porn or replaying old porn scenes, it can be a very healthy choice. Here’s the takeaway. Before you act, always check in with yourself and see where are you on the scale. Are you escaping? Are you unclear in the gray zone or are you experiencing real desire? This little habit here can help you separate compulsive behavior from intentional sexuality and real desire. Okay, let’s bring this all together. We’ve looked at the arguments against masturbation, the potential benefits, what healthy masturbation can actually look like, and even my own story. And we wrapped up with a sexual hunger scale. This is the simple tool that can help you check in and see if your desire is coming from a real connection or just a place of escape. At the end of the day, there’s no one-sizefits-all answer here. The real question is whether your choices are serving your recovery and helping you build the kind of life that you want or whether they’re holding you back. So, this week, I encourage you guys to understand what you want for yourself going forward. Ask yourself if you see masturbation aligning with the person you’re looking to become. If today’s episode gave you some clarity, please share it with a friend who might need to hear this as well. And if you’ve been enjoying the podcast so far, leaving a review helps more guys find this show. Plus, I always love to see your feedback. So, thanks for spending this time with me today on the Pause Important podcast, and I’ll see you guys in the next one. .
Déroulement de la vidéo:
0.16 Hey guys, welcome back to the Pausing
2.56 Porn podcast. I’m Mark and today we’re
5.359 going to tackle one of the biggest
6.96 questions in porn recovery. To
9.519 masturbate or not? You guys have likely
12.96 already seen the contradicting opinions
15.599 amongst people in online porn addiction
17.84 recovery communities. Some people say
20.4 masturbation is just as bad as porn and
23.439 should be considered as a relapse, while
25.92 others say it’s harmless or even
27.599 healthy. There’s no clear answer out
30.32 there that you can take home with you,
32.32 and it leaves a lot of us wondering if
34.48 it’s okay to masturbate. By the end of
37.12 this episode, my goal is not to give you
39.52 a yes or no answer. Instead, I want to
42.32 give you the tools, knowledge, and
44.399 perspective so you can make an informed
46.96 decision that actually serves your
48.64 unique recovery and your life. Let’s
51.76 start with the argument against
53.6 masturbation.
55.12 There’s a view that some people take
57.36 where masturbation is relapse. I
60.0 remember reading a popular but yet a
62.32 controversial post on the nofap Reddit
65.199 community which ends off with hand on
68.0 the [ __ ] reset the clock.
72.159 It actually cracks me up. The reason for
74.64 that message is that masturbation can
76.96 come with its consequences. For some
79.439 guys, it looks like compulsive use. Just
82.479 as their relationship with porn became
84.4 compulsive, so did the relationship with
86.96 masturbation where they don’t even feel
89.6 in control anymore. For others, it’s a
92.72 form of escape. They use it as a way to
95.68 avoid stress, boredom, or loneliness.
98.96 Then there’s also potential physical and
101.04 emotional costs, right? There’s energy
103.36 depletion, potential mood swings, or
106.399 even some people have unhealthy
108.079 masturbation habits that can lead to
110.0 physical harm over time.
112.0 And then there’s subtler consequences.
115.04 Reinforcing old porn pathways through
117.439 fantasy or losing hours you can’t get
120.399 back or maybe even wrestling with guilt
122.719 if it clashes with your religious or
124.799 moral values. These are some of the
127.52 reasons why people argue you should
129.679 abstain completely not only from porn
132.56 but from masturbation as well. The
134.879 belief is that abstinence builds
136.8 discipline. It rewires the brain faster
139.599 and even unlocks so-called superpowers
142.48 of what people call them. Things like
144.64 increased energy, confidence, and
146.72 attraction. There are pros to this
149.36 stance, like having that strict line in
152.08 the dirt gives you structure and a clear
154.72 line you can measure yourself against.
157.2 You always know exactly where the
158.879 boundary is and whether or not you’ve
160.879 crossed it. Now, on the other hand,
163.599 there’s many potential benefits to
165.28 masturbation when it’s done in a healthy
167.599 and mindful way. And I also want to
169.84 remind you right away, masturbation in
172.239 itself is a normal human behavior.
175.28 People have been doing it for thousands
177.04 of years. And sure, it wasn’t always
179.84 accepted.
181.36 Looking back to the 19th century, people
184.0 would spread wild myths about it, saying
186.08 that it caused insanity. And these
188.159 beliefs, they created a lot of shame
190.48 with it. which still lingers around
192.879 today. But the truth is the act of
196.239 masturbation on its own is not harmful.
199.76 These were just cultural fears that were
202.239 spread that weren’t even based on
203.92 science. Science today points to
206.319 benefits like reducing stress, improving
209.519 sleep, improving your mood, and some
212.319 research even suggests that it lowers
214.159 the risk of prostate cancer. Now, for
216.72 guys healing from porn induced erectile
218.56 dysfunction or PIED, it can be a great
221.519 way to reconnect with your body and
223.36 retrain arousal pathways. But here’s the
226.319 important part. Just like the wrist, the
229.28 benefits depend on context. The key
232.319 isn’t whether masturbation happens or
234.64 not. It’s how it’s happening and why
237.519 you’re doing it. Now that we’ve looked
240.0 at both sides, the risks on one hand and
242.56 the potential benefits on the other, as
244.799 you can see, it’s not as simple as
246.959 saying masturbation is bad or
248.56 masturbation is good. The real
250.56 difference lies in the way it’s
251.92 practiced. Is it compulsive,
254.56 fantasydriven, and used to escape? Or is
258.0 it intentional, mindful, and connected?
261.12 What really matters is if masturbation
264.0 is serving your recovery or if it’s
266.639 holding you back. Let’s talk about what
269.04 healthy masturbation might actually look
271.28 like in the context of your recovery.
274.32 So, first, it’s intentional, not
277.12 compulsive. What I mean by this is that
280.24 you should feel like you’re the one
281.84 choosing to do it, not like it’s
284.4 choosing you. If you’re restless,
286.56 stressed, and feel like you have to do
288.88 it, then that’s a red flag. Healthy
291.759 masturbation is when you decide when you
294.0 want to do it and you feel in control of
296.88 that choice. Second, it’s present and
299.84 not fantasydriven.
301.84 A lot of guys will cut out porn, but
304.24 then they’ll replay old porn scenes or
307.039 porn induced fantasies in their head
309.44 while they’re masturbating.
311.6 That’s not really breaking free, though.
314.0 That’s porn with your eyes closed.
316.56 Healthy masturbation is about connecting
318.639 with yourself in the moment, focusing on
321.36 your body, your breath, sensations, and
324.24 not escaping through a mental movie.
327.44 Third, it’s emotionally aware and not
330.16 used to escape. So, this is a big one,
332.56 guys. If you’re using masturbation to
335.12 avoid loneliness, sadness, stress,
339.12 you’re not solving these emotions.
341.759 You’re just covering them for a few
343.36 minutes. Healthy masturbation looks like
346.08 checking in with yourself before and
348.08 after to understand your real
350.32 intentions. Fourth, it’s balanced and
353.36 not excessive. So, there’s no magic
356.08 number to the frequency of how often you
358.56 should or shouldn’t be doing it. But the
361.199 question is simple. Does it support your
363.36 recovery and the life you’re looking to
365.36 build? Or does it go against it? Are you
368.639 masturbating five times a day and
370.479 spending hours of your time doing it? Is
373.36 masturbation leaving you drained,
375.199 ashamed, or taking away from the goals
378.08 that you have? If so, then it’s probably
381.36 not balanced. But if it fits into your
384.72 recovery and into your life without
386.639 pulling you off track, then that’s a
388.88 different story. Fifth, it’s body
391.759 respecting and not harmful.
394.4 There are a few ways guys masturbate
396.24 that can really cause physical harm. One
399.84 is called the death grip syndrome where
402.479 they masturbate with intensely tight
404.72 grip and it trains their body to only
407.199 respond to one kind of intense pressure
410.16 and also can lead to long-term injury.
413.44 And there’s another way called prone
415.039 masturbation. This is also responsible
417.84 for desensitization
419.759 over long periods of time. Healthy
422.319 masturbation means slowing down and
424.319 respecting your body. It doesn’t mean
426.96 hurting yourself to get the fastest
428.96 release and it also doesn’t mean edging
432.0 and prolonging it for hours on end. And
435.199 finally, you’ll want to make sure that
436.72 it’s aligned with your values. So, for
439.12 some of you guys listening, masturbation
441.68 might not line up with your religious
443.599 beliefs or your personal vision for
445.759 sexuality.
447.28 And if that’s the case, then abstinence
450.08 might be a healthier choice for you.
452.319 Healthy masturbation is about making a
454.4 choice that feels aligned with who you
456.8 are and who you’re becoming. If you guys
459.759 are like me and grew up with porn from a
461.759 young age, then you were probably
463.919 introduced to masturbation through porn
466.72 before you even understood what
468.479 sexuality was. That was my story. The
472.4 very first time I masturbated, it was
474.56 with porn. And from that point forward,
478.0 I never separated the two. Because of
481.12 that, I always saw masturbation as
483.36 something that’s harmful. In my mind,
485.919 masturbation and porn were one in the
488.16 same thing. So for years, I believe
491.12 masturbation had no place in recovery.
494.24 But something shifted when I asked my
496.4 former seesat if masturbation could ever
499.28 fit into my recovery. And his answer
502.319 changed things. He told me to think of
504.96 it like a science experiment. That
507.84 reframe was very powerful. So instead of
510.96 stressing on whether it was good or bad,
514.719 I could treat it like a science
516.24 experiment.
518.0 If I tried it and found that it helped
520.24 me connect with myself and added
522.32 intention, then it could serve me. But
525.12 if it pulled me back towards porn or
527.68 became compulsive or fueled porn
530.16 fantasies, then maybe I wasn’t ready for
532.959 it. And that’s the amazing thing in
535.6 treating things like science
536.88 experiments.
538.399 I never experienced masturbation without
541.76 pornography. So how would I know or how
545.04 would my seesat know if it could play a
548.0 role in my recovery? We both don’t know.
551.04 So the point is moving forward with
552.959 curiosity, being aware and you can
556.32 introduce it and then evaluate from
558.64 there. And that is what I did. I
560.56 experimented and honestly the first time
564.16 I masturbated without pornography was
567.12 awkward,
569.519 but I stuck with it and I realized I
572.56 could actually do it in a healthy way,
574.88 in a way that I enjoyed, in a way where
577.519 I wasn’t just chasing release, but I was
580.959 paying attention. I slowed down and I
583.519 reconnected with myself and my body. I’m
586.48 not going to pretend that it was smooth
588.399 sailing. There were definitely times
590.72 when porn fantasies snuck back in or
593.76 when I started feeling compulsive again
596.32 with the use of masturbation and I
598.24 started feeling it was something I
599.76 needed to do rather than something I
601.76 chose to do. I will never lie to you
604.56 guys saying that I had the perfect
606.32 journey or the perfect recovery cuz I
608.16 haven’t. But when that happened and I
610.399 identified the red flags that were
612.0 coming up, I took a step back and a
615.519 break from it. addressed the underlying
617.68 reasons for why these red flags were
619.68 coming up and later reintroduced it when
622.64 I felt more grounded. That’s why I don’t
625.2 see masturbation as black and white
627.279 anymore. Yes, it has its risks 100%.
631.839 But it can also be a tool for healing.
634.72 For me, mindful masturbation became a
637.12 way to slowly rewrite unhealthy patterns
640.0 porn carved into my sexuality. It helped
642.88 me practice being present and reconnect
645.04 with myself in a way that porn never
647.36 allowed me to. So for my recovery, the
651.279 benefits outweighed the risks. Before we
654.399 wrap up, I want to leave you with a tool
656.72 that you can actually use in your
658.88 recovery.
660.72 I’m actually very proud of this tool and
663.04 excited for it. It’s called the sexual
665.519 hunger scale. This is based off a hunger
668.72 chart used for eating disorders for
671.279 people to identify when to eat and when
673.839 to stop. You can think of it like a
676.24 check-in system. It’s a way to tell a
678.72 difference between real sexual desire
681.2 and just using masturbation as an
683.12 escape. Here’s how it works. I want you
686.079 to draw out a scale from 1 to 10.
689.839 At the bottom of the scale, from 1 to 3,
693.44 this is the emotional escape zone. is
696.48 when you’re not actually horny. You’re
698.959 just restless, lonely, anxious, maybe
702.56 feeling ashamed. Your chest feels tight.
705.519 Your mind is racing, but your brain is
708.32 telling you that you want to masturbate.
710.959 And guys, I’ve been in that zone
712.56 countless times. It is very difficult at
716.24 times to be able to tell what is real
718.88 desire and what is your brain looking to
721.68 escape. But the truth is in this zone
725.12 here, this is not real desire. This is
727.76 escape. In this zone, the best move
730.399 isn’t to push forward. It’s to pause and
734.56 ask yourself, « What am I really trying
737.279 to get away from right now? » And once
739.92 you name it, maybe it’s stress, boredom,
742.399 or loneliness, you can do something that
745.2 addresses that firsthand.
747.92 Because in this zone, you’re not feeding
749.92 your sexuality. You’re just trying to
752.639 run from these emotions. And learning to
755.76 sit with those emotions instead of
757.68 escaping from them is a huge part of
760.48 real recovery.
762.32 Now we have the middle of the scale.
764.48 This is number four to six. This is the
767.6 mixed or unclear zone. You may feel some
770.88 stirrings of arousal,
773.04 maybe a bit of warmth in your body, but
775.04 it’s inconsistent. And at the same time
778.24 there could be background stress or
780.24 boredom or discomfort going on. See this
783.2 is the the gray area. The best response
786.88 here is to pause as well. Check your
790.24 intention. So you can take a few deep
792.88 breaths and maybe do a quick journal
794.8 checkin. If you can center yourself and
797.92 shift into connection then maybe it’s
800.88 okay to proceed. But if not, and you
804.72 start identifying that it’s starting to
806.56 feel like it’s part of the emotional
808.16 escape zone, then it’s time to take a
810.8 step back, learn what it is that you’re
812.88 looking to escape from, and deal with
815.36 that firsthand. And finally, number 7 to
818.959 10, this is the genuine desire zone.
822.56 Here, your body feels steady, warm,
826.16 maybe you feel a full body arousal. You
829.04 can check in with your breath. Your
830.32 breath will be deeper and balanced and
833.519 emotionally you could be feeling calm or
835.6 curious and you feel like that you would
837.92 enjoy it but it’s rooted from a deeper
841.199 grounded place and not compulsion then
843.92 that’s real sexual hunger. I want to
846.639 remind you guys cuz this is something I
849.519 really struggled with is having arousal
852.72 and the want to orgasm and masturbate.
856.079 There’s nothing wrong with that or
858.48 having the want to have sex or right
860.8 like you’re trying to learn to trust
862.639 your body. I want to remind you that
865.12 you’re a sexual being. It is completely
868.0 normal and a good thing to feel genuine
871.68 desire and that is this point here in
874.959 the zone 7 to 10. If you identify that
878.16 you’re in this zone and you choose to
880.399 masturbate, then just approach it
882.24 mindfully. Obviously, not watching porn
885.199 and without any mental fantasies of porn
887.76 or replaying old porn scenes, it can be
890.48 a very healthy choice. Here’s the
892.639 takeaway. Before you act, always check
896.079 in with yourself and see where are you
898.72 on the scale. Are you escaping? Are you
902.16 unclear in the gray zone or are you
904.88 experiencing real desire? This little
907.68 habit here can help you separate
909.68 compulsive behavior from intentional
912.48 sexuality and real desire. Okay, let’s
915.68 bring this all together. We’ve looked at
918.32 the arguments against masturbation, the
921.12 potential benefits, what healthy
923.6 masturbation can actually look like, and
926.56 even my own story. And we wrapped up
929.68 with a sexual hunger scale. This is the
932.24 simple tool that can help you check in
934.16 and see if your desire is coming from a
936.0 real connection or just a place of
938.24 escape. At the end of the day, there’s
940.88 no one-sizefits-all answer here. The
944.079 real question is whether your choices
946.0 are serving your recovery and helping
948.32 you build the kind of life that you want
950.639 or whether they’re holding you back. So,
953.519 this week, I encourage you guys to
956.0 understand what you want for yourself
957.759 going forward. Ask yourself if you see
961.04 masturbation aligning with the person
962.8 you’re looking to become. If today’s
965.199 episode gave you some clarity, please
967.44 share it with a friend who might need to
968.959 hear this as well. And if you’ve been
971.44 enjoying the podcast so far, leaving a
974.0 review helps more guys find this show.
976.56 Plus, I always love to see your
978.32 feedback. So, thanks for spending this
980.639 time with me today on the Pause
982.079 Important podcast, and I’ll see you guys
984.16 in the next one.
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