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En tant que plateforme ouverte, YouTube permet à chaque utilisateur de découvrir des vidéos abordant une multitude de sujets, tout en garantissant des interactions sécurisées et respectueuses des normes communautaires. Cela en fait un espace de dialogue enrichissant pour explorer divers intérêts personnels.

Comment procéder pour mettre une cage de chasteté en place ?

Mettre une cage de chasteté peut sembler difficile au début, mais cela devient plus facile avec un peu de pratique. Préparation : Avant de mettre la cage, assurez-vous que votre pénis est bien détendu et au repos. Utilisez un lubrifiant à base d’eau pour rendre l’insertion plus facile, et évitez les lubrifiants à base de silicone qui pourraient endommager la cage. Procédure : Placez d’abord l’anneau autour des testicules, puis insérez le pénis dans le tube avant de fermer la cage.

Comment faire le bon choix de cage de chasteté ?

Choisir une cage de chasteté implique de prendre en compte plusieurs aspects, notamment la longueur du tube, le diamètre de l’anneau, les matériaux employés, et la facilité d’utilisation. Quel tube est le mieux adapté ? La longueur du tube est déterminante pour le confort et l’efficacité de la cage. Elle doit correspondre à la taille du pénis en état de repos. Un tube trop long peut causer de l’inconfort et rendre la cage inefficace, tandis qu’un tube trop court peut engendrer des douleurs. Il est donc recommandé de mesurer votre pénis au repos pour choisir la longueur adéquate du tube. Quel type d’anneau pour la cage de chasteté est le plus adapté ? Le choix de l’anneau est essentiel pour assurer le confort et la sécurité. Il doit entourer la base du pénis et des testicules pour maintenir la cage correctement en place. Il est important de choisir le bon diamètre : un anneau trop petit peut entraîner gêne, douleur ou problèmes circulatoires, notamment s’il est en métal, tandis qu’un anneau trop grand ne fixera pas correctement la cage. Pour une mesure précise, il est recommandé de mesurer la circonférence de la base du pénis et des testicules et de sélectionner un anneau légèrement plus grand. Concernant la forme, vous trouverez des anneaux circulaires, ovales ou ergonomiques, fabriqués en métal ou d’autres matériaux. Les modèles ergonomiques, bien que plus élaborés, offrent généralement un confort supérieur pour un usage prolongé en s’adaptant mieux aux contours du corps, ce qui diminue les frottements et les irritations. Quels matériaux sont utilisés ? Les cages de chasteté peuvent être fabriquées à partir de différents matériaux, chacun avec ses propres avantages et inconvénients. Les matériaux les plus courants sont : Plastique : Ce matériau est léger et généralement transparent, ce qui le rend idéal pour les personnes qui découvrent la chasteté. Cependant, sa durabilité peut être inférieure à celle de certains autres matériaux. Métal : Ce matériau est à la fois robuste et durable, offrant une sensation de poids qui peut plaire à certains utilisateurs. Cependant, il peut déclencher des détecteurs de métaux et n’est pas idéal pour une utilisation prolongée. Silicone : Flexible et agréable à porter, le silicone est parfait pour ceux qui désirent une cage plus douce. De plus, il est hypoallergénique, ce qui est un atout pour les peaux sensibles.

Quels critères doivent être pris en compte pour choisir une cage de chasteté ?

Pour choisir une cage de chasteté, il est nécessaire d’évaluer divers critères afin d’assurer le confort, la sécurité et l’efficacité, en particulier pour les hommes. Taille et Diamètre : Une cage de chasteté bien ajustée, qui comprime légèrement la verge, est indispensable. La mesure de la taille et du diamètre du pénis au repos doit être effectuée avec précision. Une cage de chasteté trop spacieuse peut devenir inefficace, tandis qu’une cage trop étroite peut engendrer des douleurs et des problèmes lors d’une érection. Matériau : Divers matériaux sont utilisés pour fabriquer des cages de chasteté, chacun présentant des avantages et des inconvénients. Les cages de chasteté en résine sont appréciées pour leur légèreté et leur discrétion. Le matériau hypoallergénique est recommandé pour les personnes à la peau sensible, car il réduit l’irritation et est assez durable pour un port prolongé. Les cages en métal, en particulier celles en acier inoxydable, offrent une résistance accrue et une sensation de poids que certains utilisateurs trouvent excitante. Il est perçu comme un produit durable et de qualité supérieure, idéal pour ceux qui veulent une expérience plus intense. Cependant, les cages en métal peuvent être plus lourdes et occasionnellement moins confortables pour un port de longue durée. Il est important de choisir un modèle de cage avec un anneau qui s’adapte à votre anatomie, en termes de forme et de diamètre. Sécurité et Système de Verrouillage : Le sérieux et la réussite d’une cage de chasteté dépendent fortement du système de verrouillage. Les cadenas traditionnels sont couramment employés pour leur simplicité. Les micro-serrures en métal offrent une sécurité similaire. Il existe des cages de chasteté avec une fermeture à vis métallique qui demande un outil spécifique, tel qu’un tournevis Torx, pour être ouverte. Les serrures de sécurité à came tubulaire sont très sécurisées grâce à leur mécanisme métallique complexe, lourd et difficile à forcer. Votre coach est capable de vous conseiller sur la meilleure solution en fonction de vos objectifs. Le choix le plus sécurisé n’est pas nécessairement le meilleur. Il a été observé que les hommes choisissant des cages de chasteté avec un anneau en métal et un système de verrouillage sécurisé le font souvent pour l’excitation liée à l’inviolabilité plutôt que pour la sécurité réelle. Le port prolongé d’une cage de chasteté, qu’elle soit en métal ou non, demande une certaine expérience ainsi qu’une adaptation progressive. La qualité du modèle de cage, surtout de l’anneau, choisi joue un rôle crucial dans l’expérience globale. Il est essentiel d’opter pour une cage avec un anneau bien conçu qui assure un confort quotidien, sans compromettre la sécurité ni l’hygiène. Pour éviter les érections complètes tout en facilitant l’entretien régulier, un modèle de cage doit garantir une bonne ventilation et un accès facile.

En conclusion, les cages de chasteté sont adaptées à ceux qui cherchent à s’engager dans cette pratique.

Choisir une cage de chasteté implique une réflexion soignée et personnelle. Il est souvent judicieux de passer par un expert qualifié dans ce secteur (c’est le cas dece service) Pour choisir un modèle adapté, prenez en compte les dimensions du tube, les matériaux et vos exigences personnelles. Que vous soyez débutant ou plus expérimenté, il est crucial de bien vous informer et de sélectionner une cage qui combine confort et sécurité.

Quel est le meilleur endroit pour acheter une cage de chasteté ?

Les sex-shops offrent des cages de chasteté. Les cages de chasteté peuvent être trouvées sur Internet.

Les raisons pour lesquelles on choisit de porter une cage de chasteté sont multiples.

Les objectifs du port d’une cage de chasteté sont aussi divers que les personnes qui l’utilisent. La cage de chasteté est parfois utilisée pour améliorer la discipline personnelle de certains individus. Certains la voient comme un moyen de rendre leur vie sexuelle plus excitante. Certains couples utilisent la cage de chasteté pour fortifier leur confiance et renouveler leur relation. Indépendamment de vos motivations, il est nécessaire de bien comprendre vos désirs et vos attentes avant de vous lancer. On peut dès lors établir un critère important : la durée pendant laquelle on porte la cage de chasteté. La durée peut varier de quelques minutes (lorsqu’elle est utilisée comme accessoire pendant un rapport sexuel) à plusieurs mois (dans le cas d’une chasteté durable et authentique).

Les maladresses typiques des débutants.

Tordons le cou à l’erreur des débutants en chasteté : sélectionner une cage de chasteté uniquement à partir d’un catalogue sans expérience préalable est la pire des erreurs. Il est important de ne pas improviser lorsqu’on s’engage dans la chasteté. Les cages de chasteté achetées en ligne ont tendance à finir inutilisées. Pour les questions de développement personnel, le soutien d’un professionnel est souvent nécessaire. L’accompagnement d’un expert est essentiel pour analyser vos objectifs, obtenir des conseils, faire des choix et être soutenu.

Cage de chasteté : Décision, Opinions, Introduction.

Deux groupes distincts se tournent de plus en plus vers la cage de chasteté : Ceux qui souhaitent découvrir de nouvelles dimensions de leur vie sexuelle avec leur partenaire, que ce soit par curiosité pour les cages de chasteté, pour améliorer leur relation, ou pour expérimenter le contrôle et la soumission. Ou ceux qui désirent s’engager dans la chasteté pour obtenir des bénéfices en termes de croissance personnelle, de pureté, de spiritualité, de fidélité, de santé, de soumission, et de concentration sur des objectifs de vie différents du sexe. Mais comment choisir la cage de chasteté adaptée ? Quels sont les éléments à considérer avant de choisir une cage de chasteté ? Nous vous guiderons pour éclaircir ces questions.

Comment trouver la cage de chasteté idéale ?

Pour trouver la cage de chasteté la plus adaptée à vous, il est important d’évaluer vos besoins et vos préférences. Une compréhension claire des différents matériaux (métal, silicone, résine), du système de verrouillage et des dimensions adaptées à votre corps vous permettra de faire un choix éclairé et d’optimiser votre expérience.

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Retranscription des paroles de la vidéo: I thought it was going to be one of those long lectures and you’ll fall asleep but I was intrigued the whole time like it just touched me all the stories and everything no I actually expected it to be like really boring and well when I first came here I’m like guest speakers is probably going to be you know all bunk and everything but it was much more I don’t know to our levels I thought it’d be really boring but I thought it was really good it actually it changed my way of thinking I expected some lady to kind of just talk to us about how sex is bad and great gr and dirty and everything like that but they were really honest I didn’t expect people to be that open with people they’ never met in their life and I guess the honesty made you believe it more honestly I thought it was going to be boring and uh not too much action so I thought like I knew it all but it turns out that there’s always so much more you can learn it was awesome I don’t know I thought it would be kind of boring and just the same old type of talk where they just rattle on you about it but well I came here thinking that if sucked I was leaving in 15 minutes uh and I’m going to leave here just being totally amazed at these people I don’t know it’s just like a lot of my friends that I know like it hit all of us basically and I just want to thank them for like doing such a good talk cuz it just it touched me so much and I can’t even express how much how much my life is going to turn around after this [Applause] welcome everybody to our talk this morning our speakers this morning Jason Everett and christalina padila they come to you from San Diego California and I would like you to welcome our guest speakers this morning Jason and christalina Jason take it away thank you thank you guys thank you guys uh to get started I need a guy volunteer from the audience I need a big guy big big okay you’re pretty big okay come on down yeah that’ll work come on down give him a hand come on up [Music] here there you go now what’s your name Luke Luke good to meet you Luke everybody say hi Luke hi Luke now uh now now Luke Luke do you know what the uh the talk is on today it’s on Chastity yeah I’d say it’s a sex talk today so uh since Luke since this is a sex talk uh we’ve got to cover certain issues like how far it’s too far to go with a girl on a date you know and stuff like that so what Luke and I are going to do is is Luke and I he and I are actually going to show you guys how far is too far to go on a date okay now now and in order to do this I’m going to be the guy Luke is going to be the girl okay now now now Luke Luke’s not a very pretty girl but that’s okay that’s that’s a good thing that’s a good thing but but we can change that so we’ll get Luke prettied up a little bit so why don’t you throw this on that’s yeah there you go that’s the front it’s a little it’s a little nappy you’ll be pretty there you go that’s frightening now now uh now I’ve uh I’ve actually never dated anyone named uh named Luke before so we’re going to give you a name change and uh your name is g to be Shen okay so now Shen and I we decideed to go for a date so we go for a date at the Grand Canyon like right here and I start thinking to myself well how far do you think I get my beloved shenan to the edge of the Grand Canyon without actually throwing him off the Grand Canyon him her it whatever but uh sorry but there’s only one way we can find out how far I can get to that edge so I’ve got to pick you up into my arms okay so hold on to this hold on to me hold on [Applause] tight now now how far how far can we get to the edge can we go further that’s far enough okay all right take a seat give him a hand good job Luke thank you bud you know now good man now now what’s the point of that whole deal point of that is basically this that none of us guys would take a girl who we love to a dangerous place and say well how close can I get to killing her you know usually we don’t ask but when I was in high school we’d always ask in our relationship well how far can you go I mean should we do this together should we do that together and in my high school they’d give us the sex talk but every time they gave us a sex talk all it was about was like guilt or fear it’ be they’d get up there and they’d be like sex is bad sex is dirty poo poo poo poo or they’d be like you know you’re gonna die sex is gonna kill you you know and they try to scare the pants off you or pants back on you if that be the case but it was all about fear they all they try to do is scare us they’d sit you down and they talked you about gharia but they never sat us down and said now here’s the difference between love and lust here’s how you know when you really love a girl and here’s how you know when you’re getting used they never made that stuff clear to us so I remember I was in high school I hooked up with this one girl and we were doing all sorts of stuff and she stops me and she’s like Jason you’re not going to leave me like other guys are you and I was like ah no and she’s like oh you’re so sweet and I was like okay all right anyway and uh whatever and we did different things then we came up to that line and I had to ask myself okay you know should I lose my virginity to this girl and I thought well do I love her and I thought well I’ve known her I’ve known her for three days I’m like just love and I could hear in the back of my heart this voice that just said Jason this gift is not for her that that gift is for your bride please wait for her and we cooled things down we went her separate ways I hooked up with another girl came right up to the line and then the same voice Jason this gift is not for her that gift is for my bride please wait for her and we cool things off and so to this day I’m still a virgin and I’m as happy as can be and most people think that by the time you get in your 20s like I’m going to die of virginity or something I’m going to start having like virginity conniption fits or something you know like you know abstinence is very good you know I’m sorry I get Twitches from virginity you know but you should really stay I’ll start foaming at the mouth from virginity and you know I I’ll just I’ll explode and die here you know Luke will be like whoa you know what happened to the sex guy and you’re like oh you didn’t hear he was a virgin that’ll kill you forget about it the virginity is not lethal I was at the airport the other day and I saw this magazine I had a had to pick it up here was called complete woman magazine all right just a splendid periodical subscriber okay uh and uh and so this this guy’s in here they’re talking about sex and this guy says quote he said sex is extremely important to me when I’m in a relationship it’s essential and fact a year ago I felt compelled to break up with a woman I really loved because we didn’t have sex enough the lack of sex nearly killed me H so apparently he’s rushed to the hospital for lack of sex or something but this is what we’re basically told that if you’re not having sex something’s wrong with you maybe you’re dropped on your head as a baby or something but then they say but if you have had sex it’s too late for you anyway we hear this Con constantly and I know some of you are virgins and I know some of you you are not virgins and frankly I don’t care what happened last weekend last month last year I mean it’s in the past and I mean I care but it’s what’s happened has happened for those of you who are virgins I say good for you because people who get married as virgins have a divorce rate that’s 60 to 70% lower than those who won’t wait for marriage now some of you are thinking well Jason look I’m not a virgin anymore or Jason I had my virginity taken from me does that mean I’m going to have a mess upop marriage if you’re like me you’re so sick of the whole divorce thing I was just over to high school in Washington after the talk of Junior comes up to me and he goes Jay goes I know what you mean about divorce he said Jason my dad is on his ninth marriage High School junior had seen his dad get eight divorces now in La I live in San Diego up the coast in La there are jewelry stores in La where you can rent wedding rings you don’t have to buy him anymore because they know you’re just going to dump your wife you might as well save some money in the whole exchange I found that out because I had to go shopp and recently CU crystaline and I got engaged a couple months back which is a pretty cool deal so thank you very much so but uh you know we’re but we’re also sick of the whole divorce thing so it starts to make a bit of sense but what about everything that comes before sex can you do this on date can you do that easiest way to figure it out is this we’re at this High School in Chicago the end of the talk we did a Q&A guy raised his hand and he goes okay Jason he says your talk was fun he said but can we get specific I said well sure he goes goes I want to know exactly how far I can go with my girlfriend I said well that’s a good question what do you want to do with her and he was like uhoh I said yeah okay I said well we’re not in third grade we can be specific mature what do you want to do he’s like cool he’s like can we do this and this and this and this and this he goes through this list of sexual favors and I said well okay well slow down pick one pick one and he’s like um okay he goes I got he goes oral sex can we do that on a date and I said I’m going to have you answer your own question and he’s like oh good and I said well you know I said you know do you want to get married one day and he’s like yeah I’m going to get married one day I said that’s cool so I said so if you’re going to get married one day I said that means that your future wife your future bride she’s out there somewhere right now isn’t she and for the first time in his 17-year life he thought about his future wife and he said yeah she’s out there cool cool and I said but let’s say she doesn’t live here in Chicago let’s say she lives where I live in San Diego school’s just getting out right now so she’s coming home from class with her boyfriend who’s a guy that you are never going to meet and he’s got his arm around your future bride and he’s saying baby girl I love you so much I’m always going to be here for you your eyes are so beautiful and she’s like oh you’re so sweet and he walks her home and he sits her down on his couch and he’s like hey baby girl you feeling fine cuz you looking fine you know she’s like stop stop stop and I said to the guy I was like dude I go you know what’s going on on that couch don’t you and he was like yeah and I go that guy I said that guy he’s emotionally manipulating your future bride and giving him oral sex trying to make her think that if she gives him that he’ll like her more when he’s just using her more I go does that bug you and the guy was like o gross um no I don’t care and I was like really doesn’t bugy at all he looked at the floor and he’s like no I don’t care I don’t care I don’t care I go what if it was going on right now as we speak that guy doing that with the woman who kiss your children good night does it bother you the guy was like guy next to him in class was like I’d be picked off and the guy like see it’s pretty easy if you don’t want some guy going there with your future wife it’s a good place to draw the line as well and this is not a condemnation of any of us it’s a calling to all of us of a better and a deeper kind of love and I’m not going to stand up here in front of you guys and say you men in the audience you guys have to be like me cuz it’s a joke it’s a lie if you’re a guy and I’m guy we’re identical look in your heart same thing as mine there’s this desire to lust after girls but then there’s this desire to properly love a girl at the same time and there is attention but I want you girls to realize the guys you’re sitting next to we’ve all been lied to about manhood we’re supposed to learn it from our dads but a lot of us guys haven’t seen our dad since we were three some of us see our dads every day of the week but we hardly even know the guy no matter what our relationship is with him we we’ve been lied to it some point in the locker room dude if you want to be a man today dude you got to get some from the girls cuz if you get some with ladies dude you’re the man but think about it get some from a girl getting some sounds like a couple of like seventh graders and they sneak into a convenience store and they shoplift like Jolly Rancher candies you know and they’re like you know and then they then like run into the parking lot they like you know they run funny because they’re all disproportioned because of puberty they’re like you their feet are too big and their Knuckles drag and then you know they get into the parking lot and then they hide behind a dumpster they pull the candy out and they’re like I got a red one and a grape one wh a grape one did you get some did you get some and you notice the same mentality dude you get some with that chick dude you sexually conquered that girl because if you emptied of her innocence you robbed her of Purity dude you’re the man because you empti the girl and we know that this is totally missing the point of manhood I don’t get my manhood by emptying a girl I get my manhood by denying myself for love of a girl but how is a guy supposed to sacrifice himself for a girl well to be honest the reason honestly why I always always confused love with lust in high school is because the influence in my life back then of the pornography and the thing is is that when the teenage girls find out that teenage guys struggle with the pornography it’s not that the girls are all mad at us they just feel sorry for us that we can’t relate to women in a more interesting way because as a guy the pornography as a guy is the perfect way for a guy to shoot his future marriage in the head because it trains me that girls their things abused for my kicks she’s got to be constantly sexually available physically Flawless and when you get done boor lusting after you go to the next fantasy and it’s no big deal at all because you can judge the value of a Woman by how much lust she generates in me and we would laugh it off and I’m sure there’s some guys in the audience in their heads right now they’re thinking dude whatever I got some porn on the internet I got some Max and magazine it’s not a problem I’m not getting anyone pregnant and while he laughingly tries to think it’s not a problem almost desperately try to convince himself what happens to a young guy is he gets emasculated emasculation means when a young man is robbed of the ability to be masculine and pornography flips that backwards so we men learn to sacrifice and empty the girls for the sake of ourselves and we miss the whole point of manhood and in high school we would totally laugh it off we’re like dude who cares I’m not getting anyone pregnant it’s all good it’s not I’m not killing it I’m not hurting anyone we’d have no clue what we were looking at you know Pamela Anderson the big supermodel for uh you know out in Los Angeles you know when she first posed for Playboy the limo drove her to the pornographic Studios they did all her makeup up she dis robed and she started crying she finally pulled herself together they redid the makeup around her eyes and they took the nude photos that when you’re looking at porn you’re not looking into some naked body you’re looking at the corpse of a woman’s heart but we would laugh it off saying dude I’m not hurting anyone we don’t realize how much we’re hurting ourselves you know Maxim magazine it’s a new smudy magazine they have for guys you know Maxim magazine has paid computer companies up to 20,000 bucks a pop to generate fake cover models I’m not saying she’s airbrushed her legs are fake her face is fake fake her breast is fake the whole B woman is completely computer generated so we as guys are trained to expect our wives to live up to this impossibly perfect fantasy and where does this leave our Brides one day I had a friend in college who out the porn and and he basically assumed dude who cares I I’ll throw the porn away when I get married I’m getting married in a few months then you can have sex whenever you want it’s all good and I went to his wedding beautiful wedding and the guy was divorced in 3 months all that he did was transfer the fantasies of lust from the porn onto his brother and the marriage is done as soon as it began so if you think you’re going to get married as a guy and you have the porn ask yourself one question ask yourself dude is my bride’s body is it worth waiting to see or is she frankly not even worth waiting to see because if I can Trash the porn Theon night I’m training myself in faithfulness before I ever even meet that girl you look at the pornography it takes like 20 seconds to look at it then it takes like 20 years to forget what you saw and you as a guy could imagine imagine if your future wife is at home from school right now she’s on the computer she gets an email to and invite her to visit some pornographic website of guys I would imagine you would pray that she would have the strength just to delete it imagine you’re carrying your wife into the honeymoon suite for your wedding night and she’s got her arms locked around your neck and she says honey I’m so excited about tonight and you’re like me too me too me too me too walking her in there and she says honey to get ready for you tonight and you’re like uhhuh uh-huh she says honey to get ready for you tonight she says I’ve been looking at thousands of pages of naked men on the internet you’d be like you know they yeah babe you know maybe waited all life but you don’t you sort have to wait with your eyes and that’s what it comes down to if I can’t say no to sex what’s my yes even worth having come with me from San Diego is my fiance christalina so please give her a warm welcome come on up H good morning everyone okay now I’m coming from a completely different angle than Jason here when I was about a sophomore in high school I had my first series ious relationship and after a while of dating we thought we were in love and everything was great and slowly we started to get very physical and slowly the pressure started to set into the relationship and he said well girl if you really love me if you truly love me you’d prove it to me you’d show me just how much you love me so I needed advice so I went to my girlfriend’s and I said Well he kind of wants to do this with me and he wants to do that and they said well if you aren’t doing this with him and if you aren’t doing that with him then I mean well what’s wrong with you everybody’s doing it you love him right and I thought well yeah I love him they said well then what’s the problem so at the age of 15 I lost my virginity thinking it was going to cause this huge great emotional bond between us we are going to be on cloud n and so in love and in all actuality it eventually destroyed any love in the relationship and all respect was just thrown thr out the window because if I couldn’t even respect my own body how is he supposed to respect it and after a while of dating it seemed like he didn’t want to spend time with me anymore he was basically spending the time with my body now when a girl is being used she knows it she knows it in the depths of her heart she may deny it she may ignore it but she knows it and I knew it and after a while we were constantly fighting he was cheating on me and we broke up and went our separate ways now I will never forget the day when he walked away from me for the very last time and as he walked away from me all I could think about was that guy’s taking something with him that never belonged to him in the first place but I can’t get it back right what’s the point it’s already gone so there I was in the cafeteria talking with my girlfriends and I came to this conclusion okay if a guy can date me for about 6 months without sleeping with me then he must love me then I’ll sleep with him and I think now six months six months is the price that I put on my body if he gives me just a little bit of that time and just a little bit of that attention that’s the definition of love and I carried this mentality all through high school he was the first guy that I slept with but he wasn’t the last because it starts a vicious cycle and after a while I was pretty deep into it now I’m not standing up here pointing my finger at you guys saying you guys you’re the problem no I happen to believe that you guys will be as much of a gentleman as we ladies require now I wasn’t acting like a lady back then nor dressing like a lady back then therefore they didn’t feel the need to rise up and act like a gentleman around me and what happens sometimes is that girls will give gu sex for the sake of getting the love from them and guys will give girls the love for the sake of getting the sex from the girls and it can go both ways now with this lifestyle I got into the party I got into the drinking I got into the clubbing you name it I was into it and granted at the time yeah I thought it was a lot of fun it was very attractive and I know what that’s like but I also know what it’s like to wake up the next day when that party’s over when those friends are gone and when I was there by myself and I remember waking up thinking I can’t believe I did that last night I hope I don’t have to see his face in the hallway at school on Monday what if he tells everybody what we did last night what if I’m pregnant what am I going to tell my mom what if I have a disease now what am I going to do all of these things constantly going through my head and the night before my friends would always say to me oh it’s all fun and games don’t worry about it it’s not a big deal but I can promise you and stand up here today and say the next morning the fun and games was over and I woke up hating myself and I woke up with nothing but disgust and regret and I knew deep in my heart it wasn’t worth it there was a girl that came up to me after one of our talks and she said you know during the talk I was thinking all the hooking up with guys all the going to the parties doing this and that she goes I realized I was just a prostitute who wasn’t getting paid and it hit her it hit her heart now after a while of living this lifestyle my mother had an idea what was going on in my life most parents have an idea what’s going on in your lives as much as I thought I was fooling my mother I was really fooling myself and she came up to me one day and she said crystalina there’s a talk on relationships this weekend and you’re going to it I said a sex talk are you kidding me I’m not going to go listen to some dork talk about sex thanks but no thanks she said no you’re going I don’t care if you like it or not and I thought fine okay I’ll go to her little talk I’ll sit in the very back of the room for 15 minutes and I’m out of there I have a party to go to I have friends to see I don’t have time and in that 15 minutes that I sat there my life was changed there was a guy who was very honest blunt and real he talked about all of the girls all of the sex all the pornography all of the party he he had been into and he just laid it out and I felt like that guy he had grabbed my hand out of the audience and he walked through my life like he could see the things I was most ashamed of and hiding and I thought well what’s the difference he’s done the same exact things I’ve done and I just watched him and he just had this peace This Joy and this confidence that he carried about himself that I didn’t see that in my friends I didn’t see that in the places I went to and I definitely didn’t see that in the guys I was dating and I wanted it but he had one quality above all of them that I wanted more than anything he wasn’t ashamed of himself I sat in my seat trying to figure out one day that I hadn’t been ashamed of myself after i’ started Living that lifestyle I couldn’t find one a single day of just true peace and joy not worried what I had done prior that night prior that weekend prior that month never any peace always worried and I realized in that moment I needed to get my standards out of the gutter and raise them as high as I possibly could and I needed to start respecting my body for once and I went home that night and I wrote down every single thing that I done which was a lot and it was very overwhelming then I wrote down everything this guy had said to me and I put it in an envelope and I hid it in my bedroom because I knew that weekend that Temptation was going to be there and I can promise each and every one of you those Temptations will always be there and sure enough that weekend there was that party there were my friends there were those guys and I ran to that letter and it was a very harsh reminder what was there waiting for me and I didn’t do it again instead I wrote another letter and every single time I was tempted to go back to that lifestyle I would read my old letters and write a new one so now I have this huge stack of letters of all of the NOS that I’ve said in my life now Jason here has waited 27 years for his future bride in two weeks we’re getting married I can’t stand up here and say on those Friday nights on those weekends I was out partying with my friends I held myself back for love of him that I was respecting my body for Love of my future husband because I wasn’t and that’s a lie and I can stand up here and I can look in your eyes in your eyes all of your eyes but every day for the rest of my natural life I will look into those eyes and it tears me up that I allowed someone to Rob him of the gift that was meant solely for him and no other now Jason knows everything I’ve done in my past he knows it all and he accepts it at all but he loves me for the person that I have become and that’s what matters most but when I turned my life around a lot of my friends they didn’t get it they thought it was some big joke they just constantly made fun of me they’re like well what do you approved now what do you do good for us what’s your problem they just couldn’t get it and they were just constantly making fun of me and I went home one day and I told someone what was going on and the best advice they could give me was oh don’t worry about it just ignore it you’re doing the right thing well I tell you today if anyone makes fun of you for living out a lifestyle of Chastity of purity of respecting your body and you get made fun of for that you remember it you remember every single word they say to you go home make a book of it write it all down because when you stand in front of your bride or in front of your husband on your wedding day you tell me where is the last after where is the mockery who is going to be making fun of you then nobody there will be complete silence in that place on that day and any of those people that made fun of you would pay a million bucks to be in your shoes and when you stand up there you will say I will honor you and I will cherish you all the days of my life well today’s the day of my life and today right now is the day of your lives so keep that in mind and take it to heart because your lives are going to be so much more than these four walls in this high school and it’s going to go way and far beyond that for those of you in the audience that are virgins I have the utmost respect for you and I think that is just awesome and don’t ever be ashamed of that but be proud of that because I know plenty of people who would love to trade places with you and I am one of them for those of you in the audience that have made past mistakes I don’t care where you’ve been I don’t care care what you’ve done because frankly I’ve been there and I’ve done that and it is never too late to start over there was a girl in Philadelphia that came up to me after one of our talks and it turns out she had slept with 15 guys in the past three months now you know you know the names her school had for her the label that they called her that girl she is a [ __ ] and that’s all she’s ever going to be and I asked her I said why are you doing this to yourself she said oh it’s fun you go to parties you hook up you know it’s fun and I said is it really fun and for once someone took this poor girl seriously she said look no it’s not fun she was my parents are going through a divorce right now the minute I walk into my home there’s nothing but hurt and hate and just for the moment when those guys hold me it Feels Like Love even though I know it’s not at least I feel like somebody wants me that girl is not a [ __ ] she’s not a this she’s not a that she’s has a heart identical to yours and to mine and ultimately all that we want is love so if it’s too late for her to start over then it’s too late for me to start over and frankly it is never too late for anyone to start over I don’t care who you are where you’ve been what you’ve done it doesn’t matter all that matters now is where you go from here now later on in the talk I’ll give you a couple means and ways that you can actually live this lifestyle out thank you [Applause] now now as you could probably imagine how grateful I am that she started waiting for me and she was afraid if she left those guys who were cheating on her were physically abusing her emotionally abusing her she was afraid if she left them she’d miss out on love but the only way we would have missed out on love is if she stayed with these guys who love sex more than they loved her just staying in these relationships blindly hoping it’s going to improve but she had that respect to step out and when I met this girl she was free she wasn’t just available she was free confident independent Pure Mature it was just wildly attractive and I think with girls girls long for love everyone wants love but I think sometimes a girl may want love so much she can shoot herself in the foot and happens different ways like one way is like if a girl goes from relationship to relationship to relationship and never sits still my brother and I we were kids we play this game called lava right you take all the cushions off the couch and you like throw them on the floor and you have to jump from cushion to cushion you jump on a cushion you jump on the cat you jump on a cushion yeah you still play okay uh and you know and you you can’t step between or like you die and unfortunately some girls date like that where they go from boy to boy to boy to boy to Boy by the time the girl gets to she has no clue who she is because she’s defined her whole identity by the boy she’s been clinging to for emotional security maybe she confuses their physical physical affection with love maybe she’s looking for love her dad never gave her but either way a girl needs to find her independence as a woman then she can receive even give the kind of love that she’s been longing for but the number one way from a guy’s perspective that girls ruin their chances of getting real intimacy is if a girl thinks that dressing modestly is a joke I’ll admit I’m a guy I don’t know the pressure you girls under look and eat and dress a certain way I mean we were watching TV a while back and a Barbie doll commercial came on so I was like dude I have to get that Barbie so I went to the store and got the Barbie shut up yeah I’ve got issues now this is this is I don’t remember her name it was like botox collagen silicone Barbie or something but um you know girls are told from the ages of like three and up you know behold Womanhood you know you too can be a woman okay just eat three croutons a day all right you dress like a collection of body parts and grow you’re going to find love and so what what does every beer commercial every billboard basically tell women about their bodies it basically tells girls like you know you you know you’re too fat you know you you’re too too skinny you know you you’re too fat and too skinny you’re a real piece of work just constantly constantly girls are told your body is trash hate your body five minutes later they tell you worship your body and during that confusion and a girl’s sincere desire to find love and be be found beautiful she may look at Cosmo and 17 magazine thinks that’s a cute outfit maybe if I dress like that I’ll meet a nice guy and maybe we’ll find love well it sounds like it makes sense but what happens is this if we we guys are very visual when it comes to sexual and if we see a girl walking down the street dressed like this you know let’s say she’s got one of those new short skirts they have that you could mistake for a wide belt you know what I’m talking about you know they’re like belly buttons sticking out and their tops made of like Saran Wrap or whatever this is and spaghetti straps and we see her walking down the street we think that she’s trying to tell us like hey boys the greatest thing about me is my body and we’ll look at her and we’ll be like uh I agree you know that’s nice body but if her sexual value is the first thing that draws me to a woman I might think that that’s the best thing she has to offer forget her friends and her dreams and her family I want to get to know the body and a guy might say or do whatever necessary to get access to her body and if she gives him access thinking oh maybe he’ll like me more usually what happens is the guy loses respect because he and he gets bored he moves on and and she’s left there thinking well maybe if I’d been skinnier he would have liked me more maybe if I’d done more with him sexually he would have stayed longer he might have stayed longer but he would have used her longer but Heart’s Made For Better kind of love that and guys get used too we all know the pressures go both ways but with modesty I’m I’m not saying like girls you know I want you to look as ugly as physically possible you know I don’t want you girls like show up at your prom like with this you know this huge dress on and your boyfriend sees you he’s like modesty you know you know you know girl you’re looking good there in your shapeless plaid ankle length jumper you know hey you know that’s that’s a nice potato sack you know stay home I mean modesty does not mean a girl tries to look ugly it doesn’t dampen down your lure modesty means a girl takes the beauty of Womanhood and uses it to teach men about her dignity because I tell you I never knew how to treat a girl till I dated one in college who dressed modestly and it was captivating because you could take her seriously as a woman cuz she wasn’t trying to constantly make boys gawk her body so she’d feel secure and she had a good figure she could have dress like hey boys check it out but the way she dressed said like hey boys frankly I’m worth waiting to see and under that humility was something radiant you could not get bored with cuz that girl had that deeper reverence for herself by the way a girl dresses by the way a girl dances you can tell if she wants you to treat her like a gentleman or not and as Christina said a guy will be as much of a gentleman as a woman requires and I’ll Grant you girls you have the power to turn a guy’s head but you also have the power to turn a guy’s heart all the belly button shirts that are out there I beg you from as a guy not to wear the belly button shirts because a guy’s belly button is very different than a girl’s belly button okay like guy belly button for one it’s not that exciting I mean there’s probably lint coming out you know just being honest you know we’re we’re in Oakland and I said that at a high school I’m like there’s probably lint coming out I look over there’s a freshman girl over here and she’s like I’m like you’re checking for lint aren’t you and she’s like you know she was she was mortified it was pretty funny but the girl’s belly is different because that area is the womb and is is priceless it’s a treasure it’s a mystery so you Veil what demands the reverence on our wedding day she’s is going to have a veil because she’s dirty no but I’m not going to lift the veil and be like I promise dirty you Veil The Bride cuz she’s Priceless and like and all the belly button shirts if girls if you want a guy to think you’re special that you’re intelligent that you’re worth respecting showing us your belly button won’t help because we guys are so visual and I’ll Grant you girls you know it’s so hard as a guy to to be pure nowadays with our thoughts we need your help guys don’t like to ask for help you ever drive with a guy who’s like lost I mean he’ll drive to to South America before he finds the convenience store because he doesn’t it’s a it’s a pride thing likewise with Purity but we have to back down we just say girls we need your help on this it is so hard for us to stay pure and girls I know when you go to the stores It’s probably hard to find pure outfits I know two girls in Arizona I just read this in the newspaper they show up at the department store to get their prom dress this spring they show up and they they were just couldn’t find anything so they went home all frustrated and they wrote a letter to the department store and they had 1,400 100 of their friends sign it all teenage girls sign this petition and the letter said this for 1400 girls said look we are sick of you carrying these dresses that have slits up to our armpits they said we are sick of just the low cut the belly button the back everything they go why don’t you start carrying some dresses that treat us girls with class instead of all this trash how about leaving something for the imagination little mystery little modesty 1400 girls signed it they submitted it to the department store and the manager called back the girls and said hi this is Mr so and St from the Department Store he said uh if your girls are interested we’d like to hire you as the fashion consultants for teenage design for our department store so you’re in charge of all the fashions that come in the girls have power in this to shape the way that the whole world looks at women so tap into that now I mean I’ll put Barbie away for now whoa sorry she’s okay she’s still smiling uh but you know but you know girls you know it’s funny lately is we have to do all this traveling and they’ve got all this increased airport security so we have to go through the X-ray machines right uh and my little labtop case I have to carry like a Barbie doll I’ve got like a blonde wig back here and you got to go through the X-ray machines which is really Pleasant and we were going through Chicago there’s this guy sitting there and we go through the X-ray I put the bag on it starts to get sucked through here’s the guy behind the X-ray he’s like you know and he’s like huh and then he pauses it his friend’s over here doing a little wand xray and he’s like hey come here and his friend’s like comes over he’s like check it out’s like Tink tin Tink his friend’s like I’m like okay back to security you know and they press play comes out and I’m like just give me my bag and I give my Barbie and I go to grab it and they’re both staring at me what do you say to them do you say oh the Barbie the wig yeah I need that for work kind of work do you do you freak you know but they let me on the plane so that was cool but girls say well Jason if I can’t dress sexy how am I going to make a guy like me I mean can I can I flirt with boys and I think it depends what you mean by flirt because it means different stuff like for me when I was in second grade if I liked a girl I’d throw a rock at her you know it’s just you know she’s hot you know you know I’ll making progress her wels are going down but then girls do it different like all y’all girls in here flirted like this in the fourth grade don’t even tell me you didn’t you’d see a cute guy and youd be like oh he’s so cute and you get with your friends like oh he’s so cute what should we do and your friend’s like oh I know let’s give him a note oh that’s good a note yes you know you know you know you rip out a sheet of loose leaf paper you know get your crayons your sparkly markers your girls have like oh do you like my friend Chen NE you know yes no or maybe it’s like a survey you give a cray he’s got to fill it out yeah then what happens is your girls got to seventh grade got a little more sophisticated with it you’d see a cute guy in seventh grade and all you girls would be like oh he’s so cute and you get oh he’s so C what should we do and your friend’s like uh I know let’s give him a note and your friend like so immature you’re not slow you’re special you know and they be like and the other girl will be like oh oh I know I know I know how about when you’re leaving class I’ll shove you into him oh that’s good shove me in him yeah yeah yeah some of you still doing this that’s okay that’s all right you know just just just one day at a time that’s fine um you’re not slow you’re special uh but um but you you you guys see the girls hitting each other and laughing the reason why women think this is so funny is cuz this is what girls talk about when they go to public bathrooms with 30 of them at a time into the bathroom they have couches in there they I mean they’ve got like drawing boards you shove them into this Locker all come around the back then what happens is a girl gets to high school culture basically tells girls first high school girls look you’ve got something the guys like better than notes better getting shoved into you’ve got your body you can give it to a guy guys will like you more so the girl begins with this mental okay let me get this straight hooking up and making out different guys at the party that’s not a big deal then she thinks well doing this with a guy it’s not a big deal doing that with a guy it’s not a big deal but so long as they technically stay a version of being good because those girls at school are so much worse than I am so I’m I’m still being good and that’s not a big deal and by the time it’s said and done this girl convinces herself that the Priceless gift of her body it’s not a big deal something starts to die in the girl I read about this guy I think he lived in Texas this dude was sleeping and his dog started barking comes in the backyard and the dog is there barking at a bush in the backyard and the guy’s like what that’s that would be a bush that’s brilliant shut up go to bed he go to sleep dog starts barking at the bush again 15 minutes later guy gets up he’s all mad brought a stick with him into the backyard says come here Pooch smack and the guy actually beats the dog into submission to shut it up from barking at the bush went back to sleep it’s like 2:45 in the morning dog starts freaking out out growling at the bush again the guy threw a fit cocked a gun came into the backyard this guy actually shot and killed the dog in the backyard and went peacefully to sleep then what happened is the robber who was hiding in the bushes got out of the bushes walked over the body of the dead dog came inside this guy’s house apparently killed him in his sleep and robbed everything that he owned and that dog is our conscience and I’ve said to my conscience dude shut up don’t mind I I shouldn’t be doing this with this girl dude shut up don’t mind I shouldn’t be looking at this dude shut up and then I kill the voice do it anyway for the of excitement and I think I’m free I’m not do what my parents want I’m free and then I think dude if I’m so free why am I so empty afterwards all the time this is freedom and it can lead to like a death in a girl says Jason Jason you’ve got cute little stories but look Jason you don’t get it Jason look I’m not a virgin or Jason I had my virginity taken from me or Jason something bad happened to me when I was a little girl and what good guy like you’re all talking about is if I really know any would want a girl like me that’s done all the stuff that I’ve done Jason I am damaged goods it is too late once it is gone it is gone I basically unlovable and the girl just thinks it is simply too late well I will tell you the greatest example of Womanhood and Purity in my life is a friend of mine back home who slept with more men than I can count and one day she said I am tired of this this girl’s life has done a 180 she settled down married to a friend of mine the raising the most beautiful family and I totally look up to this girl she started over crystalina started over I’ve started over now we’re getting married in 11 and a half days not that anyone’s counting uh but with with our wedding coming up we’re setting the foundation for our love together we’re doing different things like number one there’s there’s no way that we’re going to live together before we get married you know to shack up and cohabitate you know how some couples live together they play house for a little while test drive each other then they get married you ever check out what what their divorce rate is in marriage for couples who cohabitate than marry they have a divorce rate of 80% eight out of 10 of them get divorced because they don’t know what makes love work they think you can just test drive each other so we’re not going to shack up number two no way are we going to sleep together before our wedding night if I had sex with crystalina tonight I would be lying to her my body would be saying I give myself totally to you I belong completely to you everything that I’m giving is yours but it’d be a lie I don’t belong to her I’m not her husband even if my intentions were good the Embrace would be a lie a movie came out a while back called Vanilla Sky and in it Tom Cruz sleeps with this girl and after they have sex she says to him she says your body is making promises to me even if you won’t and the Embrace of sex is that promise I give myself completely to you and unless I’m married it’s simply not true and you might be thinking okay Jay look I get okay Jason you shouldn’t use a girl but Jason what if it’s not like that what if it’s not like every time you get together you’re having sex what if you really love each other and you totally agree that you’re ready for this why can’t you have sex I’d say step back what is love love means you do what is best for your beloved and I ask you is it best for christalina to wake up tomorrow morning thinking am I going to be two weeks pregnant on our wedding day is my mom going to find out am I going to get disease am I getting used is it best for a girl to put her through these fears it never is so why are we abstinent it’s not because we’re afraid of pregnancy or disease it’s because of love it is so simple because love can wait to give but lust cannot wait to get and if you’re in a sexually active relationship you can take the the sex out and you can see if there’s love there we did this where we were in Michigan speaking of this huge public high school and there’s a thousand freshman and a thousand sophomores the Juniors and seniors weren’t at the talk and so after the talk that I’m hanging out with some students in the front and a senior runs into the auditorium and he’s all mad and he’s like and he’s running through he’s like dude it comes up to the front and he’s like dude who told my girlfriend all about secondary Purity and I said me he comes up and he’s like dude and like what’s the problem and he said dude it turns out he was a senior and his girlfriend was a freshman he was one of these older guys who didn’t have enough social skills to date a girl his own age so he runs after the younger ones you know but I’m sure that only happens in Michigan um but you know but what’s the deal what’s the deal with the older guy younger girl thing how come older girls almost never go for younger guys the reason is this girls mature faster than guys do I’m I’m sure you girls are thinking H wow thanks for the Revelation but think about it look at a 14-year-old girl 14-year-old girl is sitting at home and she’s thinking I want a relationship where we can just talk about our friends and our family we can communicate about our feelings and yep yep yep yep yep yep okay good look at a 14-year-old guy 14-year-old guy is sitting home and he’s like you know I can make noises with my armpit this is cool you know I mean we’re just different so a 14-year-old girl can get bored with a 14-year-old guy but Along Comes Mr High School guy to the Junior High girl Mr senior to the sophomore freshman Mr college guy to the high school girl and immediately the girl says oh my goodness this is exciting he’s older than me he’s a little more mature and he likes me this is exciting little does she know that the younger girl is the more naive she is to have heard the lines that he has to give her lines like this baby girl I love you so much I’ve never felt this way when I was with any girl ever before and you know I’m a guy in all my Temptations but you know I don’t want to pressure you to do anything sexually that you’re not ready for because I want it to be for the sake of love and she thinks oh he’s so loving littleit as she realized the guy will physically take from her everything she’s willing to give him he’s not leading her to Purity he’s wearing it down he might even give her like a promise ring a promise ring is like a little pacifier you know you pop a pacifier and a kid mouth he thinks has a real thing going on and an older guy might give a girl a promise ring so she thinks any sexual stuff they do together is more special because she got a little bling bling thing going on and this does not mean that all promis rings are bad it doesn’t mean that all older guys are bad but if he’s as good as you think he is how come some girl his own age hasn’t snatched them up by now older guys know that younger girls are less likely to refuse them because the girls want to win the older guy’s approval but to step back and so this senior runs into the auditorium he’s all mad I said what’s the problem and he goes well he said I just saw my girlfriend in the hallway and she looked all happy and I said where you been the last hour and she said oh enjoying my new Purity so I came in here to see what the heck happened to her and I said well well you can sleep with her again just marry her one day and he’s like and I go well isn’t she worth waiting for and he goes no it is the love test and Only When Love is put to the test can its value be seen so have the courage to apply it how can you actually live this life lifestyle out a couple of things the first and foremost for those of you that are in a sexually active relationship to take the sex out and really see what your relationship is based upon because if you take this sex out it will give you the clarity of mind to step back and say okay is this love or is this lust are they using me do they really love me what’s going on and really put your love in the light and see what it’s made of because if you take the sex out and you end up fighting and arguing you end up breaking up you’re probably better off without that person to begin with but if you guys end up staying together what Peace of Mind knowing that that person is in it for you and not what you’re giving them that they love you as a person and not what you’re doing with them that is peace of mind right there so to have the guts and courage to take it out and see what it’s made of the second thing right now Jason and I we’re training ourselves in faithfulness Chastity trains you in that faithfulness because one day when we’re married I’m just going to be nine months pregnant ready to go and Jason is going to be at work and he might have some cute little hot secretary now do you think the same Temptations won’t be there just because he has a ring on his f finger of course not they’re still going to be there but the thing is he’s trained himself in faithfulness now so within marriage he can be all the more faithful to me so to train yourselves in faithfulness and I know a lot of you are dating right now and realize most of you right now is dating someone else’s future spouse to go guard that person protect that person as you would want your future spouse guarded and protected in the same exact way now when you date someone to raise your standards high and I know a lot of people say raise your standards high when I say that never have to lower yourself to date anyone and I know a lot of people do that and you know when you do that but to keep your standards High because everyone in this room no matter where you’ve been what you’ve done you are worth waiting for and you deserve the best and if that person doesn’t want to wait for you or they’re always pressing you this or that frankly they’re not they don’t they’re not worth you and you deserve better than that so to set your standards [Applause] high where’ he go from here I’d say girls take off after school go to a shopping mall buy a white candle let your husband light that on your wedding night as a sign of the Purity that you’ve maintain from this day until the day that he lifted your Veil and if you’ve made some mistakes it is never too late we were at this High School this guy was talking and it was hilarious he calls the guys up he said guys he goes raise your hands if you guys want to marry a virgin and all the players and all the jock yeah I want a married virgin yeah yeah every all the guys had their hands up he’s like okay he said keep your hands up and every’s like yeah yeah and he goes ladies I want you to look at the guys and the guy’s like uh oh and they said oh girls look at the guys and and anytime and next time any of those guys pressures you to do anything sexually I want you to remind them how important Purity is to them and the guy’s like oh and he’s like no keep your hands up keep your hands up to realize that Purity is attractive and you might be thinking Jason look I’m not a virgin anymore but ask yourself am I just a date or am I a soulmate am I just a for now girl or my forever girl it’s never too late I know a girl who got abducted in Texas a guy did disgusting things to her when he was done with her he threw her in a latrine in Southern California construction worker came looking latrine the girl’s updo neck shivering in the human waist and they looked down there said my God who could do this to a little girl they lower a guy fireman in there to pull her out she sees him coming down she was scared to death started to take the human w throwing it at the guy say just don’t touch me just leave me here she’d been so hurt she didn’t know who to trust and she wanted to literally live in the sewer and some of us have been so hurt maybe through sexual mistakes that we think it is just too late just leave me here but I stick my hands out and I say girl it is never too late you still deserve the real kind of love so girl get up guys where do you go from here guys I would say I I did a poll of 1,400 girls at a high school and I I I had them vote on how many of them thought if a guy practiced chassity in high school that that would be undeniably attractive 1,400 of the 1400 girls said yes it is undeniably attractive it’s tough we’re at this high school they have the best high school basketball team in the country and after the talk the center of the basketball team comes up to me he’s like 6′ 10 he walks up to me and he’s like you know can we talk in the back and I’m like yes sir yes and went back summer I said what’s going on and he goes honestly man he goes I’ve been with so many girls he goes I’ve done so much stuff and he goes I knew every time I was killing her but she you wanted it I wanted it half time you’re drunk so you just blame it on the beard but he goes dude how do you start over when you’ve been where I’ve been he goes how do you how I want to learn faithfulness before I meet my wife I don’t want to give her all my memories diseases baggage he goes I want to give her a clean heart how do you get that when you’ve been where I’ve been and I said dude start you’ve already started you have that will to love her that’s where Purity starts in your heart not from your body I said it’s hard but I said you ever watch a wrestling match in high school and if you’re wrestling and if you get the back of your opponent’s head you can direct his body wherever you want it to go I said it’s the same with Purity if you can get control the way you think about girls you’ll change the way you talk about them you’ll change the way you treat them and he said he goes like dude he was like man that makes sense but Manny goes dude it’s so hard in the pasture of the moment just to stop and I said dude you know from Sports your body will do what you tell it to I said imagine you’re married and with your wife in bed at the most pleasurable exciting moment of your entire life and the house caught on fire what would you say would you be like oh no it’s too powerful ah I can’t I can’t say no to sex we’re going to die no you’d get your Snow White butt out of bed save the kids get on the front lawn cuz your body will do what you tell it to so don’t wait for the girl to stop but the greater respon feeling responsibility you have for her the more real love there is and I will grant you this lifestyle is hard we made these little abstinence commitment cards it’s sort of like an ATM card but you you can’t get any money out of it sort of like mine uh but you can sign it you can date it my friend got one of these in high school met him in college and he was in high school yeah I’ll save myself my bride that’s cool signs at dates put in his wallet got to my college and met my friend Jenny they fell in love they started dating they got engaged walking down the street and his card falls out of his wallet he’s like and she’s like what’s that he’s like nothing give it to me and she’s like no she runs off and she goes oh a purity pledge card and he’s like yeah and she goes I sign one of those in high school too he’s like for real she digs into her purse pulls out her card they put him next to each other they had signed the same type of card on the same year of the same month on the same day years before they ever met now this isn’t a coupon for a husband but it’s a good place to start so we got a bunch of on the last thing one of the last things we want to leave with you guys is we’re going to offer your school something called a pure love Club it’s Chassy it’s not like an abstinence bereavement group you know you like get together at lunch and you’re like did you have sex you know no do you have sex you know no let’s hug you know it’s this is basically we’re raising up an army around the country of people spreading this message through their schools and if you’re watching the video you can go to our website and find the guidelines for the club there questions and all the materials and stuff that we gave out are going to be there on that website also now we’ve been able to explain certain things today but the one thing I know we can’t explain to you honestly is the peace and the joy that come from Chastity it’s worth more than all the pleasures of the world and there’s so much peace and that Purity will be your superglue you will have romance without regret and you can fall in love for the right reasons you guys have been an awesome audience we love you very much have a wonderful life [Applause] thank I Jason take you crystalina take you crystalina to be my wife to be my wife I promise to be true to you I promise to be true to you in good times in good times and in bad and in bad in sickness in sickness and in heal and in heal I will love you I will love you and honor you honor you all the days of my life all the days of my life and you repeat after me christalina I christalina I crystalina take you Jason take you Jason to be my husband to be my husband I promise to be true to you I promise to be true to you in good times in good times and in bad and in bad in sickness in sickness and in heals and in health I will love you I will love you and honor you and honor you all the days of my life all the days of my life it up [Applause] [Music] [Applause] we hope you got a lot out of the talk and we wanted to invite you to check out our website www.p purlove club.net if you have questions about any of the statistics I provided during the talk the answers are on .

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0.56 I thought it was going to be one of
0.56 those long lectures and you&;ll fall
0.56 asleep but I was intrigued the whole
0.56 time like it just touched me all the
0.56 stories and everything no I actually
0.56 expected it to be like really boring and
0.56 well when I first came here I&;m like
0.56 guest speakers is probably going to be
0.56 you know all bunk and everything but it
0.56 was much more I don&;t know to our levels
0.56 I thought it&;d be really boring but I
0.56 thought it was really good it actually
0.56 it changed my way of thinking I expected
0.56 some lady to kind of just talk to us
0.56 about how sex is bad and great gr and
0.56 dirty and everything like that but they
0.56 were really honest I didn&;t expect
0.56 people to be that open with people they&;
0.56 never met in their life and I guess the
0.56 honesty made you believe it more
0.56 honestly I thought it was going to be
0.56 boring and uh not too much action so I
0.56 thought like I knew it all but it turns
0.56 out that there&;s always so much more you
0.56 can learn it was awesome I don&;t know I
0.56 thought it would be kind of boring and
0.56 just the same old type of talk where
0.56 they just rattle on you about it but
0.56 well I came here thinking that if sucked
0.56 I was leaving in 15
0.56 minutes uh and I&;m going to leave here
0.56 just being totally amazed at these
0.56 people I don&;t know it&;s just like a lot
0.56 of my friends that I know like it hit
0.56 all of us basically and I just want to
0.56 thank them for like doing such a good
0.56 talk cuz it just it touched me so much
0.56 and I can&;t even express how much how
0.56 much my life is going to turn around
0.56 after this
0.56 [Applause]
0.56 welcome everybody to our talk this
0.56 morning our speakers this morning Jason
0.56 Everett and christalina padila they come
0.56 to you from San Diego California and I
0.56 would like you to welcome our guest
0.56 speakers this morning Jason and
0.56 christalina Jason take it
0.56 away thank
0.56 you thank you guys
0.56 thank you guys uh to get started I need
0.56 a guy volunteer from the audience I need
0.56 a big guy big big okay you&;re pretty big
0.56 okay come on down yeah that&;ll work come
0.56 on down give him a
0.56 hand come on up
0.56 [Music]
0.56 here there you
0.56 go now what&;s your name Luke Luke good
0.56 to meet you Luke everybody say hi Luke
0.56 hi
0.56 Luke now uh now now Luke Luke do you
0.56 know what the uh the talk is on today
0.56 it&;s on Chastity yeah I&;d say it&;s a sex
0.56 talk today so uh since Luke since this
0.56 is a sex talk uh we&;ve got to cover
0.56 certain issues like how far it&;s too far
0.56 to go with a girl on a date you know and
0.56 stuff like that so what Luke and I are
0.56 going to do is is Luke and I he and I
0.56 are actually going to show you guys how
0.56 far is too far to go on a date okay now
0.56 now and in order to do this I&;m going to
0.56 be the guy Luke is going to be the girl
0.56 okay now now now Luke Luke&;s not a very
0.56 pretty girl but that&;s okay that&;s
0.56 that&;s a good thing that&;s a good thing
0.56 but but we can change that so we&;ll get
0.56 Luke prettied up a little bit so why
0.56 don&;t you throw this
0.56 on that&;s yeah there you go that&;s the
0.56 front it&;s a little it&;s a little nappy
0.56 you&;ll be
0.56 pretty there you
0.56 go that&;s frightening now now uh now
0.56 I&;ve uh I&;ve actually never dated anyone
0.56 named uh named Luke before so we&;re
0.56 going to give you a name change and uh
0.56 your name is g to be Shen okay so now
0.56 Shen and I we decideed to go for a date
0.56 so we go for a date at the Grand Canyon
0.56 like right here and I start thinking to
0.56 myself well how far do you think I get
0.56 my beloved shenan to the edge of the
0.56 Grand Canyon without actually throwing
0.56 him off the Grand Canyon him her it
0.56 whatever but uh sorry but there&;s only
0.56 one way we can find out how far I can
0.56 get to that edge so I&;ve got to pick you
0.56 up into my arms
0.56 okay so hold on to this hold on to me
0.56 hold on
0.56 [Applause]
0.56 tight now now how far how far can we get
0.56 to the edge can we go further that&;s far
0.56 enough okay all right take a seat give
0.56 him a hand good job Luke thank you bud
0.56 you
0.56 know
0.56 now good
0.56 man now now what&;s the point of that
0.56 whole deal point of that is basically
0.56 this that none of us guys would take a
0.56 girl who we love to a dangerous place
0.56 and say well how close can I get to
0.56 killing her you know usually we don&;t
0.56 ask but when I was in high school we&;d
0.56 always ask in our relationship well how
0.56 far can you go I mean should we do this
0.56 together should we do that together and
0.56 in my high school they&;d give us the sex
0.56 talk but every time they gave us a sex
0.56 talk all it was about was like guilt or
0.56 fear it&; be they&;d get up there and
0.56 they&;d be like sex is bad sex is dirty
0.56 poo poo poo poo or they&;d be like you
0.56 know you&;re gonna die sex is gonna kill
0.56 you you know and they try to scare the
0.56 pants off you or pants back on you if
0.56 that be the case but it was all about
0.56 fear they all they try to do is scare us
0.56 they&;d sit you down and they talked you
0.56 about gharia but they never sat us down
0.56 and said now here&;s the difference
0.56 between love and lust here&;s how you
0.56 know when you really love a girl and
0.56 here&;s how you know when you&;re getting
0.56 used they never made that stuff clear to
0.56 us so I remember I was in high school I
0.56 hooked up with this one girl and we were
0.56 doing all sorts of stuff and she stops
0.56 me and she&;s like Jason you&;re not going
0.56 to leave me like other guys are you and
0.56 I was like
0.56 ah no and she&;s like oh you&;re so sweet
0.56 and I was like okay all right anyway and
0.56 uh whatever and we did different things
0.56 then we came up to that line and I had
0.56 to ask myself okay you know should I
0.56 lose my virginity to this girl and I
0.56 thought well do I love her and I thought
0.56 well I&;ve known her I&;ve known her for
0.56 three days I&;m like just love and I
0.56 could hear in the back of my heart this
0.56 voice that just said Jason this gift is
0.56 not for her that that gift is for your
0.56 bride please wait for her and we cooled
0.56 things down we went her separate ways I
0.56 hooked up with another girl came right
0.56 up to the line and then the same voice
0.56 Jason this gift is not for her that gift
0.56 is for my bride please wait for her and
0.56 we cool things off and so to this day
0.56 I&;m still a virgin and I&;m as happy as
0.56 can be and most people think that by the
0.56 time you get in your 20s like I&;m going
0.56 to die of virginity or something I&;m
0.56 going to start having like virginity
0.56 conniption fits or something you know
0.56 like you know abstinence is very good
0.56 you know I&;m sorry I get Twitches from
0.56 virginity you know but you should really
0.56 stay I&;ll start foaming at the mouth
0.56 from virginity and you know I I&;ll just
0.56 I&;ll explode and die here you know Luke
0.56 will be like whoa you
0.56 know what happened to the sex guy and
0.56 you&;re like oh you didn&;t hear he was a
0.56 virgin that&;ll kill you forget about it
0.56 the virginity is not lethal I was at the
0.56 airport the other day and I saw this
0.56 magazine I had a had to pick it up here
0.56 was called complete woman magazine all
0.56 right just a splendid periodical
0.56 subscriber okay uh and
0.56 uh and so this this guy&;s in here
0.56 they&;re talking about sex and this guy
0.56 says quote he said sex is extremely
0.56 important to me when I&;m in a
0.56 relationship it&;s essential and fact a
0.56 year ago I felt compelled to break up
0.56 with a woman I really loved because we
0.56 didn&;t have sex enough the lack of sex
0.56 nearly killed me H so apparently he&;s
0.56 rushed to the hospital for lack of sex
0.56 or something but this is what we&;re
0.56 basically told that if you&;re not having
0.56 sex something&;s wrong with you maybe
0.56 you&;re dropped on your head as a baby or
0.56 something but then they say but if you
0.56 have had sex it&;s too late for you
0.56 anyway we hear this Con constantly and I
0.56 know some of you are virgins and I know
0.56 some of you you are not virgins and
0.56 frankly I don&;t care what happened last
0.56 weekend last month last year I mean it&;s
0.56 in the past and I mean I care but it&;s
0.56 what&;s happened has happened for those
0.56 of you who are virgins I say good for
0.56 you because people who get married as
0.56 virgins have a divorce rate that&;s 60 to
0.56 70% lower than those who won&;t wait for
0.56 marriage now some of you are thinking
0.56 well Jason look I&;m not a virgin anymore
0.56 or Jason I had my virginity taken from
0.56 me does that mean I&;m going to have a
0.56 mess upop marriage if you&;re like me
0.56 you&;re so sick of the whole divorce
0.56 thing I was just over to high school in
0.56 Washington after the talk of Junior
0.56 comes up to me and he goes Jay goes I
0.56 know what you mean about divorce he said
0.56 Jason my dad is on his ninth marriage
0.56 High School junior had seen his dad get
0.56 eight divorces now in La I live in San
0.56 Diego up the coast in La there are
0.56 jewelry stores in La where you can rent
0.56 wedding rings you don&;t have to buy him
0.56 anymore because they know you&;re just
0.56 going to dump your wife you might as
0.56 well save some money in the whole
0.56 exchange I found that out because I had
0.56 to go shopp and recently CU crystaline
0.56 and I got engaged a couple months back
0.56 which is a pretty cool deal so thank you
0.56 very much so but uh you know
0.56 we&;re but we&;re also sick of the whole
0.56 divorce thing so it starts to make a bit
0.56 of sense but what about everything that
0.56 comes before sex can you do this on date
0.56 can you do that easiest way to figure it
0.56 out is this we&;re at this High School in
0.56 Chicago the end of the talk we did a Q&A
0.56 guy raised his hand and he goes okay
0.56 Jason he says your talk was fun he said
0.56 but can we get specific I said well sure
0.56 he goes goes I want to know exactly how
0.56 far I can go with my girlfriend I said
0.56 well that&;s a good question what do you
0.56 want to do with her and he was
0.56 like uhoh I said yeah okay I said well
0.56 we&;re not in third grade we can be
0.56 specific mature what do you want to do
0.56 he&;s like cool he&;s like can we do this
0.56 and this and this and this and this he
0.56 goes through this list of sexual favors
0.56 and I said well okay well slow down pick
0.56 one pick
0.56 one and he&;s like um okay he goes I got
0.56 he goes oral sex can we do that on a
0.56 date and I said I&;m going to have you
0.56 answer your own question and he&;s like
0.56 oh good and I said well you know I said
0.56 you know do you want to get married one
0.56 day and he&;s like yeah I&;m going to get
0.56 married one day I said that&;s cool so I
0.56 said so if you&;re going to get married
0.56 one day I said that means that your
0.56 future wife your future bride she&;s out
0.56 there somewhere right now isn&;t she and
0.56 for the first time in his 17-year life
0.56 he thought about his future wife and he
0.56 said yeah she&;s out there cool cool and
0.56 I said but let&;s say she doesn&;t live
0.56 here in Chicago let&;s say she lives
0.56 where I live in San Diego school&;s just
0.56 getting out right now so she&;s coming
0.56 home from class with her boyfriend who&;s
0.56 a guy that you are never going to meet
0.56 and he&;s got his arm around your future
0.56 bride and he&;s
0.56 saying baby
0.56 girl I love you so much I&;m always going
0.56 to be here for you your eyes are so
0.56 beautiful and she&;s like oh you&;re so
0.56 sweet and he walks her home and he sits
0.56 her down on his couch and he&;s like hey
0.56 baby girl you feeling fine cuz you
0.56 looking fine you know she&;s like stop
0.56 stop stop and I said to the guy I was
0.56 like dude I go you know what&;s going on
0.56 on that couch don&;t you and he was like
0.56 yeah and I go that guy I said that guy
0.56 he&;s emotionally manipulating your
0.56 future bride and giving him oral sex
0.56 trying to make her think that if she
0.56 gives him that he&;ll like her more when
0.56 he&;s just using her more I go does that
0.56 bug you and the guy was like o gross um
0.56 no I don&;t care and I was like really
0.56 doesn&;t bugy at all he looked at the
0.56 floor and he&;s like no I don&;t care I
0.56 don&;t care I don&;t care I go what if it
0.56 was going on right now as we speak that
0.56 guy doing that with the woman who kiss
0.56 your children good night does it bother
0.56 you the guy was like guy next to him in
0.56 class was like I&;d be picked off and the
0.56 guy like see it&;s pretty easy if you
0.56 don&;t want some guy going there with
0.56 your future wife it&;s a good place to
0.56 draw the line as well and this is not a
0.56 condemnation of any of us it&;s a calling
0.56 to all of us of a better and a deeper
0.56 kind of love and I&;m not going to stand
0.56 up here in front of you guys and say you
0.56 men in the audience you guys have to be
0.56 like me cuz it&;s a joke it&;s a lie if
0.56 you&;re a guy and I&;m guy we&;re identical
0.56 look in your heart same thing as mine
0.56 there&;s this desire to lust after girls
0.56 but then there&;s this desire to properly
0.56 love a girl at the same time and there
0.56 is attention but I want you girls to
0.56 realize the guys you&;re sitting next to
0.56 we&;ve all been lied to about manhood
0.56 we&;re supposed to learn it from our dads
0.56 but a lot of us guys haven&;t seen our
0.56 dad since we were three some of us see
0.56 our dads every day of the week but we
0.56 hardly even know the guy no matter what
0.56 our relationship is with him we we&;ve
0.56 been lied to it some point in the locker
0.56 room dude if you want to be a man today
0.56 dude you got to get some from the girls
0.56 cuz if you get some with ladies dude
0.56 you&;re the man but think about it get
0.56 some from a girl getting some sounds
0.56 like a couple of like seventh graders
0.56 and they sneak into a convenience store
0.56 and they shoplift like Jolly Rancher
0.56 candies you know and they&;re
0.56 like you know and then they then like
0.56 run into the parking lot they like you
0.56 know they run funny because they&;re all
0.56 disproportioned because of puberty
0.56 they&;re
0.56 like you their feet are too big and
0.56 their Knuckles drag and then you know
0.56 they get into the parking lot and then
0.56 they hide behind a dumpster they pull
0.56 the candy out and they&;re like I got a
0.56 red one and a grape one wh a grape one
0.56 did you get some did you get some and
0.56 you notice the same mentality dude you
0.56 get some with that chick dude you
0.56 sexually conquered that girl because if
0.56 you emptied of her innocence you robbed
0.56 her of Purity dude you&;re the man
0.56 because you empti the girl and we know
0.56 that this is totally missing the point
0.56 of manhood I don&;t get my manhood by
0.56 emptying a girl I get my manhood by
0.56 denying myself for love of a girl but
0.56 how is a guy supposed to sacrifice
0.56 himself for a girl well to be honest the
0.56 reason honestly why I always always
0.56 confused love with lust in high school
0.56 is because the influence in my life back
0.56 then of the pornography and the thing is
0.56 is that when the teenage girls find out
0.56 that teenage guys struggle with the
0.56 pornography it&;s not that the girls are
0.56 all mad at us they just feel sorry for
0.56 us that we can&;t relate to women in a
0.56 more interesting way because as a guy
0.56 the pornography as a guy is the perfect
0.56 way for a guy to shoot his future
0.56 marriage in the head because it trains
0.56 me that girls their things abused for my
0.56 kicks she&;s got to be constantly
0.56 sexually available physically Flawless
0.56 and when you get done boor lusting after
0.56 you go to the next fantasy and it&;s no
0.56 big deal at all because you can judge
0.56 the value of a Woman by how much lust
0.56 she generates in me and we would laugh
0.56 it off and I&;m sure there&;s some guys in
0.56 the audience in their heads right now
0.56 they&;re thinking dude whatever I got
0.56 some porn on the internet I got some Max
0.56 and magazine it&;s not a problem I&;m not
0.56 getting anyone pregnant and while he
0.56 laughingly tries to think it&;s not a
0.56 problem almost desperately try to
0.56 convince himself what happens to a young
0.56 guy is he gets emasculated emasculation
0.56 means when a young man is robbed of the
0.56 ability to be masculine and pornography
0.56 flips that backwards so we men learn to
0.56 sacrifice and empty the girls for the
0.56 sake of ourselves and we miss the whole
0.56 point of manhood and in high school we
0.56 would totally laugh it off we&;re like
0.56 dude who cares I&;m not getting anyone
0.56 pregnant it&;s all good it&;s not I&;m not
0.56 killing it I&;m not hurting anyone we&;d
0.56 have no clue what we were looking at you
0.56 know Pamela Anderson the big supermodel
0.56 for uh you know out in Los Angeles you
0.56 know when she first posed for Playboy
0.56 the limo drove her to the pornographic
0.56 Studios they did all her makeup up she
0.56 dis robed and she started crying she
0.56 finally pulled herself together they
0.56 redid the makeup around her eyes and
0.56 they took the nude photos that when
0.56 you&;re looking at porn you&;re not
0.56 looking into some naked body you&;re
0.56 looking at the corpse of a woman&;s heart
0.56 but we would laugh it off saying dude
0.56 I&;m not hurting anyone we don&;t realize
0.56 how much we&;re hurting ourselves you
0.56 know Maxim magazine it&;s a new smudy
0.56 magazine they have for guys you know
0.56 Maxim magazine has paid computer
0.56 companies up to 20,000 bucks a pop to
0.56 generate fake cover models I&;m not
0.56 saying she&;s airbrushed her legs are
0.56 fake her face is fake fake her breast is
0.56 fake the whole B woman is completely
0.56 computer generated so we as guys are
0.56 trained to expect our wives to live up
0.56 to this impossibly perfect fantasy and
0.56 where does this leave our Brides one day
0.56 I had a friend in college who out the
0.56 porn and and he basically assumed dude
0.56 who cares I I&;ll throw the porn away
0.56 when I get married I&;m getting married
0.56 in a few months then you can have sex
0.56 whenever you want it&;s all good and I
0.56 went to his wedding beautiful wedding
0.56 and the guy was divorced in 3 months all
0.56 that he did was transfer the fantasies
0.56 of lust from the porn onto his brother
0.56 and the marriage is done as soon as it
0.56 began so if you think you&;re going to
0.56 get married as a guy and you have the
0.56 porn ask yourself one question ask
0.56 yourself dude is my bride&;s body is it
0.56 worth waiting to see or is she frankly
0.56 not even worth waiting to see because if
0.56 I can Trash the porn Theon night I&;m
0.56 training myself in faithfulness before I
0.56 ever even meet that girl you look at the
0.56 pornography it takes like 20 seconds to
0.56 look at it then it takes like 20 years
0.56 to forget what you saw and you as a guy
0.56 could imagine imagine if your future
0.56 wife is at home from school right now
0.56 she&;s on the computer she gets an email
0.56 to and invite her to visit some
0.56 pornographic website of guys I would
0.56 imagine you would pray that she would
0.56 have the strength just to delete it
0.56 imagine you&;re carrying your wife into
0.56 the honeymoon suite for your wedding
0.56 night and she&;s got her arms locked
0.56 around your neck and she says honey I&;m
0.56 so excited about tonight and you&;re like
0.56 me too me too me too me too walking her
0.56 in there and she says honey to get ready
0.56 for you tonight and you&;re like uhhuh
0.56 uh-huh she says honey to get ready for
0.56 you tonight she says I&;ve been looking
0.56 at thousands of pages of naked men on
0.56 the internet you&;d be like you know they
0.56 yeah babe you know maybe waited all life
0.56 but you don&;t you sort have to wait with
0.56 your eyes and that&;s what it comes down
0.56 to if I can&;t say no to sex what&;s my
0.56 yes even worth having come with me from
0.56 San Diego is my fiance christalina so
0.56 please give her a warm welcome come on
0.56 up
0.56 H good morning everyone okay now I&;m
0.56 coming from a completely different angle
0.56 than Jason here when I was about a
0.56 sophomore in high school I had my first
0.56 series ious relationship and after a
0.56 while of dating we thought we were in
0.56 love and everything was great and slowly
0.56 we started to get very physical and
0.56 slowly the pressure started to set into
0.56 the relationship and he said well girl
0.56 if you really love me if you truly love
0.56 me you&;d prove it to me you&;d show me
0.56 just how much you love me so I needed
0.56 advice so I went to my girlfriend&;s and
0.56 I said Well he kind of wants to do this
0.56 with me and he wants to do that and they
0.56 said well if you aren&;t doing this with
0.56 him and if you aren&;t doing that with
0.56 him then I mean well what&;s wrong with
0.56 you everybody&;s doing it you love him
0.56 right and I thought well yeah I love him
0.56 they said well then what&;s the problem
0.56 so at the age of 15 I lost my virginity
0.56 thinking it was going to cause this huge
0.56 great emotional bond between us we are
0.56 going to be on cloud n and so in love
0.56 and in all actuality it eventually
0.56 destroyed any love in the relationship
0.56 and all respect was just thrown thr out
0.56 the window because if I couldn&;t even
0.56 respect my own body how is he supposed
0.56 to respect it and after a while of
0.56 dating it seemed like he didn&;t want to
0.56 spend time with me anymore he was
0.56 basically spending the time with my body
0.56 now when a girl is being used she knows
0.56 it she knows it in the depths of her
0.56 heart she may deny it she may ignore it
0.56 but she knows it and I knew it and after
0.56 a while we were constantly fighting he
0.56 was cheating on me and we broke up and
0.56 went our separate ways now I will never
0.56 forget the day when he walked away from
0.56 me for the very last time and as he
0.56 walked away from me all I could think
0.56 about was that guy&;s taking something
0.56 with him that never belonged to him in
0.56 the first place but I can&;t get it back
0.56 right what&;s the point it&;s already gone
0.56 so there I was in the cafeteria talking
0.56 with my girlfriends and I came to this
0.56 conclusion okay if a guy can date me for
0.56 about 6 months without sleeping with me
0.56 then he must love me then I&;ll sleep
0.56 with him and I think now six months six
0.56 months is the price that I put on my
0.56 body if he gives me just a little bit of
0.56 that time and just a little bit of that
0.56 attention that&;s the definition of love
0.56 and I carried this mentality all through
0.56 high school he was the first guy that I
0.56 slept with but he wasn&;t the last
0.56 because it starts a vicious cycle and
0.56 after a while I was pretty deep into it
0.56 now I&;m not standing up here pointing my
0.56 finger at you guys saying you guys
0.56 you&;re the problem no I happen to
0.56 believe that you guys will be as much of
0.56 a gentleman as we ladies require now I
0.56 wasn&;t acting like a lady back then nor
0.56 dressing like a lady back then therefore
0.56 they didn&;t feel the need to rise up and
0.56 act like a gentleman around me and what
0.56 happens sometimes is that girls will
0.56 give gu sex for the sake of getting the
0.56 love from them and guys will give girls
0.56 the love for the sake of getting the sex
0.56 from the girls and it can go both ways
0.56 now with this lifestyle I got into the
0.56 party I got into the drinking I got into
0.56 the clubbing you name it I was into it
0.56 and granted at the time yeah I thought
0.56 it was a lot of fun it was very
0.56 attractive and I know what that&;s like
0.56 but I also know what it&;s like to wake
0.56 up the next day when that party&;s over
0.56 when those friends are gone and when I
0.56 was there by myself and I remember
0.56 waking up thinking I can&;t believe I did
0.56 that last night I hope I don&;t have to
0.56 see his face in the hallway at school on
0.56 Monday what if he tells everybody what
0.56 we did last night what if I&;m pregnant
0.56 what am I going to tell my mom what if I
0.56 have a disease now what am I going to do
0.56 all of these things constantly going
0.56 through my head and the night before my
0.56 friends would always say to me oh it&;s
0.56 all fun and games don&;t worry about it
0.56 it&;s not a big deal but I can promise
0.56 you and stand up here today and say the
0.56 next morning the fun and games was over
0.56 and I woke up hating myself and I woke
0.56 up with nothing but disgust and regret
0.56 and I knew deep in my heart it wasn&;t
0.56 worth it there was a girl that came up
0.56 to me after one of our talks and she
0.56 said you know during the talk I was
0.56 thinking all the hooking up with guys
0.56 all the going to the parties doing this
0.56 and that she goes I realized I was just
0.56 a prostitute who wasn&;t getting paid and
0.56 it hit her it hit her heart now after a
0.56 while of living this lifestyle my mother
0.56 had an idea what was going on in my life
0.56 most parents have an idea what&;s going
0.56 on in your lives as much as I thought I
0.56 was fooling my mother I was really
0.56 fooling myself and she came up to me one
0.56 day and she said crystalina there&;s a
0.56 talk on relationships this weekend and
0.56 you&;re going to it I said a sex talk are
0.56 you kidding me I&;m not going to go
0.56 listen to some dork talk about sex
0.56 thanks but no thanks she said no you&;re
0.56 going I don&;t care if you like it or not
0.56 and I thought fine okay I&;ll go to her
0.56 little talk I&;ll sit in the very back of
0.56 the room for 15 minutes and I&;m out of
0.56 there I have a party to go to I have
0.56 friends to see I don&;t have time and in
0.56 that 15 minutes that I sat there my life
0.56 was changed there was a guy who was very
0.56 honest blunt and real he talked about
0.56 all of the girls all of the sex all the
0.56 pornography all of the party he he had
0.56 been into and he just laid it out and I
0.56 felt like that guy he had grabbed my
0.56 hand out of the audience and he walked
0.56 through my life like he could see the
0.56 things I was most ashamed of and hiding
0.56 and I thought well what&;s the difference
0.56 he&;s done the same exact things I&;ve
0.56 done and I just watched him and he just
0.56 had this peace This Joy and this
0.56 confidence that he carried about himself
0.56 that I didn&;t see that in my friends I
0.56 didn&;t see that in the places I went to
0.56 and I definitely didn&;t see that in the
0.56 guys I was dating and I wanted it but he
0.56 had one quality above all of them that I
0.56 wanted more than anything he wasn&;t
0.56 ashamed of himself I sat in my seat
0.56 trying to figure out one day that I
0.56 hadn&;t been ashamed of myself after i&;
0.56 started Living that lifestyle I couldn&;t
0.56 find one a single day of just true peace
0.56 and joy not worried what I had done
0.56 prior that night prior that weekend
0.56 prior that month never any peace always
0.56 worried and I realized in that moment I
0.56 needed to get my standards out of the
0.56 gutter and raise them as high as I
0.56 possibly could and I needed to start
0.56 respecting my body for once and I went
0.56 home that night and I wrote down every
0.56 single thing that I done which was a lot
0.56 and it was very overwhelming then I
0.56 wrote down everything this guy had said
0.56 to me and I put it in an envelope and I
0.56 hid it in my bedroom because I knew that
0.56 weekend that Temptation was going to be
0.56 there and I can promise each and every
0.56 one of you those Temptations will always
0.56 be there and sure enough that weekend
0.56 there was that party there were my
0.56 friends there were those guys and I ran
0.56 to that letter and it was a very harsh
0.56 reminder what was there waiting for me
0.56 and I didn&;t do it again instead I wrote
0.56 another letter and every single time I
0.56 was tempted to go back to that lifestyle
0.56 I would read my old letters and write a
0.56 new one so now I have this huge stack of
0.56 letters of all of the NOS that I&;ve said
0.56 in my life now Jason here has waited 27
0.56 years for his future bride in two weeks
0.56 we&;re getting married I can&;t stand up
0.56 here and say on those Friday nights on
0.56 those weekends I was out partying with
0.56 my friends I held myself back for love
0.56 of him
0.56 that I was respecting my body for Love
0.56 of my future husband because I wasn&;t
0.56 and that&;s a lie and I can stand up here
0.56 and I can look in your eyes in your eyes
0.56 all of your eyes but every day for the
0.56 rest of my natural life I will look into
0.56 those eyes and it tears me up that I
0.56 allowed someone to Rob him of the gift
0.56 that was meant solely for him and no
0.56 other now Jason knows everything I&;ve
0.56 done in my past he knows it all and he
0.56 accepts it at all but he loves me for
0.56 the person that I have become and that&;s
0.56 what matters most but when I turned my
0.56 life around a lot of my friends they
0.56 didn&;t get it they thought it was some
0.56 big joke they just constantly made fun
0.56 of me they&;re like well what do you
0.56 approved now what do you do good for us
0.56 what&;s your problem they just couldn&;t
0.56 get it and they were just constantly
0.56 making fun of me and I went home one day
0.56 and I told someone what was going on and
0.56 the best advice they could give me was
0.56 oh don&;t worry about it just ignore it
0.56 you&;re doing the right thing
0.56 well I tell you today if anyone makes
0.56 fun of you for living out a lifestyle of
0.56 Chastity of purity of respecting your
0.56 body and you get made fun of for that
0.56 you remember it you remember every
0.56 single word they say to you go home make
0.56 a book of it write it all down because
0.56 when you stand in front of your bride or
0.56 in front of your husband on your wedding
0.56 day you tell me where is the last after
0.56 where is the mockery who is going to be
0.56 making fun of you
0.56 then nobody there will be complete
0.56 silence in that place on that day and
0.56 any of those people that made fun of you
0.56 would pay a million bucks to be in your
0.56 shoes and when you stand up there you
0.56 will say I will honor you and I will
0.56 cherish you all the days of my life well
0.56 today&;s the day of my life and today
0.56 right now is the day of your lives so
0.56 keep that in mind and take it to heart
0.56 because your lives are going to be so
0.56 much more than these four walls in this
0.56 high school and it&;s going to go way and
0.56 far beyond that for those of you in the
0.56 audience that are virgins I have the
0.56 utmost respect for you and I think that
0.56 is just awesome and don&;t ever be
0.56 ashamed of that but be proud of that
0.56 because I know plenty of people who
0.56 would love to trade places with you and
0.56 I am one of them for those of you in the
0.56 audience that have made past mistakes I
0.56 don&;t care where you&;ve been I don&;t
0.56 care care what you&;ve done because
0.56 frankly I&;ve been there and I&;ve done
0.56 that and it is never too late to start
0.56 over there was a girl in Philadelphia
0.56 that came up to me after one of our
0.56 talks and it turns out she had slept
0.56 with 15 guys in the past three months
0.56 now you know you know the names her
0.56 school had for her the label that they
0.56 called her that girl she is a [ __ ] and
0.56 that&;s all she&;s ever going to be and I
0.56 asked her I said why are you doing this
0.56 to yourself she said oh it&;s fun you go
0.56 to parties you hook up you know it&;s fun
0.56 and I said is it really fun and for once
0.56 someone took this poor girl seriously
0.56 she said look no it&;s not fun she was my
0.56 parents are going through a divorce
0.56 right now the minute I walk into my home
0.56 there&;s nothing but hurt and hate and
0.56 just for the moment when those guys hold
0.56 me it Feels Like Love even though I know
0.56 it&;s not at least I feel like somebody
0.56 wants me that girl is not a [ __ ] she&;s
0.56 not a this she&;s not a that she&;s has a
0.56 heart identical to yours and to mine and
0.56 ultimately all that we want is love so
0.56 if it&;s too late for her to start over
0.56 then it&;s too late for me to start over
0.56 and frankly it is never too late for
0.56 anyone to start over I don&;t care who
0.56 you are where you&;ve been what you&;ve
0.56 done it doesn&;t matter all that matters
0.56 now is where you go from here now later
0.56 on in the talk I&;ll give you a couple
0.56 means and ways that you can actually
0.56 live this lifestyle out thank you
0.56 [Applause]
0.56 now now as you could probably imagine
0.56 how grateful I am that she started
0.56 waiting for me and she was afraid if she
0.56 left those guys who were cheating on her
0.56 were physically abusing her emotionally
0.56 abusing her she was afraid if she left
0.56 them she&;d miss out on love but the only
0.56 way we would have missed out on love is
0.56 if she stayed with these guys who love
0.56 sex more than they loved her just
0.56 staying in these relationships blindly
0.56 hoping it&;s going to improve but she had
0.56 that respect to step out and when I met
0.56 this girl she was free she wasn&;t just
0.56 available she was free confident
0.56 independent Pure Mature it was just
0.56 wildly attractive and I think with girls
0.56 girls long for love everyone wants love
0.56 but I think sometimes a girl may want
0.56 love so much she can shoot herself in
0.56 the foot and happens different ways like
0.56 one way is like if a girl goes from
0.56 relationship to relationship to
0.56 relationship and never sits still my
0.56 brother and I we were kids we play this
0.56 game called lava right you take all the
0.56 cushions off the couch and you like
0.56 throw them on the floor and you have to
0.56 jump from cushion to cushion you jump on
0.56 a cushion you jump on the cat you jump
0.56 on a cushion yeah you still play okay uh
0.56 and you know and you you can&;t step
0.56 between or like you die and
0.56 unfortunately some girls date like that
0.56 where they go from boy to boy to boy to
0.56 boy to Boy by the time the girl gets to
0.56 she has no clue who she is because she&;s
0.56 defined her whole identity by the boy
0.56 she&;s been clinging to for emotional
0.56 security maybe she confuses their
0.56 physical physical affection with love
0.56 maybe she&;s looking for love her dad
0.56 never gave her but either way a girl
0.56 needs to find her independence as a
0.56 woman then she can receive even give the
0.56 kind of love that she&;s been longing for
0.56 but the number one way from a guy&;s
0.56 perspective that girls ruin their
0.56 chances of getting real intimacy is if a
0.56 girl thinks that dressing modestly is a
0.56 joke I&;ll admit I&;m a guy I don&;t know
0.56 the pressure you girls under look and
0.56 eat and dress a certain way I mean we
0.56 were watching TV a while back and a
0.56 Barbie doll commercial came on so I was
0.56 like dude I have to get that Barbie so I
0.56 went to the store and got the Barbie
0.56 shut
0.56 up yeah I&;ve got issues now this is this
0.56 is I don&;t remember her name it was like
0.56 botox collagen silicone Barbie or
0.56 something but um you know girls are told
0.56 from the ages of like three and up you
0.56 know behold Womanhood you know you too
0.56 can be a woman okay just eat three
0.56 croutons a day all right you dress like
0.56 a collection of body parts and grow
0.56 you&;re going to find love and so what
0.56 what does every beer commercial every
0.56 billboard basically tell women about
0.56 their bodies it basically tells girls
0.56 like you know you you know you&;re too
0.56 fat you know you you&;re too too skinny
0.56 you know you you&;re too fat and too
0.56 skinny you&;re a real piece of work
0.56 just constantly constantly girls are
0.56 told your body is trash hate your body
0.56 five minutes later they tell you worship
0.56 your body and during that confusion and
0.56 a girl&;s sincere desire to find love and
0.56 be be found beautiful she may look at
0.56 Cosmo and 17 magazine thinks that&;s a
0.56 cute outfit maybe if I dress like that
0.56 I&;ll meet a nice guy and maybe we&;ll
0.56 find love well it sounds like it makes
0.56 sense but what happens is this if we we
0.56 guys are very visual when it comes to
0.56 sexual
0.56 and if we see a girl walking down the
0.56 street dressed like this you know let&;s
0.56 say she&;s got one of those new short
0.56 skirts they have that you could mistake
0.56 for a wide belt you know what I&;m
0.56 talking about you know they&;re like
0.56 belly buttons sticking out and their
0.56 tops made of like Saran Wrap or whatever
0.56 this is and spaghetti straps and we see
0.56 her walking down the street we think
0.56 that she&;s trying to tell us like hey
0.56 boys the greatest thing about me is my
0.56 body and we&;ll look at her and we&;ll be
0.56 like uh I agree you know that&;s nice
0.56 body but if her sexual value is the
0.56 first thing that draws me to a woman I
0.56 might think that that&;s the best thing
0.56 she has to offer forget her friends and
0.56 her dreams and her family I want to get
0.56 to know the body and a guy might say or
0.56 do whatever necessary to get access to
0.56 her body and if she gives him access
0.56 thinking oh maybe he&;ll like me more
0.56 usually what happens is the guy loses
0.56 respect because he and he gets bored he
0.56 moves on and and she&;s left there
0.56 thinking well maybe if I&;d been skinnier
0.56 he would have liked me more maybe if I&;d
0.56 done more with him sexually he would
0.56 have stayed longer he might have stayed
0.56 longer but he would have used her longer
0.56 but Heart&;s Made For Better kind of love
0.56 that and guys get used too we all know
0.56 the pressures go both ways but with
0.56 modesty I&;m I&;m not saying like girls
0.56 you know I want you to look as ugly as
0.56 physically possible you know I don&;t
0.56 want you girls like show up at your prom
0.56 like with this you know this huge dress
0.56 on and your boyfriend sees you he&;s like
0.56 modesty you know you
0.56 know you know girl you&;re looking good
0.56 there in your shapeless plaid ankle
0.56 length jumper you know hey you know
0.56 that&;s that&;s a nice potato sack you
0.56 know stay home I mean modesty does not
0.56 mean a girl tries to look ugly it
0.56 doesn&;t dampen down your lure modesty
0.56 means a girl takes the beauty of
0.56 Womanhood and uses it to teach men about
0.56 her dignity because I tell you I never
0.56 knew how to treat a girl till I dated
0.56 one in college who dressed modestly and
0.56 it was captivating because you could
0.56 take her seriously as a woman cuz she
0.56 wasn&;t trying to constantly make boys
0.56 gawk her body so she&;d feel secure and
0.56 she had a good figure she could have
0.56 dress like hey boys check it out but the
0.56 way she dressed said like hey boys
0.56 frankly I&;m worth waiting to see
0.56 and under that humility was something
0.56 radiant you could not get bored with cuz
0.56 that girl had that deeper reverence for
0.56 herself by the way a girl dresses by the
0.56 way a girl dances you can tell if she
0.56 wants you to treat her like a gentleman
0.56 or not and as Christina said a guy will
0.56 be as much of a gentleman as a woman
0.56 requires and I&;ll Grant you girls you
0.56 have the power to turn a guy&;s head but
0.56 you also have the power to turn a guy&;s
0.56 heart all the belly button shirts that
0.56 are out there I beg you from as a guy
0.56 not to wear the belly button shirts
0.56 because a guy&;s belly button is very
0.56 different than a girl&;s belly button
0.56 okay like guy belly button for one it&;s
0.56 not that exciting I mean there&;s
0.56 probably lint coming out you know just
0.56 being honest you know we&;re we&;re in
0.56 Oakland and I said that at a high school
0.56 I&;m like there&;s probably lint coming
0.56 out I look over there&;s a freshman girl
0.56 over here and she&;s
0.56 like I&;m like you&;re checking for lint
0.56 aren&;t you and she&;s like you know she
0.56 was she was mortified it was pretty
0.56 funny but the girl&;s belly is different
0.56 because that area is the womb and is is
0.56 priceless it&;s a treasure it&;s a mystery
0.56 so you Veil what demands the reverence
0.56 on our wedding day she&;s is going to
0.56 have a veil because she&;s dirty no but
0.56 I&;m not going to lift the veil and be
0.56 like I promise dirty you Veil The Bride
0.56 cuz she&;s Priceless and like and all the
0.56 belly button shirts if girls if you want
0.56 a guy to think you&;re special that
0.56 you&;re intelligent that you&;re worth
0.56 respecting showing us your belly button
0.56 won&;t help because we guys are so visual
0.56 and I&;ll Grant you girls you know it&;s
0.56 so hard as a guy to to be pure nowadays
0.56 with our thoughts we need your help guys
0.56 don&;t like to ask for help you ever
0.56 drive with a guy who&;s like lost I mean
0.56 he&;ll drive to to South America before
0.56 he finds the convenience store because
0.56 he doesn&;t it&;s a it&;s a pride thing
0.56 likewise with Purity but we have to back
0.56 down we just say girls we need your help
0.56 on this it is so hard for us to stay
0.56 pure and girls I know when you go to the
0.56 stores It&;s probably hard to find pure
0.56 outfits I know two girls in Arizona I
0.56 just read this in the newspaper they
0.56 show up at the department store to get
0.56 their prom dress this spring they show
0.56 up and they they were just couldn&;t find
0.56 anything so they went home all
0.56 frustrated and they wrote a letter to
0.56 the department store and they had 1,400
0.56 100 of their friends sign it all teenage
0.56 girls sign this petition and the letter
0.56 said this for 1400 girls said look we
0.56 are sick of you carrying these dresses
0.56 that have slits up to our armpits they
0.56 said we are sick of just the low cut the
0.56 belly button the back everything they go
0.56 why don&;t you start carrying some
0.56 dresses that treat us girls with class
0.56 instead of all this trash how about
0.56 leaving something for the imagination
0.56 little mystery little modesty 1400 girls
0.56 signed it they submitted it to the
0.56 department store and the manager called
0.56 back the girls and said hi this is Mr so
0.56 and St from the Department Store he said
0.56 uh if your girls are interested we&;d
0.56 like to hire you as the fashion
0.56 consultants for teenage design for our
0.56 department store so you&;re in charge of
0.56 all the fashions that come in the girls
0.56 have power in this to shape the way that
0.56 the whole world looks at women so tap
0.56 into that now I mean I&;ll put Barbie
0.56 away for now whoa sorry she&;s okay she&;s
0.56 still smiling uh but you know but you
0.56 know girls you know it&;s funny lately is
0.56 we have to do all this traveling and
0.56 they&;ve got all this increased airport
0.56 security so we have to go through the
0.56 X-ray machines right uh and my little
0.56 labtop case I have to carry like a
0.56 Barbie doll I&;ve got like a blonde wig
0.56 back here and you got to go through the
0.56 X-ray machines which is really Pleasant
0.56 and we were going through Chicago
0.56 there&;s this guy sitting there and we go
0.56 through the X-ray I put the bag on it
0.56 starts to get sucked through here&;s the
0.56 guy behind the X-ray he&;s like you
0.56 know and he&;s like huh and then he
0.56 pauses it his friend&;s over here doing a
0.56 little wand xray and he&;s like hey come
0.56 here and his friend&;s like comes over
0.56 he&;s like check it out&;s like Tink tin
0.56 Tink his friend&;s like I&;m like okay
0.56 back to security you know and they press
0.56 play comes out and I&;m like just give me
0.56 my bag and I give my Barbie and I go to
0.56 grab it and they&;re both staring at me
0.56 what do you say to them do you say oh
0.56 the Barbie the wig yeah I need that for
0.56 work kind of work do you do you freak
0.56 you know but they let me on the plane so
0.56 that was cool but girls say well Jason
0.56 if I can&;t dress sexy how am I going to
0.56 make a guy like me I mean can I can I
0.56 flirt with boys and I think it depends
0.56 what you mean by flirt because it means
0.56 different stuff like for me when I was
0.56 in second grade
0.56 if I liked a girl I&;d throw a rock at
0.56 her you know it&;s just you know she&;s
0.56 hot you know you
0.56 know I&;ll making progress her wels are
0.56 going down but then girls do it
0.56 different like all y&;all girls in here
0.56 flirted like this in the fourth grade
0.56 don&;t even tell me you didn&;t you&;d see
0.56 a cute guy and youd be like oh he&;s so
0.56 cute and you get with your friends like
0.56 oh he&;s so cute what should we do and
0.56 your friend&;s like oh I
0.56 know let&;s give him a note oh that&;s
0.56 good a note yes you know you know you
0.56 know you rip out a sheet of loose leaf
0.56 paper you know get your crayons your
0.56 sparkly markers your girls
0.56 have like oh do you like my friend Chen
0.56 NE you
0.56 know yes no or maybe it&;s like a survey
0.56 you give a cray he&;s got to fill it out
0.56 yeah then what
0.56 happens is your girls got to seventh
0.56 grade got a little more sophisticated
0.56 with it you&;d see a cute guy in seventh
0.56 grade and all you girls would be like oh
0.56 he&;s so cute and you get oh he&;s so C
0.56 what should we do and your friend&;s like
0.56 uh I know let&;s give him a note and your
0.56 friend like so immature you&;re not slow
0.56 you&;re special you know and they be like
0.56 and the other girl will be like oh oh I
0.56 know I know I know how about when you&;re
0.56 leaving class I&;ll shove you into him oh
0.56 that&;s good shove me in him yeah yeah
0.56 yeah some of you still doing this that&;s
0.56 okay that&;s all right you know just just
0.56 just one day at a
0.56 time that&;s fine um you&;re not slow
0.56 you&;re special
0.56 uh but
0.56 um but you you you guys see the girls
0.56 hitting each other and laughing the
0.56 reason why women think this is so funny
0.56 is cuz this is what girls talk about
0.56 when they go to public bathrooms with 30
0.56 of them at a time into the
0.56 bathroom they have couches in there they
0.56 I
0.56 mean they&;ve got like drawing boards you
0.56 shove them into this Locker all come
0.56 around the
0.56 back then what
0.56 happens is a girl gets to high school
0.56 culture basically tells girls first high
0.56 school girls look you&;ve got something
0.56 the guys like better than notes better
0.56 getting shoved into you&;ve got your body
0.56 you can give it to a guy guys will like
0.56 you more so the girl begins with this
0.56 mental okay let me get this straight
0.56 hooking up and making out different guys
0.56 at the party that&;s not a big deal then
0.56 she thinks well doing this with a guy
0.56 it&;s not a big deal doing that with a
0.56 guy it&;s not a big deal but so long as
0.56 they technically stay a version of being
0.56 good because those girls at school are
0.56 so much worse than I am so I&;m I&;m still
0.56 being good and that&;s not a big deal and
0.56 by the time it&;s said and done this girl
0.56 convinces herself that the Priceless
0.56 gift of her body it&;s not a big deal
0.56 something starts to die in the girl I
0.56 read about this guy I think he lived in
0.56 Texas this dude was sleeping and his dog
0.56 started barking comes in the backyard
0.56 and the dog is there barking at a bush
0.56 in the backyard and the guy&;s like what
0.56 that&;s that would be a bush that&;s
0.56 brilliant shut up go to bed he go to
0.56 sleep dog starts barking at the bush
0.56 again 15 minutes later guy gets up he&;s
0.56 all mad brought a stick with him into
0.56 the backyard says come here Pooch smack
0.56 and the guy actually beats the dog into
0.56 submission to shut it up from barking at
0.56 the bush went back to sleep it&;s like
0.56 2:45 in the morning dog starts freaking
0.56 out out growling at the bush again the
0.56 guy threw a fit cocked a gun came into
0.56 the backyard this guy actually shot and
0.56 killed the dog in the backyard and went
0.56 peacefully to sleep then what happened
0.56 is the robber who was hiding in the
0.56 bushes got out of the bushes walked over
0.56 the body of the dead dog came inside
0.56 this guy&;s house apparently killed him
0.56 in his sleep and robbed everything that
0.56 he owned and that dog is our conscience
0.56 and I&;ve said to my conscience dude shut
0.56 up don&;t mind I I shouldn&;t be doing
0.56 this with this girl dude shut up don&;t
0.56 mind I shouldn&;t be looking at this dude
0.56 shut up and then I kill the voice do it
0.56 anyway for the of excitement and I think
0.56 I&;m free I&;m not do what my parents want
0.56 I&;m free and then I think dude if I&;m so
0.56 free why am I so empty afterwards all
0.56 the time this is freedom and it can lead
0.56 to like a death in a girl says Jason
0.56 Jason you&;ve got cute little stories but
0.56 look Jason you don&;t get it Jason look
0.56 I&;m not a virgin or Jason I had my
0.56 virginity taken from me or Jason
0.56 something bad happened to me when I was
0.56 a little girl and what good guy like
0.56 you&;re all talking about is if I really
0.56 know any would want a girl like me
0.56 that&;s done all the stuff that I&;ve done
0.56 Jason I am damaged goods it is too late
0.56 once it is gone it is gone I basically
0.56 unlovable and the girl just thinks it is
0.56 simply too late well I will tell you the
0.56 greatest example of Womanhood and Purity
0.56 in my life is a friend of mine back home
0.56 who slept with more men than I can count
0.56 and one day she said I am tired of this
0.56 this girl&;s life has done a 180 she
0.56 settled down married to a friend of mine
0.56 the raising the most beautiful family
0.56 and I totally look up to this girl she
0.56 started over crystalina started over
0.56 I&;ve started over now we&;re getting
0.56 married in 11 and a half days not that
0.56 anyone&;s counting uh but with with our
0.56 wedding coming up we&;re setting the
0.56 foundation for our love together we&;re
0.56 doing different things like number one
0.56 there&;s there&;s no way that we&;re going
0.56 to live together before we get married
0.56 you know to shack up and cohabitate you
0.56 know how some couples live together they
0.56 play house for a little while test drive
0.56 each other then they get married you
0.56 ever check out what what their divorce
0.56 rate is in marriage for couples who
0.56 cohabitate than marry they have a
0.56 divorce rate of 80% eight out of 10 of
0.56 them get divorced because they don&;t
0.56 know what makes love work they think you
0.56 can just test drive each other so we&;re
0.56 not going to shack up number two no way
0.56 are we going to sleep together before
0.56 our wedding night if I had sex with
0.56 crystalina tonight I would be lying to
0.56 her my body would be saying I give
0.56 myself totally to you I belong
0.56 completely to you everything that I&;m
0.56 giving is yours but it&;d be a lie I
0.56 don&;t belong to her I&;m not her husband
0.56 even if my intentions were good the
0.56 Embrace would be a lie a movie came out
0.56 a while back called Vanilla Sky and in
0.56 it Tom Cruz sleeps with this girl and
0.56 after they have sex she says to him she
0.56 says your body is making promises to me
0.56 even if you won&;t and the Embrace of sex
0.56 is that promise I give myself completely
0.56 to you and unless I&;m married it&;s
0.56 simply not true and you might be
0.56 thinking okay Jay look I get okay Jason
0.56 you shouldn&;t use a girl but Jason what
0.56 if it&;s not like that what if it&;s not
0.56 like every time you get together you&;re
0.56 having sex what if you really love each
0.56 other and you totally agree that you&;re
0.56 ready for this why can&;t you have sex
0.56 I&;d say step back what is love love
0.56 means you do what is best for your
0.56 beloved and I ask you is it best for
0.56 christalina to wake up tomorrow morning
0.56 thinking am I going to be two weeks
0.56 pregnant on our wedding day is my mom
0.56 going to find out am I going to get
0.56 disease am I getting used is it best for
0.56 a girl to put her through these fears it
0.56 never is so why are we abstinent it&;s
0.56 not because we&;re afraid of pregnancy or
0.56 disease it&;s because of love it is so
0.56 simple because love can wait to give but
0.56 lust cannot wait to get and if you&;re in
0.56 a sexually active relationship you can
0.56 take the the sex out and you can see if
0.56 there&;s love there we did this where we
0.56 were in Michigan speaking of this huge
0.56 public high school and there&;s a
0.56 thousand freshman and a thousand
0.56 sophomores the Juniors and seniors
0.56 weren&;t at the talk and so after the
0.56 talk that I&;m hanging out with some
0.56 students in the front and a senior runs
0.56 into the auditorium and he&;s all mad and
0.56 he&;s like and he&;s running through he&;s
0.56 like dude it comes up to the front and
0.56 he&;s like
0.56 dude who told my girlfriend all about
0.56 secondary Purity and I said me he comes
0.56 up and he&;s like dude and like what&;s
0.56 the problem and he said dude it turns
0.56 out he was a senior and his girlfriend
0.56 was a freshman he was one of these older
0.56 guys who didn&;t have enough social
0.56 skills to date a girl his own age so he
0.56 runs after the younger ones you know but
0.56 I&;m sure that only happens in Michigan
0.56 um but you know but what&;s the deal
0.56 what&;s the deal with the older guy
0.56 younger girl thing how come older girls
0.56 almost never go for younger guys the
0.56 reason is this girls mature faster than
0.56 guys do I&;m I&;m sure you girls are
0.56 thinking H wow thanks for the Revelation
0.56 but think about it look at a 14-year-old
0.56 girl 14-year-old girl is sitting at home
0.56 and she&;s thinking I want a relationship
0.56 where we can just talk about our friends
0.56 and our family we can communicate about
0.56 our feelings and yep yep yep yep yep yep
0.56 okay good look at a 14-year-old guy
0.56 14-year-old guy is sitting home and he&;s
0.56 like you know I can make noises with my
0.56 armpit this is cool you know I mean
0.56 we&;re just different so a 14-year-old
0.56 girl can get bored with a 14-year-old
0.56 guy but Along Comes Mr High School guy
0.56 to the Junior High girl Mr senior to the
0.56 sophomore freshman Mr college guy to the
0.56 high school girl and immediately the
0.56 girl says oh my goodness this is
0.56 exciting he&;s older than me he&;s a
0.56 little more mature and he likes me this
0.56 is exciting little does she know that
0.56 the younger girl is the more naive she
0.56 is to have heard the lines that he has
0.56 to give her lines like this baby girl I
0.56 love you so much I&;ve never felt this
0.56 way when I was with any girl ever before
0.56 and you know I&;m a guy in all my
0.56 Temptations but you know I don&;t want to
0.56 pressure you to do anything sexually
0.56 that you&;re not ready for because I want
0.56 it to be for the sake of love and she
0.56 thinks oh he&;s so loving littleit as she
0.56 realized the guy will physically take
0.56 from her everything she&;s willing to
0.56 give him he&;s not leading her to Purity
0.56 he&;s wearing it down he might even give
0.56 her like a promise ring a promise ring
0.56 is like a little pacifier you know you
0.56 pop a pacifier and a kid mouth he thinks
0.56 has a real thing going on and an older
0.56 guy might give a girl a promise ring so
0.56 she thinks any sexual stuff they do
0.56 together is more special because she got
0.56 a little bling bling thing going on and
0.56 this does not mean that all promis rings
0.56 are bad it doesn&;t mean that all older
0.56 guys are bad but if he&;s as good as you
0.56 think he is how come some girl his own
0.56 age hasn&;t snatched them up by now older
0.56 guys know that younger girls are less
0.56 likely to refuse them because the girls
0.56 want to win the older guy&;s approval but
0.56 to step back and so this senior runs
0.56 into the auditorium he&;s all mad I said
0.56 what&;s the problem and he goes well he
0.56 said I just saw my girlfriend in the
0.56 hallway and she looked all happy and I
0.56 said where you been the last hour and
0.56 she said oh enjoying my new Purity so I
0.56 came in here to see what the heck
0.56 happened to her and I said well well you
0.56 can sleep with her again just marry her
0.56 one day and he&;s like and I go well
0.56 isn&;t she worth waiting for and he goes
0.56 no it is the love test and Only When
0.56 Love is put to the test can its value be
0.56 seen so have the courage to apply it how
0.56 can you actually live this life
0.56 lifestyle out a couple of things the
0.56 first and foremost for those of you that
0.56 are in a sexually active relationship to
0.56 take the sex out and really see what
0.56 your relationship is based upon because
0.56 if you take this sex out it will give
0.56 you the clarity of mind to step back and
0.56 say okay is this love or is this lust
0.56 are they using me do they really love me
0.56 what&;s going on and really put your love
0.56 in the light and see what it&;s made of
0.56 because if you take the sex out and you
0.56 end up fighting and arguing you end up
0.56 breaking up you&;re probably better off
0.56 without that person to begin with but if
0.56 you guys end up staying together what
0.56 Peace of Mind knowing that that person
0.56 is in it for you and not what you&;re
0.56 giving them that they love you as a
0.56 person and not what you&;re doing with
0.56 them that is peace of mind right there
0.56 so to have the guts and courage to take
0.56 it out and see what it&;s made of the
0.56 second thing right now Jason and I we&;re
0.56 training ourselves in faithfulness
0.56 Chastity trains you in that faithfulness
0.56 because one day when we&;re married I&;m
0.56 just going to be nine months pregnant
0.56 ready to go and Jason is going to be at
0.56 work and he might have some cute little
0.56 hot secretary now do you think the same
0.56 Temptations won&;t be there just because
0.56 he has a ring on his f finger of course
0.56 not they&;re still going to be there but
0.56 the thing is he&;s trained himself in
0.56 faithfulness now so within marriage he
0.56 can be all the more faithful to me so to
0.56 train yourselves in faithfulness and I
0.56 know a lot of you are dating right now
0.56 and realize most of you right now is
0.56 dating someone else&;s future spouse to
0.56 go guard that person protect that person
0.56 as you would want your future spouse
0.56 guarded and protected in the same exact
0.56 way now when you date someone to raise
0.56 your standards high and I know a lot of
0.56 people say raise your standards high
0.56 when I say that never have to lower
0.56 yourself to date anyone and I know a lot
0.56 of people do that and you know when you
0.56 do that but to keep your standards High
0.56 because everyone in this room no matter
0.56 where you&;ve been what you&;ve done you
0.56 are worth waiting for and you deserve
0.56 the best and if that person doesn&;t want
0.56 to wait for you or they&;re always
0.56 pressing you this or that frankly
0.56 they&;re not they don&;t they&;re not worth
0.56 you and you deserve better than that so
0.56 to set your standards
0.56 [Applause]
0.56 high where&; he go from here I&;d say
0.56 girls take off after school go to a
0.56 shopping mall buy a white candle let
0.56 your husband light that on your wedding
0.56 night as a sign of the Purity that
0.56 you&;ve maintain from this day until the
0.56 day that he lifted your Veil and if
0.56 you&;ve made some mistakes it is never
0.56 too late we were at this High School
0.56 this guy was talking and it was
0.56 hilarious he calls the guys up he said
0.56 guys he goes raise your hands if you
0.56 guys want to marry a virgin and all the
0.56 players and all the jock yeah I want a
0.56 married virgin yeah yeah every all the
0.56 guys had their hands up he&;s like okay
0.56 he said keep your hands up and every&;s
0.56 like yeah yeah and he goes ladies I want
0.56 you to look at the guys and the guy&;s
0.56 like uh oh and they said oh girls look
0.56 at the guys and and anytime and next
0.56 time any of those guys pressures you to
0.56 do anything sexually I want you to
0.56 remind them how important Purity is to
0.56 them and the guy&;s like oh and he&;s like
0.56 no keep your hands up keep your hands up
0.56 to realize that Purity is attractive and
0.56 you might be thinking Jason look I&;m not
0.56 a virgin anymore but ask yourself am I
0.56 just a date or am I a soulmate am I just
0.56 a for now girl or my forever girl it&;s
0.56 never too late I know a girl who got
0.56 abducted in Texas a guy did disgusting
0.56 things to her when he was done with her
0.56 he threw her in a latrine in Southern
0.56 California construction worker came
0.56 looking latrine the girl&;s updo neck
0.56 shivering in the human waist and they
0.56 looked down there said my God who could
0.56 do this to a little girl they lower a
0.56 guy fireman in there to pull her out she
0.56 sees him coming down she was scared to
0.56 death started to take the human w
0.56 throwing it at the guy say just don&;t
0.56 touch me just leave me here she&;d been
0.56 so hurt she didn&;t know who to trust and
0.56 she wanted to literally live in the
0.56 sewer and some of us have been so hurt
0.56 maybe through sexual mistakes that we
0.56 think it is just too late just leave me
0.56 here but I stick my hands out and I say
0.56 girl it is never too late you still
0.56 deserve the real kind of love so girl
0.56 get up guys where do you go from here
0.56 guys I would say I I did a poll of 1,400
0.56 girls at a high school and I I I had
0.56 them vote on how many of them thought if
0.56 a guy practiced chassity in high school
0.56 that that would be undeniably attractive
0.56 1,400 of the 1400 girls said yes it is
0.56 undeniably attractive it&;s tough we&;re
0.56 at this high school they have the best
0.56 high school basketball team in the
0.56 country and after the talk the center of
0.56 the basketball team comes up to me he&;s
0.56 like 6&; 10 he walks up to me and he&;s
0.56 like you know can we talk in the back
0.56 and I&;m like yes sir yes and went back
0.56 summer I said what&;s going on and he
0.56 goes honestly man he goes I&;ve been with
0.56 so many girls he goes I&;ve done so much
0.56 stuff and he goes I knew every time I
0.56 was killing her but she you wanted it I
0.56 wanted it half time you&;re drunk so you
0.56 just blame it on the beard but he goes
0.56 dude how do you start over when you&;ve
0.56 been where I&;ve been he goes how do you
0.56 how I want to learn faithfulness before
0.56 I meet my wife I don&;t want to give her
0.56 all my memories diseases baggage he goes
0.56 I want to give her a clean heart how do
0.56 you get that when you&;ve been where I&;ve
0.56 been and I said dude start you&;ve
0.56 already started you have that will to
0.56 love her that&;s where Purity starts in
0.56 your heart not from your body I said
0.56 it&;s hard but I said you ever watch a
0.56 wrestling match in high school and if
0.56 you&;re wrestling and if you get the back
0.56 of your opponent&;s head you can direct
0.56 his body wherever you want it to go I
0.56 said it&;s the same with Purity if you
0.56 can get control the way you think about
0.56 girls you&;ll change the way you talk
0.56 about them you&;ll change the way you
0.56 treat them and he said he goes like dude
0.56 he was like man that makes sense but
0.56 Manny goes dude it&;s so hard in the
0.56 pasture of the moment just to stop and I
0.56 said dude you know from Sports your body
0.56 will do what you tell it to I said
0.56 imagine you&;re married and with your
0.56 wife in bed at the most pleasurable
0.56 exciting moment of your entire life and
0.56 the house caught on fire what would you
0.56 say would you be like oh no it&;s too
0.56 powerful ah I can&;t I can&;t say no to
0.56 sex we&;re going to die no you&;d get your
0.56 Snow White butt out of bed save the kids
0.56 get on the front lawn cuz your body will
0.56 do what you tell it to so don&;t wait for
0.56 the girl to stop but the greater respon
0.56 feeling responsibility you have for her
0.56 the more real love there is and I will
0.56 grant you this lifestyle is hard we made
0.56 these little abstinence commitment cards
0.56 it&;s sort of like an ATM card but you
0.56 you can&;t get any money out of it sort
0.56 of like mine uh but you can sign it you
0.56 can date it my friend got one of these
0.56 in high school met him in college and he
0.56 was in high school yeah I&;ll save myself
0.56 my bride that&;s cool signs at dates put
0.56 in his wallet got to my college and met
0.56 my friend Jenny they fell in love they
0.56 started dating they got engaged walking
0.56 down the street and his card falls out
0.56 of his wallet he&;s like and she&;s like
0.56 what&;s that he&;s like nothing give it to
0.56 me and she&;s like no she runs off and
0.56 she goes oh a purity pledge card and
0.56 he&;s like yeah and she goes I sign one
0.56 of those in high school too he&;s like
0.56 for real she digs into her purse pulls
0.56 out her card they put him next to each
0.56 other they had signed the same type of
0.56 card on the same year of the same month
0.56 on the same day years before they ever
0.56 met now this isn&;t a coupon for a
0.56 husband but it&;s a good place to start
0.56 so we got a bunch
0.56 of on the last thing one of the last
0.56 things we want to leave with you guys is
0.56 we&;re going to offer your school
0.56 something called a pure love Club it&;s
0.56 Chassy it&;s not like an abstinence
0.56 bereavement group you know you like get
0.56 together at lunch and you&;re like did
0.56 you have sex you know no do you have sex
0.56 you know
0.56 no let&;s hug you know
0.56 it&;s this is basically we&;re raising up
0.56 an army around the country of people
0.56 spreading this message through their
0.56 schools and if you&;re watching the video
0.56 you can go to our website and find the
0.56 guidelines for the club there questions
0.56 and all the materials and stuff that we
0.56 gave out are going to be there on that
0.56 website also now we&;ve been able to
0.56 explain certain things today but the one
0.56 thing I know we can&;t explain to you
0.56 honestly is the peace and the joy that
0.56 come from Chastity it&;s worth more than
0.56 all the pleasures of the world and
0.56 there&;s so much peace and that Purity
0.56 will be your superglue you will have
0.56 romance without regret and you can fall
0.56 in love for the right reasons you guys
0.56 have been an awesome audience we love
0.56 you very much have a wonderful life
0.56 [Applause]
0.56 thank I Jason take you crystalina take
0.56 you crystalina to be my wife to be my
0.56 wife I promise to be true to you I
0.56 promise to be true to you in good times
0.56 in good times and in bad and in bad in
0.56 sickness in sickness and in heal and in
0.56 heal I will love you I will love you and
0.56 honor you honor you all the days of my
0.56 life all the days of my
0.56 life and you repeat after me
0.56 christalina I christalina I
0.56 crystalina take you Jason take you Jason
0.56 to be my husband to be my husband I
0.56 promise to be true to you I promise to
0.56 be true to you in good times in good
0.56 times and in bad and in bad in sickness
0.56 in sickness and in heals and in health I
0.56 will love you I will love you and honor
0.56 you and honor you all the days of my
0.56 life all the days of my
0.56 life it up
0.56 [Applause]
0.56 [Music]
0.56 [Applause]
0.56 we hope you got a lot out of the talk
0.56 and we wanted to invite you to check out
0.56 our website
0.56 www.p purlove club.net if you have
0.56 questions about any of the statistics I
0.56 provided during the talk the answers are
0.56 on
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